Liu Juan teaches in Chengdu. Not far from home. It's only three hours by high-speed rail. She also wants to buy her own home and her own nest, but she has no money.
When she teaches, she stays on campus, and her parents can go back to their hometown when they are alive. Now she is homeless. Now her home belongs to her sister-in-law, and going home is also her home. Speaking of going home, Liu Juan is still embarrassed.
The house in my hometown is not big either. There are always six bungalows. His two brothers. A sister and she have no spare room and kitchen for cooking.
After the two brothers get married, dad will turn the original bungalow into a building. She and her sister moved upstairs. As the children of the two brothers grow up. Liu Juan lived with his sister and gave the house to his nephew and daughter.
Nephews and daughters are growing up and want to have their own privacy and space. They all want Liu Juan to get married as soon as possible. Make room for the house.
Regarding the housing problem, my eldest brother really made a sum of money outside. I want to build a house outside. But eldest brother lost all his money gambling, and still owed an account with no money.
The second brother has no ability to farm at home and has no money to build a house. Second brother gave birth to a girl, if only the girl got married. So second brother and second sister-in-law don't have to build a house.
Big brother has no money to build a house, and the couple often quarrel. Sister-in-law divorced a long time ago for the children. It is really annoying for parents and eldest brother and sister-in-law to solve the housing problem. It will be difficult to build a house outside for a while.
According to rural customs, when parents are old, the house where Liu Juan got married should belong to them. After a hundred years of parents, the ownership of the house must be the son, no doubt.
Rural custom daughters as long as their daughters get married, the house is their son's. Eldest brother and sister-in-law have no money to build a house. Only when Liu Juan gets married can the house be enough. Although the house is dilapidated, it is better than nothing.
Liu Juan also wants to get married as soon as possible, but there must be a suitable one.
Liu Juan changed from an innocent and romantic girl to an older girl. I'm going straight to middle age. Liu Juan's family, anxious to go crazy.
Every time Liu Juan fails in marriage and love, she is scolded by her parents. Her wedding became a permanent pain in her parents' hearts.
If you don't marry the right person, you will inevitably be ridiculed by your sister-in-law.
Her marriage has attracted unusual attention from relatives and friends. Every time love fails, the failure of blind date makes parents so sad that mothers even want to break up with their children. Scold her for not coming home many times. Even screaming to jump off a building or hang himself.
The custom in the countryside is that women only need to get married. Your family is not your home. You should form a small family from family of origin, and your new home is your home.
In fact, this statement is not entirely correct, because girls should get married when they reach school age. Once you get married, this family no longer belongs to you.
Liu Juan knew that she definitely wanted to buy a house in her hometown, have a small nest of her own, and have a world of her own. Even a single apartment is satisfied as long as there is a place to rest. But the money she earned and all her savings were "sucked dry" by the wives of her two brothers. ...
Liu Juan tried not to go home today. She also knows that no one will welcome her home. Everyone hates her coming home. Since people who go home cause more trouble, they might as well not go home. When can I get married and start a family without worrying about my marriage? She's really not sure, because what a person can't do, she can't get married if she wants to.
(2)
Liu Juan's life and marriage are quite unfortunate and sad.
Liu Juan is the third of the sisters, with two older brothers and one younger sister. In the ranking of families, parents often ignore it. If there is a brother above and a little sister below, they often don't get distressed and loved. Liu Juan grew up like this. I have never been distressed by my parents and taken care of by my brother.
When Liu Juan was a child, his parents went out to work all the year round to make a living. Just like left-behind children, Liu Juan is taken care of by her grandparents. Liu Juan can't stay with his parents for a long time, and he loses emotional communication. Parents often have almost no words around them. Parents' feelings are often wordless and indifferent.
Liu Juan kept out of trouble since he was a child and was introverted. Although not beautiful.
Silent, good at study, never let parents worry about it from childhood. The academic performance is not bad. Although not admitted to a key university, but admitted to an ordinary university.
When a naive and romantic girl was a girl, she also had someone she liked very much. She shed tears when she knew that the person she liked and secretly loved walked into the marriage hall hand in hand with a girl.
She is still young and has never really been in love. Many of her classmates on campus are in love and married, but none of her is in love and married. I don't seem to like anyone.
She has been teaching in fourth-tier cities until she graduated from college and joined the work, but there are fewer and fewer activity circles and friends of the opposite sex.
Liu Juan's parents often forget Liu Juan's feelings for her heterosexual friends who have been working for two years, and think that she has the ability to solve her own marriage problems. I can't believe I'm still single after teaching for many years.
They attach great importance to their daughter's marriage. Introduce her to the right person and remember that her daughter's marriage was neglected by her parents. Made her a big girl. Liu Juan's marriage is still sinful. I intend to compensate my parents for their kindness to Liu Juan.
However, in the blind date market, when Liu Juan was introduced by matchmakers or relatives and friends, she didn't have any superfluous words, lacking the romantic and charming smile that women should have and the shining point that girls should have.
The result of blind date is that I often don't see her, and some people dislike her a little rustic. More people don't like wooden personality and rural background. Some people dislike that she is not beautiful enough or attractive enough.
Some boys are more realistic and don't like her family and low salary.
Of course, there are still some blind date targets that Liu Juan despises, and Liu Juan didn't ask for them. It's just that her requirements are lower than the average person, and the highlights are not fully displayed, which leads to the failure of marriage.
Time has passed, and I am 32 years old. I missed the proud age of girls. She realized that I had missed my proud youth. At this age, I am really a little worried and afraid of my marriage. I think it takes a lot of time and energy to pick and choose, and I still can't get married all my life. I'm afraid I'll be lonely until I get old.
(3)
At the age of 35, Liu Juan met a boy through a blind date in the blind date market. The boy is a countryman, and his age and work unit are better than Liu Juan. Pockmarked face The height is only 1.55 meters, half a centimeter lower than that of Liu Juan, which is not the focus of Liu Juan's aversion.
Both sides are old and qualified, and both can know each other's shortcomings. Everyone wants to know each other, so they talk about love.
After being in love for several months, Liu Juan has no interest in love. Love is a painful thing.
There is no * * * topic between them, and it is hard for the other party to say a word of concern. It's hard to say a superfluous word. Talking occasionally is also a topic of work.
The most common topic is: "What are you doing? Have you eaten? A few words.
But Liu Juan was very enthusiastic about him. I feel like an older girl. I take the initiative to the man and often invite him to dinner and chat.
I didn't expect my initiative to become a man's hate. I was too cheap and looked down upon by men. His initiative was rejected by that man.
Liu Juan gradually lost confidence. Lost the mood of actively pursuing marital happiness.
Liu Juan, who is introverted, is more reserved, and there are fewer and fewer words between them. Be swayed by considerations of gain and loss from now on.
Liu Juan in the mind also don't want to give up this love, also want to cherish this opportunity. I wish the contact with time is getting better and better, and my feelings are warming up with time. Unexpectedly, he had a very ambiguous message with another woman.
I also talked with him on the phone about some warm emotional topics, which made Liu Juan very sad.
The other party said that Liu Juan made a fuss and didn't understand or respect him.
In a rage, Liu Juan broke up, but the man didn't agree.
He laughed at Liu Juan and said, "I talked to my eldest daughter about breaking up? I should have broken up, and you should also think about your age and your value. "
The two broke up in discord and never continued. Ended this absurd relationship.
Liu Juan, who was lovelorn, was very sad when she told her parents about this relationship. Mother didn't understand, but she scolded for the first time: Liu Juan's marriage failed many times, and she had accumulated patience in her parents' hearts for a long time. When Liu Juan's marriage fails again, let her parents take this opportunity to say: The failure is all your fault. You are too picky. It's good if someone asks you. You still hit people and have no idea of the truth. Still a teacher. If you stay at home, how can we get out? We will lose face if you stay at home for another day. You humiliated my family by staying in this house. I'm embarrassed to stay at home and go out. wait for ...
I didn't expect his mother to scold him like this, without considering his feelings and the quality of his marriage. Rushed into the room and cried, I really want to marry myself early, too. Is it because I'm single and I'm not at ease with my family, so the happiness of Origin and Fate is ruined? Is it a shame for the family to be single and not find the right person? Is it a kind of harm? You didn't consider that your daughter is going to marry someone she likes. This is not a marriage. After all, it's not a joke. You can't just marry someone you don't like. His singleness was criticized by his family.
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After ending this painful relationship, Liu Juan was very pessimistic about marriage. He thought he was still a highly educated college student and a teaching teacher. Why is his marriage like this? No matter how hard you try, marriage will never succeed. He also felt very strange and puzzled. Is it because you lack femininity? Why is everyone so willing to find Mr. Right? Is it your own fault, or is your vision too high?
We should adjust our mentality and change our mood. He wants to start a new relationship and marry himself as soon as possible. Now she jumped for joy.
A distant relative introduced him to a blind date. The men here are also rural, and their family conditions are not good, but their education and people are good, they are polite and a little handsome.
When they started to get in touch, Liu Juan was also cautious and wanted to fall in love with him before entering the marriage hall. But his family is urging him to seize the opportunity to get married early. His parents told him that at your age, you should find an older or married man. Who can meet such a first marriage? A man should be your blessing. If you miss it, you will never have a chance to grasp it. Seize the opportunity and ignore the wishes of parents.
Under the pressure of parents urging their families. Some people think that we should cherish this opportunity, find a lover, get married early, and don't let parents worry about their marriage. It wasn't long before their love came to the stage of talking about marriage.
Liu Juan's marriage is going well. I am in a good mood at the thought of my daughter getting married. But wait, one day this man will happily come and marry his daughter home. His best friend in college told him that during his love in college, he caused girls to miscarry and miscarry many times. I was in a pornographic place when I was single.
People in their thirties have never been in love, and his thoughts and views are really conservative. I can't tolerate such a stain on my own man. This behavior of a man makes him collapse inside.
I remember that the man I love once had it, and for him, I let other girls into pornographic places. If you consider getting married, you will definitely not change your nature, and you will definitely cheat and quarrel in the future. How painful it is to live like this. Found his weakness and should stick to it in time. Now that we have found his stain, we should stop the loss in time. In order to avoid the painful days after marriage, Liu Juan broke up decisively.
I think breaking up almost drove my parents crazy. My family and sister-in-law both said, "It's a thing of the past to blame Liu Juan for being rude and unreasonable. He told you frankly that you should give others a chance. As long as he corrects his shortcomings, you must tolerate him. Sincere change, why forgive others. A lot of age, what to choose? Are you crazy or short-circuited?
Liu Juan knew that his failed marriage had angered everyone and his family again, and they all jumped out to scold themselves. Staying at home is a kind of pressure for them, an invisible injury, which makes them lift their heads. But I can't stand men leaving a stain on my heart. Is it wrong to pursue my marriage happiness?
Liu Juan was heartbroken by the reproaches of his parents and family, and he didn't want to go back to that house to stop them from abusing him again.
I can't get by myself anyway, and I really can't be with him. The boy had nothing to say about it and decided to give up this love and marriage. However, he soon entered the marriage hall hand in hand with another woman.
The failure of this marriage broke my parents' hearts. If they want to break off the relationship between their children and her, their parents will abandon her in marriage and leave her alone as if she had never given birth.
Liu Juan can't tolerate any emotional stain. If you are not strong, you must face the inner pain. Now, she is trying to find someone to marry. The wedding day is bound to be restless and the family is not harmonious. Knowing how to stop loss in time and step on the brakes in time in marriage is all for your own good.
Since there is not much room for her in her family, it is better to turn it out early. Redesign your life, your marriage.
Teach well, raise enough down payment with loans and pay off the mortgage every month. I have a family and a nest, and I can do whatever I want, but my single family forced me out. Lost home. Why don't you give yourself a home? This idea can't be wrong. The way to get married will be found slowly, and everything that comes will come. I silently wish that day will come soon.