People often feel this way: the threshold for becoming a parent is very low. Parents all become parents without training. Chinese parents have many problems with family education. Therefore, they need to know more about the principles of family education in order to get rid of the misunderstandings of family education and maximize the gains of the educated. So, what principles should good parents follow in family education?
01 Principle of combining leniency with severity
Educating children should be "combining leniency with severity". Remember that criticism is to step on the brakes, and appreciation is to step on the accelerator. Criticizing children is to prevent them from making the same mistakes again. Not to make the child feel worse.
Our parents often like to force their children to say when criticizing, how many names and scores will you give me next time? Otherwise, just wait and see. Parents should know that forcing can at best achieve your goals, but it is impossible to exceed them, and sometimes it will go to the opposite side of your goals. Blindly criticizing children will only make learning less efficient, while appropriate praise will make children full of confidence in learning. Therefore, criticism must be combined with appreciation to get twice the result with half the effort. Many parents believe that critical education appreciation is not education, and this is a misunderstanding of education.
02 The principle of loving but not doting
Educate children to love but not dote. Many children who are doted on do not become successful, and some even have consequences that parents do not want to see. , this is the inevitable result of long-term accumulation of doting behaviors.
To love without spoiling, parents must first treat their children's needs correctly. The needs of the child must be analyzed in detail, and the actual economic situation of the family and the physical and mental health of the child must be the premise. You cannot be obedient and respond to every request. Excessive satisfaction of children's needs can easily lead to children's excessive desires and develop the bad habit of becoming more and more greedy. Secondly, the reasonable requirements of the children should be met as much as possible under the family circumstances.
03 The principle of unity of teaching by example and teaching by words
In the process of educating their children, parents should not only be good at using reasoning methods, but also set an example for their children with their own behavior. That is to say, we should pay attention to teaching by words and teaching by example, and unify the two so that education can achieve good results.
In family education, parents’ ideological, moral, and behavioral habits play a subtle role in children. Children not only listen to their parents’ reasoning and education, but also pay more attention to their parents’ every word, deed, and every move. Therefore, parents’ ideological, moral, and behavioral habits have a great influence on their children’s development and growth.
04 The principle of mutual respect
Respect is mutual. Only when parents respect their children will their children respect their parents and truly listen to their parents’ correct suggestions and teachings.
Really good education is to "let roses grow into roses, and pine trees grow into pine trees." Without violating the basic principles, parents should respect their children's growth direction and explore their shining points. interests and hobbies, and respect him. Let your child be who he really is, not what he is expected to be.
05 Principle of Freedom
As long as it does not violate the general principles, children can choose some things by themselves, but they must bear the consequences themselves. Many parents are very strict with their children, but they are often thankless and even cause tragedies. We should believe in their children's abilities, guide them correctly, and at the same time give them a space for free development.
In short, the purpose of family education should be to maximize the gains of the educated, rather than to allow parents to vent their emotions to the maximum extent. Parents should understand some of the characteristics of children's growth and development and master some basic family education principles, so that they can educate their children with ease and maintain a harmonious family relationship while allowing their children to grow and become talents.