This book consists of eight chapters, and I took notes from some points that I personally think particularly touched me.
What is a quality project?
Boutiques are not luxuries, but things that need careful use and maintenance, such as crystal cups, which take a lot of time to use. Be careful when cleaning, because it is easy to break if you are not careful, and be careful to leave fingerprints on it. At the same time, caring for things is an elegant behavior. If you do this, your body will remember that you should cherish others and things and behave calmly.
The basic principle of less but better.
Starting from simplifying life, the popular "breakup" in recent years is constantly reminding us to expand our living space and throw away some unused items. The author suggests that you should carefully choose three sets of clothes suitable for your own style in daily wear, so that you can be calm and decent no matter where you meet people.
Elegant speech is bound to be accompanied by elegant manners, and elegant living space will make you beautiful. If you want to be beautiful, you must first make your living space beautiful.
What kind of life is a quality life?
Simply put, it is a life in which you can spend most of your time on cultural activities. In other words, it is a life that can cultivate sentiment and cultivate the ability to perceive beautiful things. As long as you can perceive beauty well, you can live a luxurious and beautiful life. Having a sense of beauty is the prerequisite for you to live a good life.
As long as it is used for self-improvement, you don't have to be stingy with time, money and energy, but things that are not beneficial to self-improvement can be simplified.
Excessive savings, high self-control, extravagance and waste will not enrich our lives. Rest, relaxation, intellectual entertainment, free time … these are definitely not wasted.
How can you concentrate when you perceive time with your body? Set yourself a time, 15 minutes or 20 minutes, during which you just need to focus on what you are doing. If you can't do it, try it for five minutes, and then you can do other things. Continue if necessary, take a deep breath, relax and start over. Through this kind of training, your whole body will be full of vitality, and you will no longer feel that it is always too late, but become like you are actively catching up with time and mentally exhausted.
Beautiful appearance, healthy body and good conduct all depend on personal efforts. Remind yourself wisely to improve your appearance and stay healthy. Always making excuses for your laziness will expose your shortcomings, which is the same as often lamenting that you are not qualified or lack of ability, which will make people question your IQ.
In fact, the most important thing about appearance is expression. To be beautiful in expression depends on both internal and external cultivation. Let's talk about eyes first. A pair of bright eyes will add a lot to your appearance. Practice in front of the mirror every day to see how to make your eyes full of brilliance. Then smile. A smiling face must look more beautiful than an angry face.
You should be satisfied with every little thing, don't let the feelings of failure and regret accumulate in your heart, learn to accept failure, actively think about countermeasures and welcome a new day.
If you make excuses blindly and pass the responsibility on to others, your expression will become gloomy and terrible, in short, you have no good face. Instead, simply admit failure, tell yourself and others that "next time will be better" and make your face full of sunshine.
In the dead of night, try to recall the happiest thing of the day, have a spiritual dialogue with yourself, and comfort yourself with the gentlest words you can think of. What kind of words are the gentlest? Most of them are words of thanks. Therefore, saying thank you to yourself before going to bed can make you fall into a gentle dream.
After waking up in the morning, tell yourself in the mirror what you want to achieve today and make yourself happy. For example, "We must make progress today and reap a better life!"
Whether you are thin or fat, it is your posture that determines whether you give the impression of ugliness or beauty. As the saying goes, "one white covers all the ugliness", especially with a tall and straight posture, can cover up the defects of appearance and figure.
Beautiful posture and manners will give people the feeling of "this is a beautiful woman", and it is not only a beautiful face, but also a temperament.
Besides, having a beautiful posture is the origin of keeping healthy.
Replace the mirror at home with a full-length mirror, and often take a photo to see if there is a camel on your back, if your posture is elegant, and if you walk well.
Muscle strength can beautify body posture and cover up the shortcomings of body shape. Muscles can't keep their posture straight without strength, so they must exercise, such as walking fast or lifting dumbbells to exercise their strength.
With less muscle, basal metabolism will also decrease, and people will easily get fat. This is why people tend to get fat in middle age. If you start to have a small belly, you should try to exercise your abdominal muscles in various ways.
People with hunchbacks should get into the habit of exercising their back muscles. When sitting, you can stretch your legs forward and exercise your back muscles. You can also be more active and ask a special fitness instructor to guide you in fitness.
Doing exercise before going to bed at night can help you stay beautiful and healthy.
Don't get up immediately when you wake up in the morning. Give yourself a minute. Beauty, health and good sleep are the foundation of the foundation. The quality of sleep does not lie in the length of time. Early to bed, early to rise and deep sleep are more important.
People often say that exercise is helpful to sleep, but if you exercise for too long during the day, even if you fall asleep at night, your brain will not rest and you will still feel very tired. Only when the body and mind are completely relaxed can we get high-quality sleep.
In addition, it is necessary to keep warm. Keep your feet warm and choose a comfortable position to sleep. Keep your neck warm when you sleep, so you won't catch a cold easily.
If conditions permit, it is best to sleep for seven and a half hours.
As long as you pay attention to the choice of high-quality water, oil and fresh ingredients, it is not too complicated.
A hearty breakfast is the ideal state. If you can't afford it, you should at least try to eat some fruits, vegetables, milk, yogurt or mixed juice made from these ingredients.
Breakfast is suitable for eating fruits and raw vegetables, and it is better to eat cooked vegetables for lunch and dinner, which is better for your health.
Dinner is best eaten between six and seven. Take your time.
When we see a noble figure, it is easy to think that he is born perfect. Indeed, a person's birth, growth environment, personality and conduct depend more on the efforts made the day after tomorrow. As long as we can cultivate the ability to perceive beautiful things in our daily life, our personality will gradually improve.
First of all, you should be honest with yourself, act decisively in the face of difficulties, and never say one thing and do another. In this way, your thoughts will be clear, you will see things more clearly and you will leave a good impression.
If you want to live a noble life, you can't leave yourself clean and say "nothing can be done" no matter what difficulties you encounter.
You should have the courage to take over things and take responsibility for what you have said with practical actions. This kind of courage is not so much ability as perseverance.
So how can we cultivate our perception of beauty?
It is nothing more than appreciating beautiful things and imitating quality life. Learn to make handicrafts and learn to live a more elegant life. No matter how small things are, making handicrafts itself has the function of purifying the soul. It can fill the spiritual emptiness that high-priced luxury goods can't fill, and bring you luxurious and rich life feelings.
The author gives us the following suggestions:
Observe the shapes of branches and leaves.
Feel the temperature of the wind.
Look at how clouds drift in the air.
Listen to the rain.
Listen to the wind blowing the leaves.
Smell the leaves.
Stand barefoot on the ground and feel the temperature of the earth.
Experience the natural rhythm of underwater sounds and waves.
As long as your heart can calm down at these times and blend in with the feeling of nature, then your life will be more luxurious than owning a villa in a high-end residential area.
When discussing this issue, one thing can't be ignored, and that is connections. People are social animals, so connections are very important.
The key to networking is not to think of others as your own use, but to make yourself useful to others. When we communicate with people, it is often difficult to avoid the following mistakes: we attach great importance to each other, but we are too busy to contact; I know I often go to the temperature where I can maintain my relationship, but I didn't do it because I was too troublesome. In this way, hard-won contacts will be lost.
Everything should be positive. Being positive means doing it as soon as you think about it, not putting it off. It is a small progress to finish what you can do today and not put it off until tomorrow.
Here I learned a new word "immediate action" about weak execution, which means the processing ability at the moment I think.
1. If a person has many luxuries but can't give people the feeling of high taste, it may be because he didn't spend time and energy to maintain them. Only when high-quality things are integrated into elegant living habits can they truly show their value.
People get along with high-quality things for a long time, their horizons and tastes will be high, and their words and deeds will be elegant. A high-quality thing, no matter its appearance or feel, will give people a good enjoyment and make people relax. Their modeling design not only considers practical factors, but also has good ornamental value, which makes people feel peaceful and satisfied.
In order to enjoy food better, you should always cook by yourself.
Making good use of subtraction in life can polish your personality more and more brightly. The number of fine products you have in time is limited, but with your wisdom and mind, you will not feel lacking, and the fine products you have and your personal temperament will gradually reach a high degree of unity.
People who are good at packaging are also good at designing their own lives. Being able to put their things in order means that they have taken the first step towards a high-quality life.
6. Clean up the fine products and treat them with care. You may feel nervous and troublesome at first, but when these negative emotions disappear, you will be surprised to find that your behavior is different from the past.
7. We are tired of cleaning, because cleaning is a repetitive job. Although it seems to be repetitive, it is not exactly the same every time. "Repetition" itself is the most basic training for yourself. We temper our minds by repetition and get rid of other ideas. Complete self-improvement.
8. Pearl necklaces are very durable and worth having for a lifetime, but not everyone and all clothes are suitable for pearl necklaces. And even if you are suitable, you should study how big the pearl is and how long the necklace is most suitable for you.
9. Processing old useless things and giving them new uses is usually called waste utilization. Waste utilization will stimulate our whimsy and cultivate people's creativity. This process itself is a kind of enjoyment for those who pursue quality life.
10. With the improvement of taste, appearance and temperament will change.
1 1, people can't see elegance and calmness when they are nervous and dissatisfied.
12. The basic principle of storage is that you should distinguish between what you need every day and what you don't need temporarily.
13. The so-called high-quality life means that you can spend your limited time on high-quality things and things, and always perceive beauty and create beauty in your life.
14. Smart women will find places to improve themselves from the vast amount of information, and those who maintain good living habits will certainly be elegant in live high.
15. The real intellectuality is not deliberately publicized, but unconsciously exuded between gestures.