Marriage is often accompanied by many family chores, and marriage is not just two people together as some people think.
Marriage is two people living together. Since it is life, even immortals will have a very mediocre and ordinary side. So is marriage. Marriage is a life, not a vigorous thing.
One of my readers was drunk before she realized that her marriage was actually mediocre and ordinary, which was completely different from her previous fantasy marriage. The story I want to share with you today comes from one of my readers, Juanjuan.
Let's see what happened to her.
Juanjuan said, the only daughter in the family, although the family condition is not very good, but her parents have loved her as a baby since childhood.
Since childhood, her parents have tried their best to satisfy her, so she hasn't suffered anything.
Years later, she never imagined that marriage was a turning point in her life. After she married someone else, all the hardships and grievances that she had never eaten at home before marriage were tasted.
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Juanjuan got married at the age of 30, neither too early nor too late, just right.
But the family always urges her, so she and her husband actually met on a blind date. It was introduced by a relative. The man's family conditions are average, and both parties have reached the age of marriage. Both parents are satisfied. They got married after dating for more than half a year.
Juanjuan thinks that although this man doesn't know much about himself, he seems to be an honest man, unlike that kind of playboy. Anyway, he has been very good to Juanjuan for more than half a year, obedient and obedient, and he will do whatever Juanjuan says.
After they got married, Juanjuan lived with her in-laws. At that time, although Juanjuan was not very happy, there was nothing he could do. They can't afford a house at present, so they have to live with her in-laws.
I didn't expect my mother-in-law to be a very important role, and I made fun of her on the first day I entered the door.
Mother-in-law thinks her son is particularly excellent, so she exaggerates her son, which is worse than anyone else. She said that Juanjuan was just an ordinary employee. She still has to listen to her husband at home, be kind and diligent to her husband and parents-in-law.
Juanjuan thinks that she is a middle-level cadre of the unit, and she is the key promotion target of the leaders. Her appearance, temperament and figure are very good, and she almost became a model at first.
However, my husband is really ordinary. At the age of 32, he has a beer belly, looks like a middle-aged man and wears glasses. He looks particularly lifeless.
Juanjuan thinks how to match this husband is more than enough. Why does mother-in-law do this to herself?
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She was not so accommodating, so she stood up to her mother-in-law, made her speechless, shouted and called her daughter-in-law ridiculous. Blow your beard and stare on your first day in the door. How to take it in the future?
Juanjuan said not to be outdone, this is your casual way of speaking. If you talk to the younger generation, I can't do this to you.
The mother-in-law was even more angry, and they had a big fight at home. On the first day of their marriage, they quarreled at home, which made Juanjuan feel ridiculous.
However, what was her husband doing when she quarreled with her mother-in-law? He didn't do anything, just stood by like a stake, afraid to say anything, as if the quarrel was with a stranger he didn't know.
The first day was like this. After that, you can imagine that this kind of thing is like a daily routine. Juanjuan's mother-in-law dislikes her everywhere and finds fault with her everywhere.
Nothing she does at home is right, and her mother-in-law will say that she is not doing well. She found that her husband is a real baby boy, and he listens to his mother. At home, my mother-in-law has the final say. Not only the husband is afraid of her mother-in-law, but even her father-in-law is afraid of her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law is like a bully at home. She said one is one, and no one dared to say two.
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Moreover, she also found that her husband is a very timid person, but whenever something happens outside, she will tell her mother clearly when she comes back, and her mother-in-law will scold him. But it doesn't solve the problem at all.
Juanjuan's parents seldom scold her, let alone anything else. I have spoiled her like a princess since I was a child. She is not the kind of temper that will give in. After all, at home, her parents followed her.
As long as she has a little contradiction with her mother-in-law, she cannot give in. She must fight her mother-in-law to the end, winning or losing.
Every time she quarrels with her mother-in-law, some things are nothing more than trivial matters. Mother-in-law thinks that clothes can't be washed clean, dishes can't be washed clean, and she doesn't make breakfast for her husband. Every time for these little things, to tell the truth, Juanjuan himself is bored.
Today, all this is because of something that Juanjuan can't stand. Before, Juanjuan and her mother-in-law quarreled, but in this case, Juanjuan really can't stand it, and it's no use arguing again.
That day, my mother-in-law didn't know what happened. She asked Juanjuan and her husband to hand over their salary cards for her to keep, saying that young people can't manage money and she would help them save money to buy a house.
Hearing the sound of fire, Juanjuan flew into a rage. You don't say! My parents never want my salary card. Why do you want it? Besides, if your man doesn't take the initiative to buy a house, why should he take my salary card? How can we live if we take away the salary card?
Juanjuan immediately said: impossible, I have no problem with your son's salary card, you can take it, you want mine, impossible!
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Then they quarreled about it all night. Finally, Juanjuan was tired, and so was her mother-in-law, so she went back to her room. When she returned to her room, her husband came in, stood beside her and said, "Wife. If you quarrel with my mother again, you will move out. "
When Juanjuan heard these words, she was even more angry and chilling. Forget it. My mother-in-law must have let her husband in. Her husband listens to his mother, and he can't say it himself.
Do you mean that I live in your house now and I have to get out if I don't listen to my hostess?
Juanjuan didn't even think about it: "Forget it, it's not necessary. Let's just get a divorce. I hope you can find a more suitable wife before you have children. "
Say that finish, Juanjuan laughed, packed my luggage, and returned to her family that night.
After returning home, she explained the reason to her parents. Her husband is not on her side at all, and there is no point in continuing. Now that she has no children and no worries, her parents see that she is wronged and agree to her divorce. Nobody wants their daughter to be bullied all the time, right?
Xiao Geng tells:
I appreciate Juanjuan's attitude. Although she may be a little impulsive to her mother-in-law, if you don't give her a hard time, she will be on your head and won't give you a day to turn over.
You married a daughter-in-law, not a nanny. There is no need to look at anyone's eyes.
Girl: Getting married is a family matter. If you decide that a person wants to get married, you should at least contact his family first to see if they like it. You can't arrive on time.
If your future in-laws are not easy to get along with, I advise you to seriously consider whether to marry them.
Marrying a mother-in-law like Juanjuan will only give you trouble and make you grow old faster. Happiness and happiness are impossible.