Introduction: The work of professional psychological counselors mainly includes the following contents: obtaining information about psychological problems and psychological obstacles of visitors from information sources such as visitors and their families; Comprehensive evaluation of visitors' psychological growth, personality development, intelligence, social, family and marriage life events, and summary of psychological and physiological tests; According to the psychological development history and psychophysiological investigation results, when visitors are found to have mental disorders or physical diseases in psychological counseling, they should ask for counseling or transfer to other specialties in time.
First, self-growth analysis
Everyone who comes into this world asks himself, "Who am I?" Countless times in his life. . This question seems simple, and it seems that many answers can be given without thinking. However, when we calm down and ask deeply, we find that all the existing answers can't fully and accurately reflect the essence. Everyone in this world is so unique and magical. With the current wisdom of mankind, it is almost impossible to grasp it absolutely, but this does not prevent us from trying our best to explore, get closer to the goal bit by bit, and finally find a relatively complete self.
I think that every healthy baby born into this world inherits the basic attributes of human beings from his parents' genes, and has all kinds of development potentials and unlimited possibilities for growth. As for what kind of person he will eventually become, it is largely determined by his growth experience, social environment and life events. Looking back on my growing process, I feel that my childhood life experience and emotional experience have played a decisive role in making me who I am today.
When I was a child, my parents separated for work reasons. My father is in Chongqing and my mother is in Fuling. Although not far apart, it seems to me that the whole family is separated by Qianshan, and it often takes half a year to get together once a year. I remember when I was three years old, my parents were busy with work and often worked overtime, so I had no time to take care of my children. So I had to be sent to a full-time kindergarten in Chongqing, and I could only go home to accompany my father one day a week. At that time, I felt lonely and helpless. Many times, I can't feel the warmth of my family, let alone have the opportunity to be spoiled. The attachment relationship with relatives was not well established, which made me feel insecure for a long time and left many shadows on my young mind.
Later, when I was five or six years old, I lived in Fuling with my mother, and I encountered a difficult period. Because my mother is the principal of a primary school, I was dragged out by the rebels to fight. I saw five kinds of "rich, anti-righteous" elements standing on the stage with their heads down, and the dignity of being a human being was trampled on at will. Words can't describe the devastation suffered by my fragile mind, so that for a long time, my life was always shrouded in the shadow of inferiority, fear and retreat.
It was not until 1979, when I was 16 years old, that I took the national college entrance examination and was easily admitted to a national key university, that I began to regain some self-confidence and began to consciously look for my own advantages, evaluate myself and others with a relatively objective attitude, and observe people and things in the world with my own eyes, instead of always denying myself and looking at things through other people's pupils as in the past. Maybe this is the so-called growth! Since then, I have gradually felt like an adult ―― I feel that I am shouldering some responsibilities, and I naturally have to bear some things in my life. Today, when I understand some life truths and look back on my growing experience, I find that the setbacks and pains I suffered in the past are not completely worthless, on the contrary, they have far-reaching effects. Nothing, I can't understand the values of kindness and sincerity in life as deeply as I do now; Without those things, I can't feel the painful and helpless hearts in my life as sensitively as I do now. Today, I have more tolerance, understanding and care for people and things around me, and I am no longer obsessed with personal gains and losses. So some people say that "there is room for growth behind setbacks and pains."
Second, the analysis of professional behavior
Frankly speaking, my original intention of studying psychology is to help myself. Although I have read many books on humanities since I entered the university, I have been trying to find the goal and meaning of life, but in the ever-changing times, I still often feel confused and confused in the face of all kinds of temptations in life. So after I got my MBA, I went to the psychology seminar of Sichuan University. At that time, I didn't want to be a psychological counselor. I just hoped that I could live more relaxed and happy, and I could face all kinds of pressures in my life more calmly. Through study, observation and thinking, my mental health level has really improved greatly, but at the same time, I found that many friends around me have psychological problems of one kind or another, and even some friends ended their lives prematurely because of unbearable psychological burden. This makes me personally feel how a person's psychological problems cruelly destroy their lives, kill their will and reduce their ability to feel the joy of life. I hope everyone around me can feel the beauty of life from the heart and have the ability to create the life they want and become a complete person, thus gradually sprouting the desire to be a psychological counselor. Later, in June 5438 +XX 10, I went to Beijing to attend the "Founding Conference of China Psychological Counseling and Therapy Society" and participated in a group counseling workshop on parenting education, which further strengthened my determination and confidence in psychological counseling.
Of course, I still have a long way to go to become an excellent psychological counselor. Psychological counseling is both a science and an art, and the scientific truth is not difficult to understand, but it is not easy to apply the counseling technology to every visitor. There is no shortcut to really learn psychological counseling, especially to master the skills of psychological counseling, work creatively and help visitors solve problems effectively. You can only learn and understand in practice, and gradually improve and improve.
When I really started consulting visitors, I found that it was not the theory, skills and methods that really decided the psychological consultation process, but the counselor's own personality. Only a healthy and stable personality is the fundamental guarantee for psychological counselors to obtain counseling results. The health and integrity of the counselor's personality determines and limits the degree to which psychological counseling can achieve curative effect. Therefore, the counselor's understanding and analysis of himself and the counselor's self-growth are the most critical factors in psychological counseling. 2 1
In addition, the ethical requirement of psychological counseling is to respect and care for people, which must be reflected in a good counseling relationship, which is also a humanistic value. I agree that humanistic values should be the common values and ethical requirements of all psychological counselors. Humanism theory may be the psychological counseling with the least emphasis on counseling technology, but it emphasizes understanding and respect for human nature. It believes that everyone has the inner strength of self-growth and self-improvement. Therefore, we must firmly believe that it is not that we have solved his problem for the visitor, but that the visitor has the potential ability to solve his own problems. With our help, he finally solved his own problem. According to this truth, in fact, psychological counseling is not inscrutable. As long as we can adhere to the people-oriented concept and provide a counseling environment conducive to the personal growth and perfection of visitors, I believe he will be able to break free from the pain and solve his own problems. From this point of view, compared with consulting theory and skills, it is more important to establish a good consulting relationship with visitors, pay unconditional attention to them, and understand, accept and respect them. The purpose of learning theory and skills is to realize the fundamental idea of taking visitors as the center to the greatest extent in the consultation process.
In addition, everyone engaged in psychological counseling must also attach great importance to the problem of "job burnout". Psychological consultation is a process in which psychological energy of psychological counselors is constantly paid. In this process, counselors are prone to loneliness, frustration and powerlessness, and some even fall into psychological barriers. If the psychological problems of psychological counselors themselves are not fully self-recognized and solved in time, it will inevitably affect their ability to help others and even make them victims of psychological counseling. Because no one in the world is perfect in mental health, and psychological counselors are no exception. This requires every junior and intermediate consultant to have a more experienced professional to supervise himself. On the one hand, it helps us solve some difficult problems in our work, on the other hand, it also meets our own psychological needs and constantly supplements our new energy to face new visitors.
The self-knowledge and self-growth of psychological counselors are endless, and the road ahead is rugged and long. How will I face it? There is a good saying: "We have already started, are we still afraid of the long journey?"
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