"Settle down" Gong Beibei appeared again. I like Christina and I take her scenes very seriously.
This time, Gong Beibei gave birth to a second child, lived with her family and ran to the room. The whole person's state was much better.
Before, she was full and tired. The biggest reason for Gong Beibei's change is that she jumped ship and changed to a relaxed and well-paid hospital.
I used to be very picky about buying a house, but I have no worries about buying a house this time.
Gong Beibei bought this house not to improve the life of the whole family again, but to buy a two-bedroom apartment and move out with the children. Her husband, Liu Jian, never agreed that buying a two-bedroom apartment meant driving out her in-laws.
Liu is a filial person and always listens to his parents.
Gong Beibei's practice, in his view, is undoubtedly killing donkeys. When the boss was born, the family couldn't afford a nanny, so they had to take two old people to take care of their children.
Now that Gong Beibei is rich, she thinks her in-laws are unscientific and spoil her children too much. By the time Big Brother became independent, the old man was still feeding and indulging him in watching cartoons.
When the second child was weaned and fed complementary food, her mother-in-law disliked her early weaning. Gong Beibei is a gynecologist. She knows better than anyone how to feed children scientifically. In-laws obviously don't believe her and stick to their own set of principles. In the long run, it will arouse contradictions.
So, Gong Beibei didn't want to be angry anymore, and she decided to move out. If Liu doesn't agree, Gong Beibei won't give in, saying that Liu can accompany his parents from Monday to Thursday, and then accompany his children on weekends. Gong Beibei's practice, many people say, is too frank. An independent and rich woman has the right to choose.
Sorry, Gong Beibei seems to be independent, but in fact, she is too stupid, and she is also pushing herself into a corner.
02
Many people say that Gong Beibei is a widowed marriage, and separation and divorce are inevitable. Indeed, according to Gong Beibei, she has always been the one who has paid more for her family.
She earns a lot and is under great pressure. She works during the day and takes care of the children at night. Liu has been so busy with his work that he hasn't even changed his baby's diaper. I come home from work every day, caring about my children and my parents, but I never care about her.
For Gong Beibei, everything that Liu has done is unbearable.
Liu thinks he has a happy marriage and a happy life, but Gong Beibei doesn't want this kind of life. What she wants is more love and tenderness, not daily necessities. But is this life really Liu's problem?
Obviously, in their marriage, Gong Beibei is the stronger party. Any decision she makes seems to have been discussed with Liu, but it's actually just a notice.
For example, to change two bedrooms, she didn't communicate with Liu at all in advance, so she took him directly to see the house. It is inevitable that Liu will get angry on the spot. Moreover, according to the content of their quarrel, Gong Beibei did the same when she wanted to change jobs.
Liu complained that Gong Beibei took the initiative, which is true. For Gong Beibei, no matter what she wants to do, no matter what Liu thinks, she will achieve it. If Liu doesn't agree to move to a two-bedroom apartment, then move out with the children. This is too extreme. Where did she put Liu and her in-laws?
03
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the biggest problem in marriage. Gong Beibei is the same, but the problem between her and her in-laws is really that her in-laws are too stubborn?
When Gong Beibei quarreled with her in-laws, her handling was really inappropriate.
Watching the father-in-law breast-feed and the children watch the animation, she complained a few words first, and then directly began to teach the children, making them cry.
Gong Beibei may think that it is right for children to be educated. You know, under the circumstances at that time, teaching children was to hit in-laws in the face.
Gong Beibei always complains that her in-laws are not good to her, but does she really respect the elderly?
In-laws do have problems in the way of education, but Gong Beibei just complains that it is useless. She has always emphasized communication. Did she communicate well with her in-laws?
It's hard enough for my parents-in-law to take care of her two children and help her with housework so that she can have hot meals when she comes home every day.
Gong Beibei is not grateful, only her in-laws are not in her eyes.
Without her in-laws, can she really work hard in the workplace and play the role of an independent woman? From this perspective, Gong Beibei's strength is too aggressive, including changing rooms. Did she discuss it with her in-laws
It's selfish to make a decision just because of your feelings.
Marriage is complicated, family is a whole, contradictions and frictions are inevitable, but the way to deal with the problem is not that whoever earns more has the right to speak, nor that whoever is strong can ignore the feelings of others. Gong Beibei's practice of buying a house and splitting up is obviously too risky.
04
In this era, women are always crying about the hardships in marriage. Admittedly, marriage is really too difficult for women. It is difficult to make money to support the family and be beautiful, and it is difficult to balance family and career.
But if marriage goes wrong, it is definitely not a person's problem.
Independence and wealth are women's trump cards in marriage, but don't forget that marriage needs tolerance, understanding, acceptance and compromise.
Running a marriage is like running a business. If business encounters difficulties, you choose to split up or change careers, which will not solve the problem at all, nor will you grow up in your marriage.
Gong Beibei is a representative of contemporary independent women, but she is not necessarily smart in dealing with marriage problems.
It can be expected that if she really buys a house and separates, and spends the weekend with Liu, then her marriage will soon come to an end. Divorce with two children at that time must have been a downhill road for her life.
If I were Gong Beibei, the first thing I want is not to escape from that home, but to have an in-depth communication with my in-laws and husband, so as to reach a mutually acceptable way of getting along.
If it really doesn't work, consider separating. I don't agree with Gong Beibei's way of driving away her in-laws, who have taken care of their children for so many years and have worked hard without credit.
Gong Beibei's dilemma may be that she had high expectations for marriage from the beginning. She can't accept the daily necessities in marriage. She wants romance, tenderness and love. But life is like this, more dull and less passionate.
If you can't accept an ordinary life, how can you accept the dilemma of marriage?
Gong Beibei's problem is the problem of all strong women in the workplace. These women are strong, independent and smart in the workplace, but they are not necessarily smart in dealing with intimate relationships.
Someone in Zhihu asked: What do you think is the core part of a long-term love?
Among them, there is a praise answer: Long-term love needs to face many tests, such as lifestyle identification, adaptation to each other's habits, spiritual communication, and more importantly, mutual tolerance.