Is it necessary to pursue fairness in marriage?
Some people may think that since they are married, husband and wife should be inseparable. What is yours is mine, and what is mine is yours. Why is it so clear? If the division is too clear, it will look unfamiliar.
But I think, although married, both husband and wife should pursue fairness. This fairness is actually to maintain the balance of marriage. In particular, the intervention of family members of both husband and wife should pursue fairness.
For example, if you give 5,000 yuan to your parents in the New Year, you should also give 5,000 yuan to the other parents. This will be fairer and make the other half feel better.
Don't underestimate this fairness, it plays a great role in marriage, and sometimes even destroys a marriage.
This fairness requires both husband and wife to be clear in their marriage, but they also need to face the intervention of family members to ensure this clear attitude.
What changes and contradictions will happen in marriage if you meet a mother-in-law who robs the rich and helps the poor? And how do couples deal with this situation? The story we told today is about this problem.
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Unfortunately, Yan Liu met such a mother-in-law who robbed the rich and helped the poor. Over the years, because of this mother-in-law, Yan Liu's marriage has been made a fuss, and there is no peace for a moment.
Yan Liu and her husband were introduced by friends. They have been in love for a while and feel that they are both suitable for each other. So I got married.
Yan Liu learned that her husband has a younger brother who is two years younger than him and has been living with his parents.
Yan Liu doesn't care. After all, she married her husband, not his family. As long as the husband and wife agree.
After marriage, Yan Liu and her husband bought two houses in the county through their own efforts. Yan Liu thinks that one can live by himself and the other can be rented out, which is also considered as income.
Since getting married, the only thing that makes Yan Liu unhappy is that her mother-in-law is eccentric. Everything is about his youngest son. Yan Liu and his wife always rob the rich to help the poor.
For example, husbands and wives have to pay off their mortgages and live on the money they earn every month. Mother-in-law asks her eldest son for 1000 yuan every month on the grounds that she needs alimony when she is old.
Yan Liu learned that the money was given to her youngest son, her brother-in-law in Yan Liu.
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Yan Liu flew into a rage when he mentioned his brother-in-law. I'm almost 30 years old and I'm not married. I am idle and lazy all day. In today's words, he is a "neet".
Yan Liu's mother-in-law is eccentric and dotes on this little son very much, so she is willing to raise him every month. Mother-in-law and father-in-law gave their monthly pension to their youngest son, and even the alimony of 1000 yuan given by Mr. and Mrs. Yan Liu went into the brother-in-law's wallet.
Most of this money was squandered by my brother-in-law. Therefore, mother-in-law often secretly asks Yan Liu's husband for money to help her youngest son.
Because of this, Yan Liu complained a lot to her husband, who also knew that his mother was wrong, but as a son, he could say nothing but comfort Yan Liu.
Recently, my brother-in-law talked about a girlfriend, which made my mother-in-law very happy. In front of Yan Liu, I praised my youngest son's girlfriend, but Yan Liu was so angry that she didn't fight. But it's not easy to attack, so I can only avoid her every day.
After a while, one day, her mother-in-law suddenly called Yan Liu and her husband home and said that they would have dinner together.
Ada wondered why her penniless mother-in-law suddenly became so generous.
Yan Liu was in a good mood when her brother-in-law was away that day. During the dinner, her mother-in-law frequently brought Yan Liu delicacies, which made her flattered.
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After dinner, the family sat on the sofa and chatted. My mother-in-law suddenly said to Yan Liu and his wife, "Son, daughter-in-law, I have something to discuss with you."
Ada and her husband were surprised and asked her what it was.
Mother-in-law thought for a moment and said, "You know, your brother talked about a girlfriend. A few days ago, our parents met, and the woman made a request, saying that marriage must have a house. "
Ada had a premonition that the next thing might be bad, but she didn't say anything.
Seeing her silence, her mother-in-law said to her, "daughter-in-law, do you know how your brother can afford a house?" Your father and I don't have enough money to buy a house. I know that you and your wife still have a house. If this house is vacant, I'll live with your brother-in-law. Let him get married. "
What? Ada was surprised at her mother-in-law's words. She refused directly: "Why? That's the house we bought, and the mortgage has not been paid yet. Why should I get him a room? Are you too eccentric? "
Mother-in-law's face suddenly sank after listening to Yan Liu's words: "Sister-in-law, what's wrong with you helping your brother? Don't forget that you are a family! "
Yan Liu not to be outdone tunnel: "what family? Have you ever regarded us as a family? Every good thing is thinking about your little son. Have you ever thought about us! "
Yan Liu had a big fight with her mother-in-law, and finally her husband dragged Yan Liu away. Since then, Yan Liu and her mother-in-law have been in the same boat. Fortunately, her husband supported Yan Liu, which made her feel relieved.
There are many confused mother-in-law like Yan Liu. In my opinion, in the face of this kind of "robbing the rich to help the poor" old people in marriage, husband and wife must work together in Qi Xin to carry it clearly. Never compromise because of ignorance, which will only lead to conflicts between husband and wife.