1. How to find a chat topic
One of the most distressing problems for novices is that the prologue starts the conversation smoothly, but they don't know what to say to keep the conversation going. There is a saying in cold reading called "involving the territory". Because anyone likes and cares most about himself, as long as you try to get the other person to tell her story, she will be involved in the situation you set. In other words, if you guide her to talk about herself, she will be interested. But it is worth noting that it should be "guiding" rather than "questioning". After all, chatting is not the same as interrogating prisoners.
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2. Synchronous breathing method
Cold reading believes that the key to communication lies not in what you say, but in how you listen. Don't nod according to the logical content of her speech, but nod slowly and deeply according to her breathing rhythm. This synchronized breathing will build your comfort in the other person's subconscious.
3. Arbitrary comfort method
When a MM cries to you because of some unfortunate things, you don't have to analyze it yourself and then tell her what you think is the most reasonable opinion. This is a typical bookworm. In fact, anyone would rather believe what they want most. Therefore, the only correct thing for you to do is to tell her what you most want to happen in a firm and arbitrary tone (even if you feel illogical and almost impossible, you don't have to worry about lying or being responsible afterwards). This is the practice of any leader, protector and AMOG.
4. Latent flattery
Novices who have studied bubble science a little will think that it is DLV's practice to kiss MM's ass directly, which will also increase MM's vigilance and think that you have ulterior motives. In fact, flattery itself is right. After all, everyone likes to listen to good words, but we must pay attention to flattery. Potential flattery means that you don't directly admit or say that she has some advantages, but that she has this potential and this advantage, but she hasn't fully shown it yet. From this, MM's impression of you is that you are different from those frustrated men who only know flattery. You are not a perfectionist, you have your own opinions, you are picky, you have appreciation and insight. At the same time, after all, if you say something nice, MM will feel recognized and then want to get your full recognition-this is within your framework.
It's a pity that you are not very good at it … but in fact, you … just haven't shown it all yet. ""In fact, you are happier with xx than with xx. " "on the surface, you are actually in your heart ..." and so on.
Remember, we must talk about shortcomings first, and then talk about advantages and potentials. Many people just know neg blindly, but they don't flatter their potential after repression. This is not teasing, this is provocation.
People like people who like, reward and praise themselves more and more, and they don't like people who look less and less, which is a psychological "aronson effect". For example, you can amuse MM with one or two jokes first, and then say, "I think you look much better today than last time." This is not DLV, because you imply that it is the last time. ) "Really?"
"I think so. Your skin seems to be getting better and your hair is more energetic than last time. " "Really?" "Don't lie to you. Maybe it has something to do with your mood. Last time, you seemed a little reluctant to let go. I like your present state ... "You don't have to be afraid that MM will question your statement and think you are lying. Because one principle of cold reading is called "selective memory", that is, people never judge according to facts, but according to their own expectations.
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5. Use homologous languages
In cold reading, one skill to open the other person's heart is to use "homophonic" language. That is, try to imitate some keywords used by the other party. For example, you can imitate the mantra that MM often uses, which will give MM a sense of tacit understanding. Another skill is to imitate MM's slip of the tongue intentionally (but not too badly, so as not to cause disgust).
6.2>8 principle
One view of cold reading is that memory is only recalled after processing, so people will only recall the most impressive part and forget other things that don't attract attention. Mind reading uses this selective memory. Even if 80% of their statements are wrong, as long as 20% are right and surprisingly accurate, the counselor will have the impression that everything the mind reader is right. So mind readers always try their best to deduce the accuracy of that 20%. Attracting mm is the same. We don't have to pursue perfection (in fact, no one can do it), just try our best to achieve 20% advantages (such as self-confidence and humor, but we must surpass everyone around us) and make it your brightest and most attractive advantage.
7. Overcome the funny imagination of beauty phobia
This is a mental problem that most beginners need to make great efforts to solve: I have read many theories and memorized many jokes, but when I saw the beautiful woman I like, my mind suddenly went blank, I lost my mind, I lost my thoughts, and I lost everything except my virginity. This brain blank rate and heart rate are directly proportional to the beauty of a beautiful woman. Cold reading introduces a skill to overcome the fear and boredom of the boss in the company. Actually, it can also be applied to beautiful women. The next time you see a beautiful woman, imagine that she is a big bald gourd with Hitler's moustache on her lips and a goatee on her chin. Wearing a green hat on your head and drooling in your mouth ... in short, give full play to your imagination. This will help you overcome her perfect goddess image, and if you imagine it well, you will even naturally show a bad smile.
8. Take advantage of people's ambivalence
Cold reading holds that everyone has two sides, one side recognized by everyone and the other side (hidden in his subconscious, whether it really exists or not, but it exists in his subjective consciousness). Man always expects someone to know his hidden side. Therefore, if you talk to a MM about the characteristics contrary to her external characteristics (of course, you have to talk about both sides at the same time, which is the "Banan effect"), it will often cause her to sing bad. For example, "You look lively and extroverted on the surface, but sometimes you are introverted, hoping to give yourself a space to calm down your mind." For another example, "Although sometimes you don't seem very talkative, others will misunderstand that you are indifferent." In fact, I can see that sometimes you still know how to communicate with people, but it's not easy to find someone to talk to ... "
9. Good friend prediction agreement
This is different from the good friend test convention created by handsome guys. A good friend's prediction is that you tell the other person that you think her best friend has certain qualities. And the secret is that that feature is the exact opposite of her own. For example, if she is an extrovert, you can say that her best friend must be an extrovert. If she has long hair, you can say that her best friend must have short hair.
Don't worry about guessing wrong, because people often choose the opposite (complementary) person when choosing their best friends. Because there are hidden features in people's subconscious that are contrary to the external self, they will choose this hidden self as their best friend.
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Using cold reading to pick up girls.
1. Extended glass technology for cold reading
Cup technology is used to test the distance between two people. Actually, you don't have to use a cup. Many things can be used.
For example, if you are sitting opposite her, you can pretend to cross the border and reach for the half of her desk to see if her hand or body is retracted. If you sit side by side, you can also pretend to lean or lean against her inadvertently and observe her reaction.
The extreme situation of this technique is physical contact or even holding hands and kissing, which is already a well-known Keno trick.
2. The time of cold reading is unusual.
Special speech is a trick to release DHV information by taking advantage of the fact that two people relax in the conversation and the other person's vigilance is also relaxed.
This has created my "companion convention":
For example, mm asks if you have ever been to a place (such as Zhangjiajie), or seen a movie (such as Avatar), or something else. At this time, you can answer like this: "Not yet. You know, not long ago, a MM kept pestering me to go with her, but I really had too many things to do and never made it. " You see, this is indirect DHV.
You can also say that you have been there, and the reason is the same. For example, MM asks if you have ever been to a certain place, and you say that you have, and there happens to be a female friend's hometown there, and you still live in her house. The advantage of saying this is that you are popular with women and will increase women's sense of security for you.
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3. the strategy of cold reading box a and box B.
The strategy of Box A and Box B is to hint at each other's subconscious with preconceived gestures, so that the other party can't help but choose according to your hints, and will think that this is her own choice.
This has created my "handsome agreement":
For example, you are chatting with a MM, and one of your buddies is also present. You can point to yourself and that buddy on the spot and ask MM, "Who do you think is more handsome, me or him?" When you say the word "I", you must be very loud, and at the same time, you must stare at MM and point to yourself and giggle. Even if MM says she is more handsome, it doesn't matter, because subconsciously she may really think you are more handsome, which is undoubtedly DHV. At the same time, express your confidence (or DHV).
Some people may question that this comparison seems to be seeking the approval of MM, not DLV. Actually, it's not, because you ask her in a humorous tone (AFC usually asks MM for approval seriously, so it's DLV), and you point to yourself to guide (or mislead and interfere with) her to make a choice, which can only show your confidence and indifference. This is the real DHV.
4. The double bondage of cold reading.
Double bondage is to use selective questions when making a request, using the premise that a decision has been made-the options you provide are just the way you propose. Because once you ask in a pleading way, it will automatically cause the other person's subconscious "no" reaction.
This created my "convention of receiving numbers":
When you asked MM for her phone number, you said, "Will you leave me your mobile phone number or QQ?" This won't give her a chance to answer directly with "no" If she is still hesitating, say "inconvenient"; Then he went on to say, "Then give me your QQ."
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Cold reading: quickly build her trust in you.
Cold reading in short, cold reading is a skill to make people believe that "this person knows my business", and it can also be said to be a way to win people's trust. It is a way to get to know others in a short time and communicate better.
Understand other people's psychological activities through eye observation, behavior and gestures. Even controlling each other through some words or actions is a common social method.
The first feeling of cold reading:
The so-called cold reading. It refers to cold reading. Cold reading refers to being unprepared. Reading refers to mind reading and occupying the heart. Cold reading refers to seeing through other people's minds when they are unprepared, even when they meet for the first time, so as to communicate with others better. This is a method that psychologists often use in psychotherapy.
Cold reading in short, cold reading is a skill to make people believe that "this person knows my business", and it can also be said to be a way to win people's trust. It is a way to get to know others in a short time and communicate better.
The definition of cold reading:
Understand other people's psychological activities through eye observation, behavior and gestures. Even controlling each other through some words or actions is a common social method.
The second is to use cold reading correctly.
In m3 game, you should use cold reading when a2 passes a3.
Many people like to read coldly, and reading coldly is of no value. Often fail, I believe most brothers have the same confusion. Let me give you two examples.
Exhibit 1: You are in the street, and suddenly someone comes up to you and asks: Who are you and who is xxx? Call your father xxx. Your mother is xxx. At this time, it is generally refuted. That's not true. you are talking to the wrong person.
Evidence 2: I was a soldier somewhere. You look like my comrade in arms. I haven't been able to contact him for so many years. Your father's name is xxx. Does your mother do xxx?
Let's look at two demonstrations. Obviously, the second expression is more acceptable.
So according to m3 theory, DHV should be displayed first. If you look at each other coldly when you come up. She'll be as insecure as showing you clothes. How did this happen, game?
Many students always ask me why my sister always ignores me when I look at the opening remarks coldly. I asked them how to copy the students who started school to me: you have to be a dissatisfied person. Want to change but can't do anything about it.
Cold reading can be started, but your method is not correct.
Next, I would like to recommend three opening remarks for cold reading.
My intuition tells me that you ... I can see you at a glance ... 3) I just noticed. ........
Do you see the difference?
Now I'll tell you three taboos of cold reading (very important) 1) Cold reading should be her positive side 2) Don't make pessimistic predictions 3) Don't let her think you are fascinated.
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The third cold reading case sharing
I usually use cold reading in two places. The first one is after attracting girls. The second is to fight back. Emphasize!
Share a case of cold reading counterattack.
On the street that day, I happened to meet a girl who shook her tail after TD. I played for a while and then disappeared. After seeing her, she was in better shape than before, very impulsive and charming.
When I got home, I dug up her contact information and called (in order to prevent this, I have the habit of keeping everyone's contact information). After the phone call, I heard it was me and hung up the phone directly.
Later, I called twice and answered for the second time. I said directly: don't hang up yet, I just want to say a word.
She said me, it's been so long now, are you looking for * * *?
I said: I saw you sad on the road today, when I was too young. Come out for a drink tomorrow afternoon! She turned me down.
In fact, when a person refuses you, she feels guilty in her heart.
I said again: the afternoon after tomorrow! I hung up without her talking, and then we didn't say a word all night.
Then I picked her up that day. After seeing her, I grabbed her hand directly. She despised me at that time.
I just want to see what else I performed. She still hates me very much. The opposite of hate is a kind of love, and then I go to drink, and I drink one cup at a time.
I cried at once: at that time, I was actually very inferior. The decline of my family can't satisfy your life. I lost my self-esteem in front of you. The most important thing for men is self-esteem ... at that time, many words were forgotten.
There is also bullshit in the middle. Later, I began to look at her coldly: "You must hate me for so long!"! You've taken on more than you can bear at your age. You must be unhappy now. Your personality is not suitable for being with her at all. In fact, I have never forgotten you for so many years. "
She said, "Why didn't you tell me this?"
I said, "I can't say. I have lost my self-esteem. I tell you so much, there is no other meaning. " I just want to tell you that you must really want to slap me with a stick. You must really want to get back at me for so many years. Only in this way can I feel better. It should be us, not you and her. "
She cried when she said this, so I just sat there and hugged him. She said that it is not good for you to be seen like this.
Then let's talk over there! I'm staying at the hotel over there. It's very relaxing in the back.
She finally said, I have hated you for so many years, but I didn't expect to hate you after seeing you.