My previous dilemma with my husband was that I saw a blind spot when communicating with my classmates in Mr. Chen's class. When I study and study blind spots, I will have new thinking.
I watched a video the other day and was very moved. A horse got stuck in the mire and was seen by a group of owners. They all felt sorry for it and tried to save it. Finally, they managed to find a group of horses and ran around the horses trapped in the mire. The horse in the mire was touched and climbed out of the mire with all his strength. Finally, they succeeded.
At the end of the video, I wrote: "Life accompanies life, life affects life, and life awakens life. What can really help each other is awakening, leading, stimulating inner potential and yearning for life. What can really get out of the quagmire is not only the awakening and guidance of others, but also their own consciousness.
You have changed, too. I think you realize the importance of good intimacy to yourself and your children.
On broadening the cognitive database, I think what the author of Cognitive Awakening said in the chapter of Reading and Selecting Books is the same as what he said in Cognitive Improvement. At first, he only widened the cognitive comfort zone a little, and then it gradually expanded.
The author of "The Awakening of Cognition" said: "We should choose those books whose reading difficulty just puts us on the edge of our comfort zone, specifically, those books that are a little difficult to read but can be just finished. No matter how good others say a book is, as long as you find it too difficult to read and have no interest, you'd better not bite the bullet and read it, because there must still be some information gap between it and us. Forced reading, you will be very painful, and your interest in reading will be easily killed, so when reading for the first time, you must try to match your interest, difficulty and needs as much as possible.
Thinking after reading and practicing after thinking are more important than reading itself (mainly referring to non-fiction books here)
As for making friends, I will share with you my greatest knowledge about friends and connections this year: the real connections are not those who help you, but those you can help.
I was deeply moved by this sentence. I graduated from technical secondary school and worked part-time. I met a good sophomore girl. She is cheerful, confident and capable at school. All the boys are willing to chat with her, which is what I especially envy and what I especially want to be friends with (I like her lively atmosphere, which is what I want to be). We had a good relationship when we were part-time. I thought we would always have an intersection, but I can't find contact information after half a year.
After the graduates gave birth to their babies, they kept in touch with their girlfriends who were studying in the same class in college, and basically lost contact with others who played well.
The first is that they don't contact me, and the second is that I don't think we have anything to say about contacting them. I met him at work, but he broke off when he left.
I have contact with my best friend because I am growing, and she is growing, and they are getting better and better in their respective fields, so there will be intersections.
First of all, I'll start with helping Mr. Chen in class. I use my full-time parenting knowledge and books to try my best to answer her confusion and let her see the other side of things. We made an appointment to meet, and I understand her child's behavior. By explaining the reasons behind the child's behavior, the child likes me very much. She is willing to give Beibei a gift for the first time. From then on, every time we met, I would give Beibei a gift and treat what I gave as a treasure, so Xiao Nuan and I became friends.
Second: 007 When writing group review homework, others saw that I was experiencing the loss of my husband's stock trading and was ignorant of the financial affairs of the registered company. After I got the growth story of thinking and experience from it, I felt very moved, which brought strength to her persistence in writing. She is willing to use her professional knowledge as a tax accountant to provide my husband with financial advice for free. I was very touched and added her WeChat reply to thank her for her willingness to help me. Someone told me this from me, and I was particularly moved and happy.
She told me about her achievements and sent me the information, the founding partner of Beijing tax agency and the founding partner of Youbo Capital. Such a powerful person was moved by my story and thought that my story brought her strength and made her want to continue writing. I was very excited.
I saw her first few friends circle and saw her two children quarreling. Dabao asked his mother if she loved her sister. She doesn't know how to solve it.
Soon I found the books I had read before, as well as Mr. Chen's books. I found books and theoretical articles when I recommended them. These actions moved her very much.
As a result, we started in-depth communication. She tells her story and I tell mine.
Third: The next day, I looked through all her circle of friends and knew that her children liked picture books, so I started looking for information and picture books and found some good picture books that Dabao Bao Xiao loved to read. Dad is mine, Peter's chair, followers, a little, Hui and his sister, I am a big sister, sharing is not always easy, you are all my favorites.
"You are all my favorites", there is a particularly warm sentence. Mother said to the bears, "No matter how big or small it is, we all love you the same. Therefore, of the three favorites, you are my favorite.
When I sent her the analysis of the picture book and the pictures of the picture book, she said that she was lucky to know me while attending the course. I said I was lucky, too, and thanked her for her willingness to help me, but the father of the child didn't listen to me and went to solve the economic problems himself.
Fourth: She told me that I haven't written an article for a long time, and I am a little rusty. I said that you are so good, and writing is only a temporary rusty. If you write too much, what you once knew will appear again. Many people join the writing group to promote their classes. You only join it to be supervised and cultivate writing habits, so the content can record stories about getting along with children and work. She said yes, I didn't want to promote the class, just to record my life.
She thanked me for my encouragement. I recommended my birthday sister's article to her and told her that her birthday sister is a person who makes money by investing. The parenting number is just passing by, and you are all very good. Maybe there will be an intersection. My birthday sister also wants readers to exchange investment with her by thinking. She will write an article now to help many people avoid the investment pit and do a good job in linking parenting with investment. You can learn from it. She said yes.
We talked a lot. We were supposed to meet, but we haven't waited for the appointment yet. I think maybe my value is not big enough. After all, I can't climb others.
I don't like begging I didn't know the benefits before, but now I know: not taking advantage of others is the best way for me to make friends, including the nanny around me being kind to the children and sharing food. When I go to work, Beibei goes to see clients and helps me look after the nanny. I don't want my money. I will share noodles made by my noodle maker, cakes, steamed buns and fruits made by myself, and I will also put these fruits and cakes.
In this way, when I was at work, Betty's father met clients occasionally. When no one was watching, whenever I asked them for help, they would help. I think this is why others will be nice to me first, and then to others.
Finally, Wu Ting, the author of "This design will sell well", said: "Don't want to establish a relationship or ask for help just because you meet a powerful person by chance, because how can a powerful person easily establish a relationship with others, and how can a person who knows the boundaries and principles of dealing with people easily speak?"
The only thing we can do is to accumulate our own value and export our own value to help others.
People who can create value by themselves, bring value to others and let others see it, even if she doesn't say it, will one day have her own nobles and friends.
Mutual value and mutual need are the closest ties between you and others.
This passage is very suitable for adult communication.
This is part of my cognitive broadening this year, and I will share it with you. I hope to discuss more.