What is "autism socialization"?
"Describe a person who is not good at socializing, can't find a good friend, and can't find an object. He can't wait to minimize himself in public, and the more he grows up, the less willing he is to open his heart. "
It is not difficult to see that more and more people don't want to socialize.
But if you don't want to socialize, are you autistic?
Many people have a misconception that not wanting to socialize is autism.
A person can be introverted, quiet and have no friends.
But we can't just look at the surface and judge a person casually.
Some people don't want to socialize, just simply don't want to socialize.
Why should a person socialize?
"To convey information, to convey ideas, to achieve a certain purpose"
Passing information is to communicate, passing ideas is to output value, and achieving a certain purpose is to realize one's own value.
What is the most important thing when we are born as human beings?
"Realize your own life value and give yourself a decent life"
When reaching the final goal, we can skip the first two messages and leave ourselves plenty of time to study and practice.
Have you found a rule that most successful people don't spend a long time socializing?
Because they know:
"The real connections and values are in yourself."
There is a very famous advertisement in America called Madman: george louis.
I only sleep for three or four hours every day, and the rest time is reserved for my own work.
He once said:
"If you don't feel exhausted at the end of the day, the whole day will be wasted."
Excellent people always pay special attention to their time.
It is much more meaningful than those who spend their time on parties and entertainment all day.
Now a person is to improve his ability and live a better life.
Don't want to socialize, in order to save unnecessary waste of time.
Some people have thousands of friends in the WeChat address book, but few people talk to each other.
This reminds me of a sentence: "You have three thousand friends, but you are as lonely as a dog."
Low-quality social interaction, no matter how many people are useless.
Recently, Peng Lei, the lead singer of "New Pants" band, became popular because of "black and white socializing".
In the variety show "Summer of the Band", he said:
"The professional music critics sitting on it today are actually my enemies in the past, and they all hate me. It used to be in my circle of friends, and now it has been deleted. "
After this passage was broadcast, it was instantly discussed on the Internet.
Some netizens said: It is really a fresh and wonderful stream.
Peng Lei explained herself to prevent her WeChat friends from exceeding 100.
Peng Lei also showed:
"We should delete some useless people and leave high-quality people."
Low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude.
I don't want to socialize, in order to avoid "useless socialization"
Are we afraid of not making friends?
In fact, what we are afraid of is making bad friends!
There is an old saying: "Those who are near Mexico are black, and those who are near Zhu Zhechi are black."
What kind of environment we live in and what kind of people we meet are likely to become such people.
A long time ago, my tutor told me a story:
Xiao Yong and Xiaoxu do the same job and get the same salary.
But the company didn't arrange accommodation for them, and they needed to find their own house to live in.
Xiao Yong chose to live in a small village because the rent there was cheaper and more affordable.
Xiaoxu took the risk of debt, borrowed a loan and rented an upscale residential area.
A year later, Xiaoxu was promoted to general manager and bought a suite.
Xiao Yong is still the same as a year ago, and his position and salary have not changed.
The difference is that Xiaoxu rents a high-grade residential area, and contacts with some executives, entrepreneurs and highly educated people.
Because of their influence, Xiaoxu got contacts, resources and knowledge, and finally succeeded.
On the other hand, due to the harsh living environment, Xiao Yong is exposed to people with low academic qualifications and low quality.
So it is easy to be infected by them without absorbing knowledge.
The result is failure to make progress, stagnation and even depression.
This shows that the environment can determine a person's quality.
We don't want to socialize, not because we are arrogant and look down on people.
But to avoid being infected by bad things.
Zhou, a poet in the Northern Song Dynasty, wrote in On:
"There is no dye in the mud, and there is no demon in the ripples."
Is it wrong to defend the mind from pollution?
I don't want to socialize, in order to keep my mind pure and free from infection.
I believe that many people don't participate in social activities because:
"I didn't find anyone with the same interests."
Sometimes, if you don't want to socialize, you just can't find people with similar interests.
People don't want to play with people they don't like, so they have to be alone.
Writer Gu Long said this sentence:
"Looking for friends in times of trouble is by no means a shameful thing. What is really shameful is that when there are difficulties, you can't find friends. "
No one wants to see a bunch of friends in the address book when they need help, but no one wants to help you either.
This is the sorrow of living.