Some time ago, a friend told me that a girl she knew actually wanted to end her life by herself.
"Her life is too bitter. When she was very young, her mother abandoned them and left. When she was in middle school, her father died of a serious illness. Then two younger brothers lost their ability to live in a car accident. The reason why she works hard every day is to earn more money to take care of her family. "
I've seen this girl. She is outgoing, careless, good at cooking and especially likes reading. She can talk about the philosophy of life from poems and songs, and also talk to you about the mysterious outer space and the most popular jokes now.
You can't see anything that can crush a person happening to her.
"After ten years of this life, maybe she is really tired. She did something stupid when she didn't remember. Fortunately, she was saved. Fortunately, "
After listening to it, I was relieved. Although this is someone else's story, it is not the epitome of life.
People's life is so long, many things come uninvited without saying a word, and many unbearable burdens of life are on our shoulders. Without a strong heart, it is difficult for us to spend this life peacefully.
So what does it feel like to have a really strong heart in life?
A man with a strong heart will only live at his own pace.
I have a single cousin who is 30 years old.
Parents are worried that she can't get married, and many people say to her, "Just about enough, don't be too picky."
She persisted for a long time and occasionally wavered: "Is it time to find someone to marry?"
But last year, she finally met the other half she liked, and he had everything he liked. A year later, they got married. On the wedding day, she said:
"I always believe that I will meet the right person. It is not too late to be 30 years old, and life has just begun. "
Yes, when we are 20 to 30 years old, we are always afraid that it will be too late. Friends of the same age have reached the peak of their lives, and you are still working overtime until late at night.
Otherwise, others get married and have children early and step into the so-called "correct" life track, but you don't even know where the other half is.
It seems that everything is one step behind, as if nothing can compare with it.
"It's too late to catch up!"
So when I see someone else signing up for class, I immediately chase after the registration, for fear of falling behind; Seeing that everyone else has found a good job, you also want to quit and find a better one; Seeing others travel around the world, you are also wondering whether to quit your job and become a travel blogger.
However, blindly following other people's life path will not usher in your ideal life. When the world panics, so does your heart.
A person with a strong heart will never judge himself by external standards. They have their own rhythm and know when to do something.
They are very clear about what they want and will face many choices and variables, so every choice they make is to follow their hearts. They just need to work hard and wait quietly, and everything will come naturally.
A person with a strong heart dares to step out of the comfort zone.
The actor who played Lu in the recent popular movie Desire for Survival left a deep impression on the audience. After leaving the cinema, everyone was moved by his performance and said, "Eric Wang is no longer Sekitani Kamiki."
But what we didn't know was that that night, Eric Wang ate 44 steamed buns, vomited twice, and then ate five bowls of noodles.
In order to play the role of leukemia patient well, he insisted on skipping rope 8000 times a day and stayed in the hospital for two whole nights, losing 20 pounds.
It's easy to make money in the sequel to ipartment, but why did Eric Wang choose Lu Yi to play such a difficult role?
The reason is simple: He doesn't want to be "Sekitani Kamiki" anymore, he wants to be a better Eric Wang.
So he went to the drama studio to help people read the script for free and signed up for the director class.
Later, everyone remembered the nameless horse on the beach in Romance: Eric Wang with long hair and beard, who spoke standard Shanghainese dialect, fierce and human.
But many fans don't buy it. They missed Sekitani Kamiki and even left him a message:
& gt "Can you give us an explanation after filming Love Apartment 5? ..... shave your beard, cut your hair short and continue to be our valley. " On the other hand, Eric Wang has his own insistence: "Be what you want to be, not what they want to be."
Of course, safety is very comfortable in this world, but there are always many people like Eric Wang who like uneven roads.
Because they know that the comfort zone in life is like one comfortable pigsty after another. Once you get caught up in it, it looks good. You eat, drink and roll in the mud, but you have to pay for all the comforts.
Life is always changing. When change comes, people who never dare to get out of their comfort zone will slowly lose their fighting power and have to wait quietly to be eliminated.
The reason why people with strong hearts will never encounter a moment of loss, collapse and hesitation is because they deeply understand the survival of the fittest. Even if you know that you will suffer pain and doubt, you will stride forward and never look back.
A person with a strong heart is good at subtraction.
I am a typical woman who likes to chop hands.
For example, I want to spend a few minutes cooking breakfast, so I bought a bread machine and a coffee machine, but I only used them a few times.
For example, I want to learn to make snacks and buy an oven, but I can't do it so far;
For example, when you go to the supermarket and see beautiful plates and bowls, you find that there is no chance for them to appear at all;
Another example is "there is always a dress in the closet", so I want to buy it as long as it looks good, whether it is suitable or not. As a result, I still can't find clothes to wear every day
Those things that I thought improved the quality of life made my life more and more crowded and chaotic.
Liu Yu's "Send You a Bullet" wrote:
"Every identity of a person is a kind of self-kidnapping, and only loss is the road to freedom."
People with strong hearts know how to give up and subtract from life because they accept themselves from their hearts. They understand that the sense of security is filled by themselves, not by things.
The stronger a person is, the gentler he is.
In the movie Love Me, my favorite character is Joe, who became a victim of an arranged marriage.
Before her husband died, she was alone in her hometown. After her death, she was guarding his grave and even made a coffin early to be buried with him. She planned everything, but unexpectedly, before her husband died, she had reorganized her family in the city.
Yue Huiying is a daughter born after the reorganization of her family. She insisted on moving her father's grave to the city and being buried with her mother.
Joe doesn't agree to move the grave. She decided that her husband loved her, and she stubbornly resisted the grave-sweeping team that poured into the village without fear.
It was not until the end of the film that she finally saw a photo of her husband living with another woman, full of happiness that she had never seen before. She was relieved and agreed to move the grave.
On the day of moving the grave, Azu said "I don't want you" to her husband's remains, which made people burst into tears.
Azu, who has been strong all his life, has the courage to face the world and the perseverance to face a lonely life, but he still gave in before love. Instead of giving in to love, this concession makes her stronger, and this strength is still love.
Does a person's inner strength mean that his heart becomes hard? That's not true.
Nothing is more magical than gentleness. The stronger a person is, the gentler he is.
People with strong inner feelings have experienced the baptism of life and seen all kinds of lives. They know that tears and anger can't help solve things, but they bared their teeth and exposed their vulnerability. Only gentleness and peace are the power to resolve contradictions and sadness.
I always believe that human strength never depends on the body and material, but on the heart.
Only when a person's heart is strong can external things no longer easily shake you and knock you down.
May you be a man with a strong heart and bravely resist the torrent of life.