A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law means that mother-in-law understands daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law understands mother-in-law and has principles for each other's lives. Only in this way can several families maintain peace.
A good woman is always willing to pay attention to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, maintain principles and live in harmony. But in many cases, whether the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can live in harmony is actually not the daughter-in-law alone. No matter how good the woman's attitude is, the family will go back all day when she meets her mother-in-law. Especially those parents-in-law, married to such a family, women will always be regarded as outsiders no matter how hard they try.
When Xu Yue met Bai Yang, Bai Yang was still a poor boy. He has no money, no car, no house, and his family conditions are not very good. But Xu Yue thinks he is a potential stock, and Xu Yue really likes him. After dating for a year, they got married.
When they got married, Xu Yue didn't mention buying a house. Her mother-in-law made it clear that the family couldn't afford it, up to 50,000, but there was no bride price for buying them a house.
Xu Yue knows that Bai Yang has a sister. They love this sister very much at home and want to leave everything to her.
It's ok to buy a house without that much money, but it must be a lie to say that you can only afford 50 thousand.
However, the relationship between Xu Yue and Bai Yang is deep enough that she can forget the neglect of her husband's family and marry Bai Yang who has no house or car.
Fortunately, the two did not live up to expectations. With the 50,000 yuan given by their mother-in-law, they made a little investment and worked hard. Finally, they scraped together some money and barely paid the down payment.
Although the house is small, it has a home. It is enough for Xu Yue and Bai Yang to live alone, and it is enough for the old people to squeeze in at ordinary times.
When buying a house, her mother-in-law scoffed at Xu Yue and said she was not satisfied. She only spent money to buy a house, without consulting them.
On the other hand, Xu Yue's parents are afraid that the young couple will run out of all their savings because of buying a house. They live a tight life and buy something every three days.
Xu Yue thanked her parents for their understanding, and Bai Yang also thanked her parents-in-law, vowing to live a good life and treat Xu Yue well.
Life is getting better and better. Xu Yue felt that there was no contradiction between others in marriage. Xu Yue was satisfied with everything except her mother-in-law's partiality to her sister-in-law. After all, her mother-in-law's nagging and complaining are only occasional, and they don't live together.
Only recently, Xu Yue began to feel a little uneasy. My mother-in-law has been coming frequently recently, and she has been chanting that her sister-in-law is going to have a baby, and she will live in an old house in the country after giving birth. The conditions are so bad that she is afraid of getting sick.
Xu Yue thought it was a big deal for her sister-in-law to have a baby, and she understood her mother-in-law's meaning, so she took five thousand dollars to her mother-in-law and asked her to take it back to buy something for her sister-in-law.
Mother-in-law took the money, it seems that she hasn't finished yet, but after taking the money, she can't say anything and went back.
Until that day, my mother-in-law came straight to the point and said, "Daughter-in-law, your sister-in-law is coming to confinement. Give her the master bedroom."
Xu Yue was surprised and asked, "Why did she want me to give her the master bedroom in the second month?"
Mother-in-law confidently replied: "Your sister-in-law should have a good confinement, otherwise it is your sister-in-law's responsibility to get sick."
Xu Yue can't stand her mother-in-law's unreasonable behavior. She doesn't want to talk to her much. Thinking of her mother-in-law's quirks for so many years, she replied coldly, "The kitchen is empty. Let her sleep in the kitchen."
When Bai Yang came back, he noticed that the atmosphere was wrong, and both sides asked clearly, so he came to comfort Xu Yue first. My sister is spoiled at home, and her parents spoil her at heart, and her temper is not very good.
Later, I fell in love with a man with a bad personality or a rural man. It is useless for parents to object again, insisting on marrying him. After my sister-in-law got married, life was really not smooth, and she went back to her family to get things every three to five times. Xu Yue can't be wronged. Why should the whole family spoil her sister-in-law and follow her?
When I bought a house, my mother-in-law didn't give me a penny. Now, because my sister-in-law wants to have a confinement and seize the master bedroom, she has no reason to give up at all.
Xu Yue's attitude is very clear. Sister-in-law wants to have a confinement, just go back to her mother's house. It is absolutely impossible to go to her house. She is not stupid. Once the master bedroom is given up, it is a question whether the back can be taken back. This time, Bai Yang sided with Xu Yue. Although he is used to his parents' eccentricities, he occasionally gets angry at their wonderful practices.
As the saying goes: "A bowl of water is flat", in marriage, women sometimes meet an "eccentric" mother-in-law.
If you meet a really "eccentric" and unprincipled "eccentric" mother-in-law, a woman must keep her eyes open and establish principles, not be weak and unshakable, and not harm the interests of her family. This is the most basic.
It is true that you should respect each other when you get along with your mother-in-law, but while respecting your mother-in-law, you should also respect your marriage and protect your happiness. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in marriage is always inextricably linked. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should maintain good communication before and make progress for the happiness of the family.
If you can't communicate, the woman must not give in blindly. She must keep her bottom line and safeguard her interests on the basis of respecting her mother-in-law.