Some people say that if you like someone, there will be endless topics, which makes sense. If you really like each other, say shit and fart.
Others say that you can't be tired of it all the time. Love also needs to breathe. That's right. Everyone needs some freedom and space.
So, there is no need to worry about talking to her every day. Worried that chatting with girls every day will disturb you.
Say what you want, and don't say what you don't want. This is the most comfortable state of love.
The reason why you take chatting so seriously is because you regard it as a task.
This is a completely passive thing. Passivity is hard to make people feel happy. You should turn passivity into initiative.
Don't take chatting with her as a daily necessity. Everyone has limited energy. If they are in a bad state, they will definitely not get good grades in the exam.
A careless person can easily spoil his conversation. Liaocheng licks the dog and becomes a flattering eunuch.
Instead of focusing on the number of chats, we should focus on the quality of chats.
The key is whether you can give her the feeling of love when chatting.
If your chat is interesting, she can come to talk to you instead of her.
If you can talk to her every day on the basis of fun, she will soon have feelings for you.
Therefore, it is more important than anything to improve the quality of chat and ensure that every chat you have is attractive to her.
As for whether to chat with her every day, it doesn't matter
If you have more time and energy, you can talk to her every day, so that your's feelings will warm up quickly.
But if you have limited time and energy, you don't have to worry that she will have a problem with you. It's so interesting to chat with you. If you talk every few days, she may miss you day and night.
Now you have to worry about "will it bother you to talk to girls every day?" Distressed?
Let's make our chat more interesting quickly.
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Here are five most practical suggestions:
1. Avoid "hypocritical chatting"?
② Avoid "topic terminator"?
3 don't "talk to yourself"?
4. Don't "make an expression pack without a word"?
Don't insist when you are in a bad state.
Before it is too late, let's get this straight.
① Avoid "false chat"
Are you like this?
Send her good morning every morning, send her good night before going to bed, remind her to eat on time when it is time to eat, and remind her to pay attention to safety before going out. ...
But it doesn't work, does it?
Whether a girl likes you or not depends not on how long you keep sending her messages, but on whether you make her feel good.
I have asked many girls, if a man sends her greetings every day, asks her if she is well and cares about her everywhere, will he be very moved?
The answer is "no"
In the eyes of girls, this kind of hospitality has a purpose, but it is hypocritical to make it clear. He looks like a gentleman on the surface, and his back is full of huahuachangzi.
The meticulous care you insist on is actually flattering in the eyes of girls and can't give them a reliable feeling.
In the final analysis, it is not that you are not good enough, but that you are not strong enough. Women crave strength.
Women don't like men who can be easily obtained without any effort. She only thinks that such a man has no other ability except to express his concern in words.
They prefer men who have independent ideas, are not centered on her and dare to refuse her.
If you are always habitually echoing when chatting with a girl and being nice to her, she will feel bored. She has been exporting, and she can't get your interesting feedback.
Be sure to stay true to yourself and say what you have. Don't be afraid even if some dissatisfaction will make girls unhappy. Speak out boldly, girls often have feelings for men who dare to challenge themselves.
② Avoid "topic terminator"
I think there must be many boys who have talked for a long time without letting girls really know themselves.
What's the problem?
You have no extension of interaction, no suitable topic terminator, and no chance for girls to answer the phone.
You told her that you were eating, but you didn't say what you ate, whether it was delicious or not, and you didn't know how to take pictures.
You said you were tired at work today, but you didn't tell me why you were tired, what you did and why.
When a girl asks you "What are you doing", you say "Washing dishes". What do you want her to say?
In fact, you can say "washing dishes while listening to music", or simply video with her, or take a clean and tidy photo and send it to her after washing.
In this way, there is a sense of picture, a topic to continue chatting, and an image of a good man at home.
Always the end of the topic. Let the girls try to answer the questions. After a long time, everyone will get bored.
If you talk like this for another year, you won't feel anything. She will think you are not active and enthusiastic.
Chatting is about getting emotional. The content is lively and interesting.
Don't just talk to her regularly and quantitatively every day, sell yourself as a commodity, and let the other party know what advantages you have implicitly.
Let your's life dissolve in each other, and let her feel what you are really doing every day, how you feel and where your advantages lie.
So she can substitute herself into it and imagine what it will be like to live with you in the future.
Don't talk to yourself.
Some men don't know how to express themselves, but they know how to express themselves too well.
When chatting with girls, show your strengths and achievements too hard.
Being only interested in your own affairs is a common feature of everyone, but when you get along with girls, being eager to show yourself will only make her disgusted.
She will also wonder if your advantages are exaggerated, packaged and boasted.
Most importantly, you killed her chance to show herself.
You want to show your Excellence, and so does she. Women often have more to say about chatting.
But if the other person keeps chattering, she won't interrupt or cut off the conversation out of courtesy.
But she will sigh in her heart that this man is completely to show off himself, a narcissistic group.
How can chatting become a one-man show?
I have been engaged in the emotional industry for so long, and I have been trusted by so many brothers because I never talk to myself.
I will consult many boys and girls on every question, listen to their real thoughts, and leave more opportunities for each other to speak.
When the other person is enjoying himself, I will give my opinion again, and they often find the interaction with me interesting.
Giving others a chance is also giving yourself a chance. Only by listening to each other a little more can we understand each other's thoughts, and so can our feelings.
If you want to chat interesting, you must not ignore the essence of "interaction". You can show yourself implicitly, but don't hold on to the microphone.
(4) Don't "make an expression pack if you don't agree with a word"
Embarrassment in chatting is very common, but many boys have a problem, that is, they look at their expression packs when they are embarrassed.
In fact, it can't ease the embarrassing atmosphere, but only ease your own tension.
Girls are not as harsh as you think. If you really want to chat, you can naturally bypass it. There is no need to die.
Many times, you don't need to send a series of expression packs, which will only make you look weak, unconfident and not manly enough.
Chatting can talk about inferiority, so how can girls be interested in chatting?
The expression pack is a good thing, but a good knife should be used on the blade. If you want to make chatting interesting, you must learn to use emoticons skillfully.
For example, some words are ambiguous, and there is a risk of greasy when they are spoken. They can be replaced by expression packs of kissing and hugging.
For example, some words are very serious, and it is easy to reduce the atmosphere when you say them. You can neutralize them with teasing expressions.
For example, if you suddenly have to pee or go downstairs to get takeout, and you are worried that it is not good to hang her, you can comfort her with an expression pack.
Girls have no resistance to that kind of small, fresh and lovely expression pack, and occasionally one will only fascinate her.
But many boys didn't notice the beauty of Yan characters. They just send a string of words to cover up their embarrassment when they are embarrassed and have nothing to say and don't know how to answer.
Do you get angry when you meet this kind of screen on weekdays?
Put yourself in the other person's shoes and you will know how she feels when she sees these expression packs. Two words, boring.
Don't insist when you are in a bad state.
Sometimes when friends have dinner, I always see a phenomenon.
When we eat together, there are always several buddies chatting with their girlfriends while eating.
Eating is very inattentive, chatting is also very uninterested, talking to us, perfunctory if you can, chatting with your girlfriend, brief if you can.
In fact, this is very meaningless.
You should have fun when you come out to play. If you eat, you should enjoy delicious food. We can talk later, or we can just go out for a chat and come back to play.
Otherwise, it is easy to fall into a situation where both ends are not pleasing. If you offend your friends, your girlfriend will find chatting boring.
Flirting is also conditional. Chatting with girls is a technical activity, and it also needs independent time and space. The most important thing is that the country is in place.
It's not as simple as answering a few words. Don't underestimate those lines. Your attitude and mood when chatting can be fully reflected.
Chatting can only be interesting if the state is in place.
Finally, sum up.
If you are sure to bring strong feelings to girls during the chat, then it is no problem to chat that day and every night.
I believe that she will break the defense soon, and the deer will bump into each other and lose the principle to you.
But if your chat level is not so high and your state is not so good, it is useless to chat every day. It is better to chat every once in a while and give yourself some time to recharge.
So it doesn't make sense to talk every day, but it's about the transmission of feelings.
I'm Li, a retired person and an active emotional counselor. May there be no more difficult love.