Although according to the legend that Nu Wa made people, all people are made of clay with the same texture. Mud with the same texture should make no difference when people come to this world. But this is not the case. Because everyone belongs to the family, and the family exists as an independent individual in a complex society, but there are differences, so people are also different.
What I want to say is the poor, the children born to poor families. Poverty is a form of life and a state of life. Of course, it means a certain stage. There are no forever poor people in the world, because the family is like a developing society, and it wants to be quiet but the wind will not stop. As a developing individual, it will not stay in a state forever. Today, we have almost a quarter of the world's population, but resources and land can't grow accordingly. Therefore, similar to the African continent, we also have the largest number of poor people in the world. No matter the size of the family, children always have to be born. It takes a process from childhood to adolescence, and then to youth to adulthood. Speaking of such a process, we have to face the problem of education. It is not so much a state of life as a way of education for the children of poor families to be in charge early.
Newborn children, from precocious children who can understand in May to ignorant children who can only vaguely shout "mom" and "wow" three years later. The accumulation of experience is carried out in a certain environment. Some of them are born happily and have no worries about food and clothing. They play with educational car models and watch big color TVs. Some people are born with worries, lack of clothes and food, and crawl in the mud. A few years later, some children went to aristocratic kindergartens and enjoyed high-quality education and entertainment; Some children go shopping with their parents to send water to the fields every day to experience the hardships of life in advance. Life has created children from poor families, which invisibly enhances their ability to accept difficulties. Therefore, children from poor families may not feel this pain deeply. They follow their parents and do what they can. Three or five years later, with the growth of age, things like collecting firewood and buying soy sauce made them start to take on some work at home and become a small "labor force". They are not only educated by books at school, but also cared by poverty. Not only do they not enjoy the treatment of rich children, but they also have to worry about their own food, clothing, housing and education. The living environment and family environment when they were young made their young minds sprout the idea of changing their lives. It is not without honor for the children of poor families to be masters early, nor is it the patent of their group. Children from poor families will inevitably shorten their childhood if they shoulder the family mission too early. Being in charge early is reflected in their understanding of the environment, their adaptability to conditions, their ability to solve things independently, and their courage to take on the mission of changing their own destiny and even their family's destiny with immature shoulders.
Although it is not true that children from poor families are in charge early, it is better than the truth. The meaning of truth does not determine that children from poor families must think about improving conditions in a solid state, nor do they have to shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family with immature shoulders, nor do they have to stage a farce of "the black sheep of the poor, the poor prostitute" in the broken jar. Of course, it is not nonsense. People's instinct makes them know this society again. Inspired and tempted by a bright future, they learn to refuse, refuse their own environment, limited material conditions and the situation of food, clothing, housing and transportation. They no longer accept all the ignorance and imbecility brought by poverty, but learn to fight and challenge their fate. Of course, their rebellion will naturally cost them, so it is they who have to pay for this huge price. Although they are young, they first understand the truth of "fight to death, don't fight to death". Life is worse than death, and there may be a chance. With the determination to burn one's bridges, the determination to face reality and the courage to gamble on childhood, their behavior of fighting against life is precisely their most primitive ideology of being a master early. In other words, they accepted the severe test of survival and future in childhood! This kind of quality education is not available in the handouts in books, and it is also beyond the reach of classroom teaching. A massive quality education has blossomed in poor children's body and mind, and they have taken a solid first step in life, laying an impregnable foundation for their future study, life and work.
Chen Sheng, a Qin native, said: What kind of princes would you rather have? From ancient times to the present, children from poor families abound in history, and many children from poor families have made great achievements, entered the classroom and worshipped each other. Speaking of ancient times, Confucius, a great educator, Su Qin, Guan Yu, a martial artist, Han Xin, a famous Han Dynasty, and Zhu Yuanzhang, the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty; Commander-in-Chief Zhu De, Founding Marshal He Long, General Peng with a horizontal knife, famous painter Qi Baishi and great inventor Edison; Today, President Niu Gensheng of Mengniu Group, famous comedians Zhao Benshan and Guo, famous movie star Rona, etc. There are so many forests, too numerous to mention! Children of the poor, this is a name with congenital regret. No one can change the environment where he was born, no one has the right to choose his parents, and no one wants to live in poverty. But congenital deficiency can be improved the day after tomorrow. The children of the poor have learned the skills of survival after going through a severe test. They not only took the first step, but also built bigger dreams with their courage and infinite wisdom. The phrase "children of poor families take charge early" was said by Comrade Mao Zedong, and it was not because of the personal teaching of great men that it became a wise saying. It is true that facts speak louder than words. Poor children have created one miracle after another with their unique martial arts cheats, and have written a capital word. Obviously, all the achievements are due to the first lesson that poverty has taught them.
History has proved that the appearance of the ancients and the example of great men have raised the children of poor families to an unprecedented commanding height. It can be said that the living environment is bad and the material is scarce. In the indomitable struggle between poor children and poverty, the spirit of poverty has become an advantage and a hot golden hill medicine. Poverty is a fortune, no doubt!
Facts have proved that children's education, whether from poor families or rich families, should cultivate children's independent personality from an early age, cultivate them to learn to suffer hardships, and cultivate them to realize the risks of the future society and learn to avoid them. It is no longer the patent of children from poor families, but also the learning version of children from rich families. Compared with free early quality education, the higher education fund is more or less independent.
Make the title like this, and add why to wake up the world in the middle of the famous saying. It is definitely not the author's grandstanding, but I hope that more parents and wealthy children will finish reading this book with questions, which is good for your children's growth and the formation of your own literacy!
Chapter 1: Understanding Life and Challenging Poverty
Congenital living environment
Everyone's first act when he comes to this world is crying, which shows that he is very strange and curious about this world. The personality characteristics of all people who come into this world are just like those in the sacred amethyst: at the beginning of life, human nature is good. They were born from the mother body with the exploration of the world. Good here does not mean good, but good. No matter what the motivation is, you live for beauty. Newborn babies have the right to live a better life in the future. Of course, everyone wants a better life. However, the living environment of families is different. Some were born in rural areas, some were born in cities, some were born in teachers' families, and some were born in migrant workers' families-all kinds of people from all walks of life in the world want to breed and cultivate their offspring, so with the birth of children, family conditions will inevitably mark their children as poor or rich.
Children from poor families naturally don't have the preferential treatment of children from rich families after they are born, so they can only drill in swaddling clothes which are much cheaper than duck down quilts, blushing and crying for breast milk, fearing that malnourished mothers may wean at any time. Unfortunately, when a child meets a mother without milk, he can only use cheap milk powder to satisfy his hunger, or even use millet porridge and brown sugar instead. Obviously this is not good for children's development, but ignorant children can't remember these things. This is an interesting story when they grow up. However, the children of rich families are far behind the children of poor families from prenatal education in the embryonic stage, delivery in advanced maternity hospitals, and feeding high-quality dairy products. The author's repetition is not to set off the atmosphere, but to say that the birth of a child must be related to his genetics, his future living environment and education.
Children from poor families will show more surprise when they have memories and ask their mothers why. "Mom, why don't I have new clothes to wear, and my neighbor Bao Xiao wears new clothes every day?" "Mom, why doesn't dad have a car? Why does neighbor Xiaoyu's father always drive her out to play? " "Mom, why is our house so small and dark, and our neighbor's house so big or upstairs and downstairs?" Mothers generally don't answer this question. When they meet an inferior mother, they will print two Wuzhishan mountains on their children's buttocks. As soon as the child cried, he didn't know why he was slapped by his mother. His childhood mind will be deeply branded and confused. For a child who can't think and has no rational thinking ability, this is a potential injury. He naturally doesn't think that the renminbi is worshipping.
Children grow up day by day, and with the hazy cognition of things, they begin to understand many phenomena, and why they ask their parents more questions. It is natural for children to ask questions, and their thinking ability is very simple. Of course, if he doesn't understand anything, he should ask his mother. The author has a neighbor in his hometown in the countryside, and his family situation is quite bad. There is a four-year-old boy. The mother of the child is a farmer and has no culture. She never answered why the child was born. The father of the child is a sanitation worker and earns three "elderly tickets" a month. Children don't have to eat foreign fast food and drink fruit juice drinks, and even basic snacks can occasionally make a toothache. At this time, the hazy and sensible children are most curious. He subconsciously thinks that his father is the richest. He often pouts and says to everyone, "My family has a hundred dollars. Dad said he would take me to the city to buy candied haws tomorrow. You can buy a lot of candied haws! " It can be seen how simple the child's childlike innocence is. In his eyes, 100 yuan is the most money in the world, and sugar-coated haws are naturally the most delicious food in the world. This sense of clock will not affect children's perception of new things in the future. He only realized this for a short time. When he is really sensible, he naturally won't say that sugar-coated haws are delicious, nor will he regard 100 as the most money in the world. Naturally, he will regard what he said at that time as the most ignorant words, and he will be distressed that he didn't eat enough Sugar-Coated Berry in the past, but after he is sensible, he may eat a Sugar-Coated Berry meal through his own labor income. Children in wealthy families are different. In their impression, the renminbi is far less than the dollar and the euro. Even if the face value is 100, it is not the largest money in the world. Sugar-coated haws are not delicious food. All they know is that all the vegetables and food are bought by mom from the supermarket. They don't know that food and vegetables are grown by farmers' uncles. They also asked their parents a lot why "why do TV stations only audition for super girls and not super boys?" Since children in mountainous areas have nothing to eat, why not eat hamburgers? "It's too cold to ride a bike in winter. Why do some students ride bicycles? Why don't they take a bus? " The problem is the same ignorance, but the taste is different. Their minds don't know how superior their environment is. Naturally, their mode of thinking is different from that of poor children. Poor children are thinking about how to have a little money to satisfy their hunger, and children of rich families are thinking about how to spend money. The starting point of thinking has undergone fundamental changes under the influence of the environment.
No matter how different, superior and scarce the environment is, early guidance and education are very important. Environment is innate and education is acquired. When a poor child asks his parents why they are facing the lack of environment, it is obviously impossible for such a child to rely entirely on the "favor" of Sugar-Coated Berry or Wuzhishan, because his parents kicked him back as a ball, and he may not dare to ask again in the future, because he is afraid that if he asks again, he will encounter the same result, so he has to think about it. Without the guidance of his parents, his thinking can only be done behind closed doors. Generally speaking, parents of rational poor families will tirelessly and patiently explain to their children, explain the reasons for such a family environment, explain the ways to get rid of difficulties, explain the hard work of parents, and teach their children to learn cultural knowledge to change their own and family's destiny. Although the children are puzzled, they can also feel the hardships and efforts of their parents in their ignorant psychology. From an early age, they knew that even such a difficult family environment was due to the hard work of their parents. They have long known in their young minds that only hard work can change the status quo, that only by learning cultural knowledge can they change the poor family environment, and that only by going to college can they change their way out. When they were hazy governors, they learned profound lessons. Although this lesson comes from parents, the direct giver is the poor family environment. So when they were very young, they knew that people need to adapt themselves to the environment and change it, not the environment to adapt and change people.
Children from poor families, the family environment stimulates them to subconsciously realize their own shortcomings. They don't have expensive clothes, delicious snacks, omniscient parents, parenting books on bookshelves, clean rooms and pocket money with large denominations. Naturally, they have more internal reasons than the children of rich families. After their parents treated them correctly and explained the reasons, they began to yearn, to think and to hope. Similarly, they have an urgent pursuit and perception of a better life in the future. Under the guidance of their parents, they know that they must rely on themselves to have the above things. From this time on, they received the education from their parents and the stimulation of family environment, and their independent personality was formed.
The children of the hazy governor are the best education period at this time, because their understanding ability is relatively simple and their understanding of things is biased. They defined the good and bad in this impression very clearly and emotionally. They don't have the ability to distinguish right from wrong, and some just have a biased understanding of things. His attitude towards things is often determined by biased knowledge. Such a biased understanding is of course the result of parents' initial education, their language and behavior, and their simple character. Therefore, it is the best time to carry out appropriate early education for children at this time.
A person's growth and success will inevitably be affected by the environment. If the children of poor families can get the correct enlightenment and education, the correct guidance, the correct understanding of the environment and the correct understanding of the future, their future success is natural, because they already have the minimum conditions for success: that is, to advance despite difficulties! Of course, children from rich families are not useless, but their understanding of life is far simpler than that of children from poor families. Relatively speaking, children from poor families have more advantages in self-success.
Second, the stimulation and influence of the environment.
In children's early education, the importance of family environment is self-evident, which is not only reflected in children's inheritance, life and education, but also plays an important role in cultivating children's independent ability and personality taste. If properly educated, a bad family environment will accelerate the growth of children, otherwise it will ruin the growth of children.
When the children of poor families are hazy, the family is not spacious, the old narrow single bed, the TV set that has been "out of service" can only eat pork for a week or more, the old clothes worn by others, dad's broken bicycle and snacks that have not been eaten in the store all stimulate the children's psychology invisibly, and subconsciously hope that their home can be the same as the family played on TV. Spacious house, beautiful children's bedroom furniture, big color TV, eggs, milk and bread every day, big fish and meat, new clothes, fashionable cars, boxes of snacks almost every day, but the reality is ruthlessly saying no to children. This is the real environment. Their influence in the harsh living environment is limited and narrow.
A reporter from China Youth Daily went to a mountainous rural area for an interview. He saw a child with mud all over his face at the entrance to the village and asked the child, "Little friend, what are you going to do when you grow up?" The child replied: "Eat labor insurance!" The reporter and the accompanying township leaders were surprised. Then they came to the hillside outside the village and saw a child herding sheep, so the reporter came forward and asked, "Little friend, why don't you go to school?" The child replied, "I can't afford it without money." The reporter asked again, "Then why do you herd sheep?" The child replied, "herding sheep to earn money." The reporter asked again: "What do you make money for?" Child: "Marry a wife." Reporter: "What does a wife do?" Child: "Have a baby." Reporter: "What will you do if you have children?" Child: "herding sheep." Reporters and accompanying township leaders were speechless by the children's insightful words. Of course, this story is a joke, but the living environment of mountain children is really presented to us. Due to the lack of material conditions in mountainous areas, children's horizons can only rise to the point of eating labor insurance and herding sheep after giving birth, and they don't even have the idea of comparing with urban children. This shows how important the environmental impact is to children's growth.
The impact of children from wealthy families on the environment is another street map. A few years ago, there was a popular saying: it is better to have a good father than to learn mathematics and physics well. Wealthy family conditions and relatively superior living environment make children's dependence too serious. Their idea is nothing more than studying for the sake of their parents' face. They are not worried about their future at all. Of course, their eyes are not on herding sheep and taking labor insurance. The things they touch every day are colorful and bizarre, and the stimulation and influence of the environment on them is another way. The author interviewed a rich family in a city, and the object was the daughter of a real estate general manager. Author: "Son, what do you want to be when you grow up?" Child: "Be the general manager like my father." Author: "If you want to be a general manager, you must study hard." Child: "It doesn't matter, even if I don't study well, I can take over my father's class as general manager." Author: "At that time, my father was old and not the general manager. How do you take over? " Children; "It doesn't matter, I can be a super girl. Mom said you can be a super girl if you have money. My father has plenty of money. " The child's answer made the author tremble. Children's parents are mostly busy people, always too busy to take care of their children. They always use TV as a tool to educate their children. However, if you think about it carefully, the complex environment on TV has not played an educational role, but almost led children astray.
The above two stories confirm the important role of environment in early education. One is to let children's thinking drift and let them have no dependence. The other is to guide children's thinking wrongly and let them rely too much on the family environment. Two completely different results deserve our parents' more consideration. Environment is innate and education is acquired. Even without a good environment, there is no effective education. Although we can't change the congenital deficiency, we should keep up with the improvement the day after tomorrow. It is not enough to rely only on environmental education, but also to pay more attention to the early education of children from the stimulation, influence and demand of the environment.
The influence of the environment on children is very realistic. In order not to cause unnecessary harm to children's physical and mental growth, parents should turn unfavorable factors into favorable factors, grasp children's psychological needs, and turn educational obstacles caused by the environment into educational tools.
Third, the thinking mode generated by poverty stimulation.
Children from poor families have suffered since childhood, and they will compare their families with those from rich families.
Big house VS small house, braised pork rice VS potato chip rice, hamburger VS sweet potato, fruit juice VS saccharin water, car VS bicycle deeply stimulate them. Although they can't think completely, their ignorant hearts are seriously dissatisfied with such treatment. They may be treated like parents' requirements for children from rich families, but the result is definitely not answered. So they will think, why is this? Why can people live well, eat well and use well, and why not? Their first thought comes from thinking about the harsh environment and is not exclusive. They think that other people's homes must be very good, and there is nothing worse and poorer than their own. Subconsciously, they will want to answer questions from their parents.
At this time, the parents of poor families tell their children through patient and meticulous persuasion that things in this world are not innate. If a person wants to have these things, he must struggle and rely on himself. Parents are unreliable. After all, parents will die one day.
After a series of unequal treatment and parents' instruction, the child has a simple idea in his heart. They understand that if they want to have a big house, they must work. If they want to stop being poor, they must get ahead. How can they get ahead? Children's inner chain leads to a variety of thinking, which plays a vital role in training children's thinking ability and correcting children's attitude towards independent living. Therefore, once he encounters anything in the future, he will think of himself first. Why?
Parents' education for their children can't stop at language. What's more important is to cultivate their children's practical ability from childhood, from doing housework to participating in family work in a small scale, until indirectly creating economic income for the family and improving the family environment. In the process of seeing their children gradually stand on their own feet, parents must give positive affirmation to their children's work and achievements, so that children can understand the meaning of labor and the concept of creating value through labor and improving the family environment. Participating in family labor not only exercises children's will and endurance, but also enables them to master certain labor skills and cultivate their sentiments. The most direct effect is to teach children to learn to think. And gradually formed a fixed mode of thinking.
After children's early education, children not only have the ability to think independently, but also understand that relying on themselves in everything can get twice the result with half the effort for cultivating children's independent living habits from an early age.
Think about change when you are poor, and change will let you go.
A young man lost all his capital in business. He was so depressed that he felt that he was at the end of the road and could hardly live. He heard that he could become an official by studying philosophy, but when he became an official, he was worried about having no money. One day, he found Socrates and told him what had happened to him, saying that he wanted to study philosophy. Without saying a word, Socrates took him to a river and suddenly pushed him into it. At first, the young man thought Socrates was joking with him and didn't care. As a result, Socrates also jumped into the water and pushed him desperately to the bottom. Now, the young man really panicked, and his instinct for survival made him try his best to lift Socrates and climb to the shore.
The young man asked Socrates why he did this inexplicably. Socrates replied: "I just want to tell you that you must have the determination to survive in order to get real gains."
Later, the young man started from scratch with a little principal Socrates gave him. A few years later, he became the richest businessman in that area.
This story tells us that poverty is not lifelong. As long as we are brave enough to fight poverty, we will get a better life. As parents, we should also instill in our children the idea that poverty is not terrible, but we should be good at thinking, have the courage and determination to challenge difficulties, have no fixed difficulties and have no eternal poverty. It is with this spirit that many children from poor families have overcome short-term difficulties and achieved success.
Jackie Chan was born in poverty and dropped out of school early. Because of his life, he had to do some chores with the crew. By chance, he won the favor of the director and played the role of body double. As a result, his acting talent was taken by the director, so he began to set foot in film performances. Now Jackie Chan has become an internationally famous superstar. Football superstar Ronal Dinho is also a child of a poor family. He used to wander the streets at the worst time, but in order to change the fate of poverty, he decided to play football to make money and improve his poor life. At first, he was a caddy for the national team. Later, by chance, he turned over and eventually became a superstar.
There is an old saying in China: "If you are poor, change it"! The author gave this sentence to the children of poor families here. Don't be afraid of poverty, don't be influenced by the difficult living environment, and don't live one day at a time, because everyone will get something back as long as they pay. Parents and children of the same wealthy families can succeed in such a difficult environment, not to mention that your starting point is much higher than that of children from poor families. Why are you worried that you and your children will not succeed?
It must be affirmed that whether poor or rich, early education is very important. Early education comes not only from books, but also from physical and mental exercise. As long as you have good early education, hard-working quality and independent thinking ability, you will definitely have a brilliant anchor on the channel of life!