I am a teacher of emotional counseling, and it should be appropriate for me to answer this question.
Emotional counseling, at present, in China, should be called: marriage and family counselor. This industry belongs to the downstream category of psychological counseling.
Although emotional counseling belongs to a category of psychological counseling, it is more practical and complicated, and varies from person to person.
We can say that psychological problems are the business of one person, and emotional problems are the business of two or more people. If we need to solve emotional problems, we will solve the problems of a group of people.
In life, people can't get along with each other without emotional communication, love, husband and wife life, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, getting along with friends and so on. These are all contained in the emotional world.
The ancient people in China used to talk about the way to get along, but many of us can't find this way when we get along.
If there is an emotional problem and you want to solve it subjectively, but you don't know how to do it, then it is a very correct way to find an emotional counselor.
Of course, this industry has been a bit mixed up at present. It doesn't necessarily mean that consultants in large institutions must be good. It doesn't necessarily mean that some consultants in personal studios are poor. It mainly depends on their personal ability and whether they work hard on your emotional problems.
My personal advice is that when there is a problem that needs to be solved by a consultant, don't blindly look for it, and go to a doctor if you are sick.
You can search online, look at some information of consultants, as well as their articles and videos, and see if the views mentioned in them are the same, take-away, and initially judge the ability of consultants.
Second, we should have a comprehensive summary of our own problems. This is convenient for you to clarify the problem when you meet the consultant, so that the consultant can quickly find the crux of your problem.
Third, the consultant will only help you find the root of the problem and provide you with a solution. But the most important thing is to solve the problem by yourself. It doesn't mean that finding a good consultant will be all right.
Emotional problems are not organic diseases, and there is no medicine to cure them. We need to work together to solve the problem and achieve the best goal.
Of course, solving emotional problems does not mean that it must not forget your active thinking.
For example, some people want to save their derailed husbands, but in the process of improving themselves and saving their families, their literacy has been comprehensively improved, their horizons have been broadened, and their life circles have become better. There is no need for an derailed husband to welcome a new life. There are many people in this situation.
Finally, I wish everyone a happy family and a happy relationship.
Before answering this question, we need to clarify several questions first: first, the definition of the word "emotion" in emotional psychological counseling; Second, the motivation of the parties to turn to emotional counseling; Third, what are the expectations for solving the problem; Fourth, the choice of consultants, these four issues will directly affect the effectiveness of counseling, and then we will explain one by one: the definition of the word "emotion" in emotional psychological counseling. In life, we tend to narrowly understand the word "emotion" as love. In fact, it has a broader connotation, that is, affection, friendship and love are all emotional categories. But in emotional counseling, our definition of emotion is limited to love, which mainly includes love, marriage, divorce, remarriage and extramarital affairs. Simply put, it is a form of psychological counseling that provides professional services for both parties in love and solves emotional problems. of course，
In the process of establishing or maintaining intimate relationship between lovers, there are bound to be various problems, which may bring great troubles to some lovers and even have some negative effects on their normal social life. Therefore, it is a wise choice to seek help from a psychological counselor, but there may be problems such as the motivation of the parties to seek help. In consulting cases, we found that until the moment they entered the consulting room, some parties did not understand their motives for seeking help, and some just had conflicts with their lovers, and they had a lot of unhappiness in their hearts and wanted to talk to someone. Some just think that they have been treated unfairly in intimate relationships and need to ask for an explanation or seek comfort or compensation; Others just heard that seeking the help of emotional counseling can help solve problems, and seek help with a try attitude. These are all possible problems when seeking emotional counseling and help, and they are also a manifestation of unclear motivation for seeking help. What I want to say here is that psychological counseling is not the same as simple chatting between friends. With a certain counseling setting, it is necessary to define a certain counseling goal, that is, when making a decision to seek help for emotional counseling, it is best for the parties to have a clear motivation for seeking help or why they seek help for psychological counseling, so that emotional counseling can achieve the expected counseling effect.
What expectations the parties have for seeking emotional counseling help will also directly affect the effect of counseling. As we said above, psychological counseling is not equal to simple chatting, but has a certain time limit and counseling objectives. The process of counseling is a process of understanding the situation, analyzing problems and exploring and solving problems. Therefore, it is also a problem that needs to be solved before consulting to clarify what the parties expect from emotional counseling. Because in the consultation, we also found that many parties had many unrealistic and irrational expectations for solving problems in the initial stage of consultation, and always expected the consultant to help them completely change each other and were unwilling to make any changes or efforts. This is an irrational idea of the parties and an expectation that cannot be achieved through emotional counseling. Therefore, it is necessary to clarify what expectations visitors have for emotional counseling, and at least adjust and re-establish reasonable expectations under the guidance of counselors.
The last one that affects the effect of emotional counseling is the choice of psychological counselors. Generally speaking, those psychological counselors with rich social experience, profound insight into psychological phenomena, professional training and rich consulting experience will be more helpful to solve the client's problems. Therefore, when choosing counseling, we should not only rely on superficial professional titles, fame and certificates to measure the professional level of psychological counselors. More still need a screening process. If possible, you can find acquaintances and friends who have experience in emotional counseling and help-seeking, or you can give priority to consultants from formal psychological counseling institutions, with excellent qualifications and many years of industry experience.
If you can face up to the above four problems, then turning to emotional counseling is an absolutely effective way to solve your emotional and psychological problems. If there is no clear direction, please use self-adjustment method.
Now, you may have tried many ways to solve your previous emotional confusion. In recent years, I have met too many friends with emotional problems. With your own handling methods, the result is often not what you want.
I think it is a good and healthy way to find an emotional counseling agency to solve emotional problems. After all, the advice given by people around you, such as girlfriends, parents and elders, is mostly mixed with personal experiences and emotions. Of course, this is also related to whether you are willing to change yourself and solve emotional problems in a positive way.
In fact, the service of emotional marriage counseling has been very popular abroad, but the traditional concept is generally that "the family's dirty linen should not be published, which leads many people not to ask for relevant help when they encounter problems;" In fact, as we all know, it is difficult for people obsessed with the authorities to find the root of the problem and solve it. Only with the help of others can we know what the problem is. Of course, this must be professional to be effective and provide you with solutions from a professional perspective.
Everyone will hit the rocks in their feelings and even in their marriage. According to professional consulting experience, many couples, including all kinds of interpersonal relationships, are caused by trivial matters, but there is no good communication in the follow-up, which leads to the hidden factors of breakup and divorce. But the solution is actually very simple. Let objective people break through blind spots, tell things, and then get back the tolerance and passion they knew before, so that any emotional problems can be solved smoothly.
To put it simply, it seems that anyone can objectively find their own blind spot. However, if one of their family members is suspected of favoritism, and if one of their friends is worried that "the family's dirty linen should not be published", it is really not easy to solve the marriage problem smoothly. But now, there are professional consulting institutions to find out the root of the quarrel between husband and wife through professional assistance, so that professional teachers can help them communicate and let both sides learn how to communicate when they encounter disputes in the future.
But before choosing an emotional counseling agency, please refer to:
1. Does this organization have a sound system that can provide you with strategic planning?
2. Negotiate with consulting institutions and formulate solutions to provide you with ways to safeguard rights and interests in love and marriage and solve problems in real relationships.
3. The qualifications of consulting institutions are different, some are reliable and some are unreliable. Choose carefully, avoid falling into the crisis of financial loss, and hope not to be cheated again at the lowest ebb of life.
Emotionally, both sides should learn how to communicate and how to quarrel, so as to solve the problem. Therefore, if you want to know how to communicate or how to quarrel, you can get professional assistance through emotional counseling.
"the master leads the door and practices in the individual." The solution provided by emotional counseling is to protect your love and marriage, but you should stop sobbing alone at night, find out the causes of emotional problems, prescribe the right medicine and continue to live. Happiness is a day, and unhappiness is also a day. Cultivate a healthy outlook on life to deal with every problem in life.