Be stricter with me than before.
Case 1: Five years ago, Xiaoling and Xiaoyi were admitted to a hospital in our city as nurses and were arranged in the same dormitory. At work, the two are good partners at work; After work, they eat and go shopping together and have a good relationship. However, since Xiaoyi became the head nurse, their friendship has undergone subtle changes. Xiaoling once wanted to ask for leave because of something. She thought Xiaoyi was her good friend and it should be easy to ask for leave. However, Xiaoyi's behavior made her quite depressed: Xiaoyi not only didn't help her, but arranged her leave process very strictly.
Dr. Dai's comments: In this case, Nurse Xiaoling took it for granted that Head Nurse Xiaoyi, as her good friend, should give her special care and help. The starting point of this idea is incorrect. As a pair of good friends, Xiaoling should first think from Xiaoyi's standpoint: Xiaoyi may realize that you are her good friend, so she should treat your request fairly, otherwise her work prestige will be difficult for other colleagues to obey. In addition, communication is an effective magic weapon to continue friendship. If Xiaoling is confused, she might as well talk to Xiaoyi more. I believe, whether as a leader at work or a good friend in life, Xiao Yi should communicate with you patiently.
All my friends come to talk business with me.
Case 2: Xiaoke and Xiao Jian were originally staff members of a bureau and institution. Xiaoke's troubles have never stopped since he was transferred to the bureau as a leader. Although Rick Roy is cautious in dealing with people on weekdays, he tries not to make people feel that she is different after becoming an official. But even so carefully, faced with the help of old colleagues and friends, Chloe still felt that she didn't know how to deal with their relationship. Once, Xiao Jian asked Chloe to help solve a difficult problem at work. Chloe felt that she had helped, but Xiao Jian always thought that Chloe had not tried her best and told her friends about it. Chloe was embarrassed when a friend texted or called her to criticize her.
Dr. Dai's comments: If Xiaoke's consistent style of doing things is justice and integrity, not out of selfishness, then even if colleagues and friends criticize now, they will gradually understand it after a while. I'm afraid that I'll be selfless to this friend for a while and partial to another friend for a while, so it's easy to fall behind. Therefore, Xiaoke, as a leader, on the one hand, should explain and communicate with friends more, explain his position and difficulties, on the other hand, he should develop a firm style of doing things, focusing on things rather than people-oriented.
Worried about nicknames
Case 3: Kobayashi recently became the section chief of a department in a public institution, but to his annoyance, his friends still call him by his nickname as before, regardless of occasion and time. When he was a general officer in the unit, he felt that it didn't matter if colleagues and friends called him close, but now he is a small leader, and friends sometimes call him nicknames in the workplace, which makes him embarrassed. Angry, everyone is a good friend, sorry; Don't be angry, hold back your pain.
Dr. Dai's comments: For friends, tolerance, understanding and respect are indispensable. To solve Kobayashi's problem, we should start with communication. Xiao Lin should gently tell his close friends that casual names and gestures are not necessarily the embodiment of true friendship. It doesn't matter if they call each other nicknames in private, but in the workplace, we should give other colleagues a sense of seriousness and not be too casual.