However, marriage is not as simple as we thought. First of all, we must get the approval of the other parents, then we must formulate a set of life rules that can live in harmony with our lover, and finally we must learn to manage various interpersonal relationships.
Young people should know how to respect their parents, and as parents, they should also guide their children's marriage. Respecting each other's children, respecting each other's families and showing the sincerity and thoughtfulness of their elders can help children to be stable and happy.
In fact, the marriage relationship between young couples is closely related to many people. Parents' personality and morality often determine the harmony between the two generations. In a sense, this will affect children's happiness.
0 1. The superior conditions of childhood made Dong Li grow up spoiled by his parents, but his parents' education methods were decent, so Dong Li was always sensible. But when he was in the fourth grade of primary school, his father's factory closed down, and then the quality of life at home was greatly reduced, and he still owed some debts.
Since junior high school, Dong Li has suddenly become a different person. He has not only become extraordinarily thrifty, but also devoted himself to his studies. Originally, Dong Li's grades were average, but when he concentrated on his studies, he suddenly found himself quite clever. Although Dong Li's family lost a lot of wealth, it gained his growth.
Influenced by his father since childhood, Dong Li is particularly interested in doing business. After graduating from college, he first worked in a company and decided to start a business at the age of 26. He was optimistic about the clothing industry at that time. Although the competition was fierce, he borrowed money to open a shop, but at first he could barely make ends meet.
29-year-old Li wants to find a companion because she is busy with her career. Early family changes brought him some negative effects, but he still found a girl he liked. Her name is Macey. She is a kindergarten teacher and often comes to buy clothes.
Their relationship is going well, but Macey's mother doesn't approve of the marriage. Because Macey's parents want to find a rich son-in-law, so that they can give themselves a long face. Plus, Macey has a younger brother, and he needs a capable brother-in-law.
Despite the difficulties, with the repeated efforts of Macey and Dong Li, their parents met and finalized the marriage. Macey's mother demanded a bride price of 280,000 yuan. In order to raise funds, Dong Li also cleared a number of stocks at ultra-low prices, which also brought great problems to his capital turnover. After the engagement, Macey's mother often came to the store to get clothes, always taking two or three thousand yuan and never giving money.
After getting married, Dong Li endured such treatment, but for the sake of Macey, he still respected his parents-in-law. But because of my limited ability, my mother-in-law will bury me every time I go to eat. My mother-in-law always satirizes Dong Li, saying that he is incompetent and can't make money.
Dong Li is not happy to bear such humiliation. In the second year after marriage, he changed the pattern and changed the brand clothes into big goods. This change enabled him to quickly find a precise consumer group and quickly accumulated funds. Then he opened a branch and his income soared, and he soon bought a big house.
Macey's mother is very happy, so she respects Dong Li very much. Although Dong Li's career has reached a turning point, he is also in a transitional period and has no savings on hand. Just then, my mother-in-law found him and asked, "son-in-law, you see that you are the big boss now, and you and your wife don't have to live in such a big house." Just sell two sets of small ones to your brother-in-law. "
Dong Li paused and replied, "No way! Macey likes to live in a spacious place. I chose a house specially for her. Besides, it's also good for your daughter, right? " This answer embarrassed my mother-in-law, but Dong Li "stood up" in front of her father-in-law.
Some people measure others by virtue, some by social contribution, some by money, and some even decide their attitude towards each other according to the benefits they get from each other. People who are mercenary are often disliked.
As parents, we should not only guide our children's growth, but also set an example in their future life. Only by educating children with higher standards and restraining themselves with higher standards can we win children's respect and win a better life.
It is not advisable to prefer sons to daughters. It is not only immoral but also irresponsible to use a daughter's marriage to seek benefits for her son. Smart parents will help their children manage their marriage with care, but they will not interfere too much. Parents who regard their children's marriage as their own way of making money often lose more in the end.
Now that we have recognized the children's marriage, we should respect each other's families, trust our son-in-law or daughter-in-law, and really care about them like parents. Such parents will not only win the respect of their two children, but also gain a happy old age.
This society is cruel, but also fair. If you want to win the life you want, you must learn to run hard. We can't attach too much importance to material things, but improving our own ability and quality is the most effective means to help us win respect.
Women should keep forging ahead after marriage, so as to maintain their competitiveness and maintain a certain charm and voice in marriage. Men should learn to struggle in their careers, which is not only the need of filial piety and marriage management, but also the inevitable requirement of realizing their own life value.