Act like you want to be.
Many people always wait until they have a positive feeling before thinking about their actions. These people put the cart before the horse. Positive action will bring positive thinking, and positive thinking will bring positive attitude towards life. Keep your mind on the move. If a person starts with a negative attitude and then waits for feelings to take him to action, he will never become the positive person he wants to be.
Second, we must have a positive idea of winning.
Carnegie, an American billionaire and industrialist, said: "A person who has complete control over his heart will also control anything else he has the right to get." When we begin to adopt a positive attitude and think that we are successful, we begin to succeed.
Whoever wants to reap a successful life must be a good farmer. We can't just sow some positive and optimistic seeds and expect to get something for nothing. We must water these seeds and fertilize the seedlings. If we ignore these negative attitudes, weeds will grow and absorb nutrients from the soil until the crops die. Take care of the vibrant crops and don't water the weeds. As Philippians 4: 8 of the Bible says, "If anyone who is true, respectable, fair, clean, lovely and has a good name has any virtue, if he has anything to boast about, you should think about these things."
Third, influence others with good feelings, confidence and goals.
As your actions and mentality become more positive, you will gradually gain a feeling of a happy life, with stronger confidence and a stronger sense of purpose in life. Then others will be attracted to you, because people always like to be with positive and optimistic people. Use others' positive responses to develop positive relationships and help others acquire this positive attitude.
Everyone I meet feels important and needed.
Everyone is eager to feel their own importance and the needs and gratitude of others. This is the core of our ordinary people's self-awareness. If you can satisfy this desire in others' hearts, they will have a positive attitude towards themselves and you. It has formed a situation of hello, I am good, and everyone is good. As Ralph Waldo Emerson, an American philosopher and poet in the19th century, said, "One of the best compensations in life is that people help themselves after sincerely helping others."
Another advantage of making others feel important is that, in turn, it will make you feel important. In most cases, what you do to others will be done to you, just like the story of two different people moving to the same town.
When the first man arrived in the suburbs, he stopped at a gas station and asked a clerk, "What are the people like in this town?" The gas station staff asked, "What were the people like in the town where you used to live?" The first question and answer: "They are really terrible and unfriendly." So the gas station staff said, "So are the people in our town."
After a while, the second driver drove into the same gas station and asked the clerk the same question: "What are the people like in this town?" The clerk asked again, "What about the town where you used to live?" The second man replied, "They are great and really friendly." The gas station clerk went on to say, "You will find that people in our town are exactly the same."
That clerk knows that your attitude towards others is the same as others' attitude towards you.
feel thankful
In daily life, people with NMA mentality often complain: parents complain that their children are disobedient, children complain that their parents don't understand, boyfriends complain that their girlfriends are not gentle enough, and girlfriends complain that their boyfriends are not considerate enough. At work, leaders often complain that their subordinates are ineffective, while subordinates complain that their superiors don't know enough about themselves and can't give full play to their talents. They always complain about life, not gratitude. Napoleon? Hill thinks that if you cry often, you can't see the stars. If we are grateful for all the good things in life and nature, life will become better.
There is a saying: "A girl cries because she has no shoes until she sees a person without feet." Many things in the world are often that we don't cherish what we have around us, and we regret it when we lose it.
Learn to praise others.
Shakespeare once said, "Praise is the sunshine that shines on people's hearts. We can't grow without sunshine. " Psychologist William? Jerez also said: "The deepest need of human nature is to long for others' appreciation." In the communication between people, praising each other properly will enhance this harmonious, warm and beautiful feeling. The value of your existence will be affirmed, giving you a sense of accomplishment. Churchill once said, "You should praise others as much as possible." Seeking truth from facts, not exaggerated praise, sincere praise instead of hypocritical praise will add a norm to the other party's behavior. At the same time, in order to live up to your praise, he will go all out in these praise places. Praise has an incredible driving force, and sincere praise for others is as moist as spring water in the desert. Many excellent music singers or athletes can shine in their later professional fields, mostly because they participated in singing activities when they were young, performed well and were praised, which stimulated their self-confidence and momentum and triggered their potential.
Therefore, in life and work, we should do the same, replace criticism with encouragement, inspire people's inner motivation with praise, and consciously overcome shortcomings and make up for deficiencies. This is much more effective than complaining and complaining. This will make people have a positive attitude and create a harmonious atmosphere, which is conducive to the success of the cause and the happiness of life. Sincere praise brings happiness and affirmation to the other party, and also allows you to share the joy and happiness of life.
Learn to smile.
Smiling is a patent granted by God, and smiling is a happy expression. Facing a smiling person, you will feel his confidence and friendliness, and at the same time, this confidence and friendliness will also infect you and make you feel confident and friendly to each other. Smile is a meaningful body language. Smiling is saying, "Hello, friend! I like you, I want to see you, and I feel happy with you. " Smiling can encourage each other's self-confidence, and smiling can melt the strangeness and estrangement between people. Of course, this kind of smile must be sincere and heartfelt. As the English proverb says, "A good face is a letter of introduction." Smiling will open the door to friendship for you. If we want to develop good interpersonal relationships and establish a positive attitude, then we must learn to smile.
Look around for the best new ideas.
People with positive attitudes are always looking for the best new ideas. These new ideas can increase the success potential of people with a positive attitude. As the French writer victor hugo said, "Nothing is more powerful than a timely idea."
Some people think that only a genius can have a good idea. In fact, finding good ideas depends on attitude, not ability. An open-minded and creative person will go where he has good ideas. In the process of searching, he won't throw away an idea easily until he thoroughly understands the possible advantages and disadvantages of this idea.
It is said that Thomas, one of the greatest inventors in the world? Some of Edison's outstanding inventions were born while thinking about a failed invention and trying to find additional uses for it.
Give up trivial things
People with a positive attitude will not spend time and energy on small things, because small things will distract them from their main goals and important things. This deviation will occur if one reacts to a trivial matter-making a mountain out of a molehill. The following absurd reactions to trivial matters are worth referring to:
Sweden went to war with Poland in 1654, because the Swedish king found that in an official document, there were only two additional titles after his name and three additional titles after the Polish king's name.
About 900 years ago, a war ravaged the whole of Europe because of the quarrel of barrels.
Someone accidentally spilled water from the glass on the head of Marquis Toler, which led to the Great War between Britain and France.
A little boy threw pebbles at Duke Gruys, which led to the Wasi Massacre and the Thirty Years' War.
Although each of us is unlikely to start a war because of a trivial matter, we can certainly make people around us unhappy because of a trivial matter. Remember, how big a person's heart is, how angry he is about anything.
Cultivate dedication
Albert, a doctor and missionary sent to Africa? Shi Hui Ze said: "The purpose of life is to serve others, but to show the passion and willingness to help others." He realized that the greatest contribution a positive person can make is to give to others. Harry Bliss, the former chairman of General Flour Company, once advised his salespeople: "Forget your sales task and focus on what service you can bring to others." He found that once people concentrate on serving others, they will immediately become more energetic, powerful and irresistible. After all, who can resist a person who tries his best to help him solve the problem?
Bliss said, "I told our salespeople that if they start work every morning thinking' I want to help as many people as possible today' instead of' I want to sell as many goods as possible today', they can find easier and more open ways to deal with buyers and the sales results will be better. Whoever tries his best to help others live happier and more chic will reach the highest level of sales promotion. "
Giving to others has become a way of life. It is impossible to predict the positive results given. Napoleon? Hill once talked about a man named Tussaud? Xun him? The story of Singh people. One day, Singh and a traveling companion were crossing a mountain pass in the high Himalayas when they saw a man lying in the snow. Singh wanted to stop and help the man, but his companion said, "If we take him with us, we will lose our lives."
But Singh can't imagine leaving this man and letting him die in the ice and snow. When his traveling companion said goodbye to him, Singh picked him up and put him on his back. He tried his best to bring the man forward. Gradually, Singh's body temperature warmed his frozen body, and the man came back to life. After a while, the two men walked side by side. When they caught up with their traveling companion, they found him dead-frozen to death.
In this case, Singh willingly gave his life-including his own-to another person, thus saving his life. And his heartless traveling companion only cared about himself, but finally lost his life.
Never think negatively that anything is impossible.
Never think negatively that anything is impossible. First, you should think that you can, then try, try again, and finally you will find that you can.
Make the impossible possible, Napoleon? Hill once used a strange method.
When I was young, Napoleon? Hill is eager to be a writer. To achieve this goal, he knows that he must be good at choosing words and making sentences, and words will be his tool. However, due to his poor family and incomplete education as a child, "kind friends" told him that his ambition was "impossible to achieve". Young Hill saved money to buy the best, most complete and most beautiful dictionary. All the words he needs are in this dictionary. His idea is to fully understand and master these words. But he did a strange thing. He found the word "impossible", left it with small scissors, and then threw it away, so he had a dictionary with no impossibility. In the future, he will build his whole career on the premise that nothing is impossible if a person wants to grow and surpass others.
I don't suggest that you delete the word "impossible" from your dictionary, but I suggest that you eradicate this concept from your heart. Don't mention it in conversation, exclude it from your thoughts, remove him from your attitude, abandon him, no longer provide reasons for it, no longer make excuses for it, abandon the word and the concept forever, and replace him with brilliant "possibility"
Tom? Dempsey is a good example of making the impossible possible.
Tom? Temple was born with only half a foot and a deformed right hand. His parents never let him feel uneasy because of his disability. As a result, he can do anything that a boy can do. If the Boy Scouts March 10 mile, Tom will also walk 10 mile.
Later, he wanted to play football, and he found that he could kick the ball farther than any boy who played with him. He asked someone to design a sneaker specially for him, took part in the football test and got the contract of the stormtroopers. But the coach told him as gently as possible that he was "not qualified to be a professional football player" and urged him to try other careers. Finally, he applied to join the New Orleans Saints and asked for a chance. Although the coach was skeptical, he accepted the boy because he was so confident and liked him.
Two weeks later, the coach liked him more because he scored 55 yards in a friendly match. This situation won him a job playing for the Saints, and he scored 99 points in his first team that season. Then, at the greatest moment, the stadium was filled with 66,000 dry fans. The ball is on the 28-yard line and there are only a few seconds left in the game. The team pushed the ball to the 45 yard line, but there was no time at all. "Dempsey entered the field to play football." The coach said loudly. When Tom entered the stadium, he knew that his team was 55 yards away from the scoring line. The Baltimore men's team was Pete? Ricky drove it away. The ball passed well, Dempsey kicked it with all his strength and the ball went straight ahead. But did you kick far enough? 66,000 fans held their breath to watch, and then the referee on the terminal scoring line raised his hands and motioned for him to score three points. The ball flew a few inches above the goalpost, and Tom's team won by 65,438+09 to 65,438+07. The fans screamed and were excited about the farthest ball, which was played by a player who was only half a foot long and had deformed hands!
"It's unbelievable." Someone shouted, but Dempsey just smiled. He thought of his parents, who kept telling him what he could do instead of what he couldn't do. He created such a great record, as he himself said, "They never told me what I couldn't do."
Never think negatively that anything is impossible. First you think you can, then try again, and finally you will find that you can.
Cultivate optimism.
In order to cultivate optimism, we must explain the steps to cultivate optimism:
L, don't be trapped by yourself, rush out of the self-made Fan Chong, and be a soaring eagle! As long as you are optimistic, you must be a realistic realist. And these two kinds of mentality are variants of solving problems. The most unsuitable friends are pessimists and people who only make fun of others. A true friend should be "it's no big deal, just a little inconvenient!" " "This type of person. When we help a friend, don't just focus on sharing his pain and say something stupid. If you want to build a close relationship, you must have the same personal values and goals.
2. When you are depressed, you might as well go to orphanages, nursing homes and hospitals to see how many misfortunes there are in the world besides your own pain. If the mood is still not calm, actively contact with these people; Take a walk, play games with children, transfer emotions to help others and rebuild self-confidence. Usually, as long as you change the environment, you can change your mentality and feelings.
3. Listen to pleasant and inspiring music. Don't watch the morning TV news. You only need to browse the news of the first edition of The Wall Street Journal, which is enough to let you know the international or domestic news that affects your life. Look at the local news related to your career and family life. Don't give in to temptation and waste time reading other people's tragic details. When driving to school or work, listen to radio music or your own music tapes. If possible, have breakfast or lunch with an active person. Don't sit in front of the TV at night, spend time chatting with the people you love.
4. Change your idioms. Don't say "I'm really exhausted", say "It's really relaxing after a busy day", and don't say "Why don't they think of something?" But "I know what I would do". Don't complain endlessly in the group, but try to praise someone in the group; Don't say, "Why me, God?" Instead, you should say, "God, test me!" Don't say "the world is in a mess", but say "I want to fix my home first"
5. Learn from lobsters. Lobsters shed their protective hard shells at a certain growth stage, so they are easily hurt by enemies. This situation will continue until a new shell grows. Changes in life are normal. Every time there is a change, there will always be strange and unexpected accidents. Don't hide, make yourself weak. On the contrary, you should dare to deal with dangerous situations and cultivate confidence in things you have never seen before.
6. Pay attention to your life. Don't say, "Just swallow a mouthful of poison and you will be free." You can think like this, "PMA will help you through this." The friends you associate with, the places you go, and what you hear or see are all recorded in your memory. Since thoughts guide how the body acts, you can also think advanced and most optimistically. When people ask you why you are so optimistic, please tell them that your mood is high because you ate endorphins.
7. Participate in beneficial recreational and educational activities. Watch videos introducing natural beauty, family health and cultural activities; When choosing TV programs and movies, we should pay attention to their quality and value, not their commercial appeal.
8. In fantasy, thinking and talking. You should show that you are healthy. Talk to yourself actively every day, and don't always think about small problems, such as colds, headaches, knife wounds, bruises, cramps, sprains and minor injuries. If you pay too much attention to these small problems, they will become your best friends and often "greet" you. What you are thinking, your body will show it. This is especially important when raising and educating children. We should pay special attention to the interests of the family and the healthy environment around the family. At one time, some parents were more concerned about their children's health and safety than others, but they turned their children into mental patients.
9. Write, visit or call people who need it every day. Show someone your PMA and pass it on to others.
10, turn Sunday into a day to cultivate "PMA" and get into the habit of going to church. The Research Report on Adolescent Drug Abuse points out that the three pillars of normal adolescents who do not take any drugs are: Religious belief, good family relationship and strong self-esteem.
13 often uses automatic prompts.
The automatic prompt of positive attitude is not fixed, as long as it can inspire us to think positively and act positively, it can be used as self-prompt. Napoleon? Hill listed some important tips for reference.
What a person's mind can imagine and believe, he can accomplish.
If you believe you can do it, you can.
Do what you think in your heart.
Every aspect of my life is getting better every day.
If you do it now, you can make your whimsical dream come true.
No matter who I used to be and who I am now, if I act according to PMA's ideas, I can become what I want to be.
I feel healthy! I feel happy. I feel great.
If we often use this self-motivated sentence to melt our body and mind, we can maintain a positive attitude, restrain a negative attitude, form a strong motivation and achieve the goal of success. Some important inspirational words should also be used frequently, keep them in mind and make them a part of your mind. Then the subconscious will flash into consciousness and use PMA to guide people's thoughts, control people's feelings and decide people's fate.
Napoleon Hill also listed some negative attitudes:
1, cynical, thinks that human nature is ugly and often worries about others, so it lacks the harmony of human nature;
2. Without goals and motivation, life is like drifting in the sea;
3. Lack of perseverance, lack of self-discipline, laziness always makes excuses for yourself to avoid responsibility;
4. Being lucky, dreaming of getting rich, unwilling to pay, just seeking something for nothing;
5, stubborn, intolerant, without credibility, poor social relations;
6, inferiority, cowardice, self-compression, dare not believe in their own potential, refused to believe in their own wisdom;
7, or profligate, or stingy and greedy, there is no pertinent view on money;
8, arrogant and vain, arrogant, like to manipulate others, like power games, can not share with others;
9, hypocrisy, treachery, to deceive others as a function, to deceive others as a good thing.
You know, a negative attitude is like a demon that hinders your success. In addition, there are two kinds of mentality that will "delay" and "drag down" your actions:
1, too cautious, often procrastinate, have no opinion, and dare not make a decision;
2, afraid of failure, afraid of losing face, afraid to face challenges, and flinch if there is a slight setback.
Obviously, these two kinds of mentality make people feel depressed and negative. Even if they have the desire to succeed, they don't have the courage and courage to stick to it. Therefore, I won't believe that I will really make a fortune one day.
A person who is surrounded by a "negative mentality" can't succeed even though he may keep saying success, because their hearts are full of fear, which makes them lose the aura of success. Fear is inevitable in life, because people can't be a still life that stops thinking. Napoleon? Hill described six basic fears that humans usually have. These fears are:
(1) Fear of poverty (2) Fear of criticism (3) Fear of disease.
(4) Fear of losing love (5) Everyone is afraid of getting old (6) Fear of losing freedom.
In fact, they are all negative attitudes, which are hidden in the subconscious and directly affect your successful activities. If your subconscious mind is full of these negative factors, and you are not determined to overcome them, your life can only be involuntarily "presented" forever.