This can be considered from two aspects.
We all say that we should look at things in two ways, that children should listen to them, and that we should look at them from two aspects.
One is to distinguish things, and the other is to look at the interests.
Children are not parents' personal belongings, but individuals with independent thinking ability and independent consciousness. All the starting points depend on whether it is conducive to the growth of children. Parents should fully respect their children's opinions when making arrangements, and then convince people with reason and move people with emotion. We should adopt different methods according to different age stages, so as to get better results.
Parents should not give in when it comes to children's quality, behavior and habits.
On many public occasions, I have seen more than once that some children will do many things that embarrass their parents, such as rolling and crying, when their wishes are not fulfilled. In this case, parents should make their children obey their parents' arrangements. Otherwise, this development, left unchecked, is not conducive to the growth of children.
Therefore, there are still many factors to be considered in desperately demanding that children obey the arrangement, and they cannot be generalized.
Let's talk about the good influence first.
1, teach children to be human. Parents are children's first teachers, and children's every move is deeply influenced by their parents. Parents' attitude towards life will be related to the formation of children's outlook on life and world view.
2. Teach children to obey consciousness. The child is in the growth stage and has not been deeply involved in the world. Obedience consciousness is a necessary factor in future work, study and life. Many times, the world is not based on personal wishes.
3. Teach children to plan rationally. Parents and children have to face many things every day. Listening to parents' arrangements is conducive to coordination and communication. Reasonable planning of emerging and upcoming things is conducive to the efficient completion of things.
The bad influence is also obvious.
1, which makes children lack independent consciousness. Because children are used to being arranged, their subjective initiative is greatly affected. Parents have already made arrangements for the next step or the next step, so there is no need to think for themselves.
2. Let children become dependent. Everyone has to grow up alone, and parents can't accompany their children for life. In the end, they can't solve some problems and situations themselves. For example, the popular word Ma Baonan is a typical example.
3. Make children lack creativity. Today's children are the masters of the future, and the situation they will face in the future is something their parents have never encountered and imagined. How to face the unknown world in the future is indispensable. Today's society is an innovative society, and no routine can solve new problems.
Therefore, such a problem can be summarized and analyzed in one sentence.
But I don't agree with the title "Desperately hope that children will obey the arrangement" because children's independent consciousness and the existence of independent individuals are not fully considered.