Xiaoying and I
I met Xiaoying at 1997. When I was selling in the sales office in Anju, she came to buy a house because of the complicated procedures. She asked me about the procedures, and I patiently explained and wrote her a list to clarify the key points.
She said brightly, "That's very kind of you. I have time to invite you to dinner! " "I said," you're welcome. This is my business, I should do it! " "
Unexpectedly, a few days later, she came to go through the formalities and seriously invited me to dinner. I said no, and what she said was very affordable: "Eating is for chatting and understanding communication. I want to make friends with you. Socially need friends and exchange needed items in the future. "
I think what she said is reasonable. Look at her clothes in the industrial and commercial bureau. Although she is a little fat, her facial combination is very beautiful. Cheng smiles, and her mouth is upturned, quite like Guanyin Bodhisattva. I think I have a vision. I want more friends and more roads. I readily agreed.
At the dinner table, she said to me, "I came to your house to settle down, and I didn't want to buy a house in Song Hui community, but those young people are beautiful and arrogant, and they don't care about people!" I look angry. When I saw your approachable and smiling service, I felt very comfortable. I thought you wouldn't cheat me, so I decided to buy a house in Song Hui community. What did you do? "
After listening to her words, I felt a cough: "I used to be a teacher. I have lived in an apartment for less than a year, and young people have connections. " I work by my own ability. "
She went on to say, "Actually, I have a house at home. My wife can handle your leadership with one phone call. I don't want to do that. I buy a house for my mother's brother, and I am willing to associate with reasonable people! " I feel that she is an official wife, but I don't find any domineering feeling in her. When she left, she also left a sentence; "Invite you to your home one day!"
I didn't expect our first meal in 24 years to hit it off.
Later, her brother moved into the new house smoothly. Years ago, she and her brother gave me rice from her hometown Wancang to show their gratitude. Visiting her home and seeing a big house of more than 200 meters made me envious, while her lover's polite manners and big leaders preferred her down-to-earth style.
She is generous and chivalrous, loves to make friends, and has the loyalty of men's brothers, regardless of gains and losses! It's no use being with her. I bought a bill. In her words, "there is a small business at home. I don't care if I have enough money to eat. Besides, I spend money to get together! " She often says, "I am not talented, but I am willing to make friends with talented people. I admire your eloquence!" " Sometimes when I drink too much, I say, "Although I am fat now, I was a beauty queen at Wancang School! Otherwise, can my lover, Gao Fei, who stays in Northeast Normal University, have a crush on me? " I looked at her red face, and her simple and honest language felt that she was simple and lovely.
In those years, I followed her to other counties and received guests in her hometown county magistrate. Wherever I go, I am received by enthusiastic classmates and relatives. The gold content of this kind of person really makes me admire her kindness and generosity. Let me be impressed by her popularity and energy!
Xiaoying likes to say that she has no culture. I think she has a deep local culture. Strong human feelings! Dealing with people makes people feel warm.
At that time, I was working in an apartment, and everyone was curious. I have nothing to do with my work ability. Sometimes I get nothing in return. When I was mentally unbalanced, I called Xiaoying and wanted to talk to her. Her way is different. She wouldn't listen to me. She drove me out to find some friends to drink, sing and dance, and then she came back! Call me the next day: "What happened? Still thinking about that! No matter how big the matter is, no unit is the same. The leaders are thin and thick, and you will be satisfied without giving gifts and dedication! " For me, a historian, it is really meaningful to ponder her truth!
The best strategy is never a clever or cunning strategy, but to awaken people's innate kindness and conscience.
Gradually, we became bosom friends and talked about everything. Maybe I need a woman like her to enlighten me and lead me. She cares about people and doesn't say anything but do it. Once I lost sleep at night, I turned off my cell phone and unplugged my landline in the morning. I didn't expect to sleep until noon and hear someone knocking at the window. I got up and opened the door. She cried out in horror, "You scared me to death. I thought you were poisoned by gas!" " Her true feelings and concern for me surprised me and moved me!
Although we are good, we also have contradictions. The friends she made have a certain social energy. Every time she praises me in front of everyone, let me mention the wine first! I'm a little arrogant, and sometimes I speak bluntly and hurt people. Once I hurt her by talking, and she ignored me. I think she is very kind to me. I can't lose this friend, so I send her text messages every day. Encouraged by my persistent sincerity, we finally shook hands and made peace.
As soon as she met, she said, "Actually, I can't live without you. You are also very upright and exquisite, and there is no aura without you on any occasion. But don't be too straight in the future. If I am tolerant, I will lose my friendship! " I am very moved by this passage, and think that the truth spoken without culture has practical value! Educated but self-deceiving!
Xiaoying has a great sense of responsibility to her friends and family. Every time a friend has something, she is affectionate and righteous. She tried her best to help and support many younger brothers and sisters at home. Moreover, her family is also very affectionate and polite because of the house I helped buy. The whole family knows that it is warm to meet in the grateful community. I like her and her family!
Over time, the interaction between people is like the addition and function of different elements. Inadvertently infected with various precipitated or floating elements. I'm not very tolerant and self-centered. Gradually, under her inspiration, she became generous.
Sister Xiaoying and I later became an iron triangle, just like different material elements, showing different lives and deducing different life melodies. Add water to blend the three primary colors of red, yellow and blue, and it will form a noisy world of colorful joys and sorrows. And a glorious life.
I like old things; Old books, ancient paintings, aging, black and white photos, old friends, because it can arouse your good memories. Just like if there is no ivy on the wall and moss accumulated on the feet for many years, can it be considered first-class?
Old things are cute because they have content and can evoke memories. For example, although the solar calendar is officially adopted by us, the lunar calendar cannot be abolished among the people. There are two New Years every year, and only in the old year will you be willing to "exchange new peaches for old symbols".
While I keep making new friends, I won't forget my old friends. I brush up occasionally. Talk about the chic happiness in the past, hold a handful of immortal spirit in this life, and talk about Noah's Ark tomorrow.
Walking days repeat the same pace, day after day, so that every season comes on time. I can't remember which summer flower, which leaf withered first and which leaf started autumn. Four seasons flow, separated by some memories of yesterday, looking back, it is already separated by several mountains and rivers. We spread our time everywhere, and the age of earning money has been worn into a rosary by years, forming a permanent thought.
Xiaoying loves to say: "
The best life is to be a simple person, not to dwell on the past, not to bother others, to stop my way with water and then sit and watch Yun Qi's open-mindedness, but also to smile calmly at the clouds, be full of hope for life, and be full of sunshine in my heart, so that every ordinary day is happy. "I asked her if this is your language, and she said wryly," I need to learn with literati, and other people's fine products also make me feel the taste of culture. Can't help but admire!
So fast, unconsciously, we have entered the old age from middle age, recalling the good times of that year and looking at the yellowed photos! I'm embarrassed! Because there are people who drive cranes to the west and are sick in bed, we can still be together! What a rare natural fate.
Those years that have passed have the most beautiful memories. Thank you for the time we walked hand in hand. As always, the time is deep and there is always a faint fragrance, which softens the most beautiful scenery inside.