However, he always complains to me and always turns to several themes: too much leisure, too much drinking and too little money. I can refute him for all these reasons. I said that you actually earn a lot according to the social wage level, and there are such good benefits. Of course, you can't compare with places like investment banks and commercial banks. But what I said can't calm his complaints. In fact, it almost became a routine attack. I finally couldn't help it and asked him why he didn't consider changing his life. Actually, it's not so much a problem as I want him to think it over. I know that he, like some people I know, suffers from a strange impetuosity. This disease is always looking for some high standards of income and treatment for itself, and then come to the conclusion, why is your situation so bad?
I deeply realized that this problem was in the recruitment of our campus in a certain year. We interviewed a lot of students, graduated from a prestigious school, and our resumes were glorious, and our interview performance was good. Everything looked good. Later, I gradually came into contact with these fresh graduates and found that what they care most about is salary, which is a familiar topic and we have also experienced it. I don't object to the concern and comparison of freshmen. After all, they have studied hard for so many years, entered the top schools in China, and graduated through extremely cruel elimination, which deserves a relatively decent start and a promising job.
It's not that I can always understand people who are particularly concerned about their income, such as my buddy.
He lacks the courage to jump out of his current job. In the language of economics, the opportunity cost is too high. I know he looked for some other job opportunities, the same job, but either because the income was not ideal or the platform was not big enough, he didn't succeed in the end. So he spent two years complaining and enduring.
At the same time, he watched me get into CFA, prepare for CPA, constantly give up holidays and overtime, and go further and further on the road of investment banking.
Being uneasy about the status quo without the courage to start again is sometimes more terrible than having nothing.
Over time, when we are old and have a family, we have to bear the responsibilities for our spouses, children and parents. Our ability to withstand changes will become weaker and weaker, and the demand for maintaining stable cash income will increase. At this time, even if you have the determination to change, it is no longer difficult to do anything.
From the perspective of career development, youth is a valuable asset. You can try and make mistakes. At this time, the cost of any mistake will not be too high, because the income of people in their twenties will not be too high and the loss will not be too great. Every mistake is wealth, because it will gradually make you clear about your personal professional interests and the life you want.
When we graduate, most people are holding a heart of pursuing wealth, and generally set a number silently in their hearts: how much money I earn a year and so on. What work can give is actually far greater than this money figure. It occupies the most important time of the day, constitutes the most important content and relationship in life and is a part of future life. Work brings more than just a figure of income.
There have also been vacillations and confusions in the choice of work.
I read many resumes (thousands) and found an interesting fact. Many excellent colleagues, with bumpy resumes, often come from second-rate or even third-rate schools, with undergraduate or even junior college degrees. After several transformations, I finally came to the company and got the annual salary envied by many famous graduates, including my buddies.
One of our sponsor representatives is actually a small employee in the sales department who does computer maintenance.
Another excellent project manager, college degree.
A young department vice president, however, is an on-the-job master's degree. Because he does not meet the academic requirements of full-time master's degree, he was almost rejected by the human resources department.
They can make such a choice from the beginning. In addition to excellent quality, the starting point is probably relatively low, so it is not so bad. On the contrary, they have gained flexibility in career development and choice, and gradually revitalized their work and life.
On a larger level, past achievements and fame and fortune will always be bound. Individual consciousness should put aside past considerations, think about the future and grasp the power of the present. There are too many people around me who pay attention to insurance strategy. They think about life step by step. This kind of life is more than enough, but it is not developed enough.
We should be people who choose jobs, not people who passively accept them. Choosing a job is not for money, it will be purer and happier. Choosing a job when you have no money can go beyond the consideration of money. This is persistence. Choosing a job after earning enough money can go beyond money. This is wisdom. Many people always confuse the relationship between money and work, but it is really strange logic to separate money from feelings. For men, it is necessary to treat work as a lover's attitude, and it will be a problem sooner or later to talk about money with your lover. On the other hand, it is also a common logic that you are willing to do any work as long as you give enough money. I think if someone really needs money for a specific reason, he can do it, otherwise it is really stupid business. What individuals get is destiny, but what they pay is ideal and life, the latter is priceless. Passive acceptance of work is the beginning of making mistakes and making yourself more and more passive. When you get up at seven o'clock every morning, you may feel that a tortured day has begun. You should waste your talents on some meaningless things, fight wits with colleagues, talk insincerely with leaders, and then constantly hate your job. Punch out at the first time after work and wait for the next such working day to start. People's life is only more than 20,000 days, and some of us have spent more than 10,000 smallpox in this cycle of self-torture.
We work to live a better life, or a little higher, to live a full life and an ideal life, not to torture ourselves or sell our values and ideals. What we have been pursuing is a job that gives people a real sense of life, rather than an inorganic continuation of past work in future life.
To borrow a phrase from Feng Lun: stand tall and pee far.