I traveled to Luoyang last summer vacation and met a Muge in the northeast. His hobby is collecting CDs. It is said that he has more than 1000 Chinese and foreign classic DVDs at home. I'm not interested in movies. Since he watched so many movies, I asked him to recommend one he thought was the best. He didn't hesitate to tell me that it was Good Will Hunting, and suggested that I must watch it when I have time. When I came back, I forgot all about it. In a blink of an eye, half a year passed. I had nothing to do yesterday morning. I found Good Will Hunting and watched it again. There is no aesthetic visual impact of Hollywood blockbusters, and there is no joining of handsome guys and beautiful women. But the story of ups and downs is exciting. Read it again, it feels like Pig Bajie swallowed the ginseng fruit, and some things are not finished. In the afternoon, I looked at both sides again. I watched a movie three times in a row, breaking my personal record of watching movies. Every time I read it, I feel new.
Professor Lambert, winner of the Fields Prize in Mathematics at MIT, wrote a math problem that only two people in the world can solve on the blackboard in the corridor to challenge the elite students of the highest institute of technology. A few days later, the answer to this so-called world-class math problem suddenly appeared on the blackboard, which shocked the professor and his students! By chance, the professor discovered the mysterious genius-a young cleaner without any academic background-Will. Will is a talented young man. Once he invited his girlfriend Skyland, who didn't do proton spectrum analysis exercises, to refuse him. Incredibly, he remembered those questions at a glance, and soon wrote the answers and called them to Skyland.
I remembered the article Ma Shuo. If Will is a swift horse, there is no doubt that Rambo is Bole. A swift horse has the characteristic of traveling thousands of miles a day, provided that the horse is willing to travel thousands of miles a day. What if the fun of Wan Li Road lies in grinding? Forcing it to run around, it will definitely not be happy. If it just wants to live a plain life, it is also a kind of life to dawdle and do some farm work every day. According to our ordinary people's thinking: Since Will is a swift horse, he should gallop on the battlefield and make rapid progress in one day. Sean, a psychologist who has tasted the hardships of life and has rich emotional experiences, has his own unique understanding. He thinks that Will should live a happy life and refuses Rambo to guide Will to engage in mathematical research. Under the guidance of Shane, Will understood what kind of life he needed. He refused the high-paying job recommended by Professor Rambo and went out of the shadows to find his beloved girlfriend.
Only oneself decides a person's life, but now parents like to design a life path for their children. Go to key primary schools, middle schools and famous universities. Have we considered the children's preferences? Are they willing to go like this? Have parents discussed with their children before making a decision? Do they agree? When people feel happy, they definitely do what they are interested in. I read a story about a China man who took his children to an American restaurant for dinner. He pointed to the chef and said to the children, "If you don't study hard, you can only cook and serve people every day like him." Just when the children seemed to realize something, the chef came up to them and said, "My happiest thing is to see people eating my cooking. I am a Ph.D. student at Harvard University, and I only got my certificate because of poor economy? The company does things. " The greatest meaning of life is to make yourself happy.
What is a friend? It shouldn't be those who eat, drink and be merry, but those who share weal and woe with you in adversity. Not sweet words, but outspoken people. But your success is the person who silently blesses you, and your failure is the person who comforts you. Chuck is Will's friend, not only because they drink, pick up girls and fight in bars together. The important thing is that when you see that Will is brilliant, but he is self-indulgent and does not strive for progress: "Because tomorrow I will wake up to be 50 years old and still work here, it doesn't matter. And you already have a million lottery tickets, but you are too timid to cash them. It's a shame for you to stay for another 20 years. I pick you up at your house every day, and we go out to drink and laugh together. That's great. Every time I knock on the door, I hope you leave. Never say goodbye. Nothing, you go. "
A friend is a person who gives himself guidance and strength at a critical moment. When Chuck came to Will's house at the end of the film and no one answered, he was more gratified and happy than sad.
Rambo and Sean are important people in their lives. Rambo is the winner of the Fields Medal. Some people with common sense in mathematics know that the Fields Prize is the most famous worldwide prize in mathematics. Because there is no mathematics prize in the Nobel Prize, some people regard the Fields Prize as the "Nobel Prize" in mathematics. It can be seen that Rambo's profound attainments in mathematics are beyond the reach of ordinary people. But will's talent in mathematics surprised him. Once, Will handed Rambo the answer to a question, and Rambo began to pretend to comment. But will didn't have the patience to wait for him to think, so he told Rambo that the answer was absolutely correct. Take it home and have a look Rambo later had an argument with Will, who picked up the answer and lit it with a lighter. Rambo frantically pounced on the burning answer, finally grabbed half a piece of paper and collapsed on the ground, admitting that he really couldn't understand Will's answer. Rambo wanted Will to engage in mathematical research. He found five psychologists for Will to get him out of the shadows. Rambo is a person who loves talents. It is also a great success for people to appreciate themselves in life and spare no effort to help themselves.
Will gnawed at his trust and emotional input because of childhood trauma, and isolated his true emotional expression with defensive psychology. Treat others with a defensive and offensive attitude, thus obliterating the true emotional expression in their own lives and living in a contradictory world of conceit and inferiority: on the one hand, repair Harvard boys with conceit and ridicule, tease psychologists, solve mathematical problems, and understand the cold-blooded inhumanity of national intelligence work; However, the other party refused his girlfriend Skyland's sincere efforts with inferiority and fear, fearing that others would abandon others before abandoning themselves, and did not dare to try to establish a close and trusting relationship with others. Many times in the film, Will sits alone in a speeding train carriage, letting the night scene and the dawn light fly away from the window. The faint music sets off his silent picture and outlines Will's conceited and helpless complex mood.
In the process of "soul wrestling" between Shane and Will, Shane encouraged Will to establish a close relationship with his own emotional experience of knowing and staying with his wife. The first step is to try and even ask Will one of the most basic life questions: Why are you alive? What should I do? And, no longer accept his nonsense "nonsense answer". Will, under the impact of his girlfriend's departure, old friendship and diligence, and Shane's sincere treatment, collapsed in fear and cried with Shane, and walked out of the shadow of childhood abuse; And "do whatever you want", give up the high-paying job recommended by Professor Rambo and go straight to California to get back together with his girlfriend.
Catcher is a position in baseball, which comes from English catcher. So far, it has many extended meanings, meaning someone who can catch something. Good Will Hunting is really vivid. Others say that teachers are engineers of the human soul. Supposedly, our teacher should be a "goodwill hunter" of students, and should walk into students, get to know them and understand them. Teachers should be careful and be able to detect the slightest psychological changes of students in time, so teachers need strong observation ability. Furthermore, we should have enough psychological knowledge to understand the psychological changes of students. If you can't read it, you can't catch the students' hearts. If you can't understand students, you can't find the best education method. At an appropriate time, guide students to realize the true meaning of life, instead of telling them how to be the helmsman of their own life. I believe they will bravely face the storm, sail to the depths of the sea and find their inner call.
The second part: the review of bona fide hunting.
Good Will Hunting tells the story of a genius who gave birth to Will. Will has an amazing talent and can easily solve the math problem that Professor Rand has been studying for two years, but he is just a cleaner. Poor background and family situation made him fall into autism and developed an arrogant character, but in fact he is a fragile person.
He fought, attacked the police, fought, stole, and even was arrested and imprisoned. He used unruly and rebellious to hide his fragile and inferior heart. Professor Rand accidentally discovered that he was a mathematical genius. After he went to prison, he bailed him out, invited him to discuss math problems and asked a psychologist to treat him.
Professor Rand wants Will to help him make greater achievements in mathematics, and arranges interviews with people from the Institute of Advanced Mathematics, hoping that he can make greater progress in mathematics. But will doesn't like this kind of life, and his unruly makes him disobey this fate. Professor Rand finally invited his college classmate Professor Sean to help him. Professor Sean collided with his thoughts in a unique way and finally broke his defense.
Everyone has his own psychological problems, so does Sean, a professor who teaches the mind in the film, but he is often fascinated by the authorities, and the onlookers see clearly. He needs good hunting to capture the most fragile and fragile side of his mind. Hunting in good faith, everyone wants to see through other people's thoughts, but at the same time, they keep their own secrets, their own stories, their own pains, and their own wounds that cannot be healed. ...
Many times, we can't say what we feel and don't want to say it, which eventually leads to our depression. Just like the hero will in the film, he really wants to talk to others, but he can't say it. It was not until he met Professor Sean that his heart slowly opened up and revealed his fragile side.
This film has no thrilling plot, but it is so intriguing and memorable. The most admirable thing is that the core of the film is the mutual help and redemption of souls, with the focus on every spiritual collision between Professor Sean and Will. In every collision, Professor Sean is breaking Will's defense line bit by bit, so that he can get out of the shadow of childhood, have the courage to face everything in life positively, regain his confidence in life, face the world, pursue his true love and embark on his own life path. Will's psychological problems actually reflect most children born in poverty but gifted in society. Because of poverty, they can't lift their heads, and because of their family circumstances, they are treated unfairly. ...
The so-called famous psychologist invited by Professor Rand for Will refused to treat him again after treating him once, because they thought Will was crazy and hopeless. Their arrogant, indifferent and indifferent attitude is disgusting. Only Professor Sean didn't give up on him, talked to him again and again, and resonated with him mentally until he was willing to believe in himself and open his heart to him.
In the film, Professor Sean and Will are bosom friends, and Will also has real friends. Will leads a mediocre life every day. His good friend Chuck couldn't stand it anymore and said something that shocked me: "You are my best friend, don't get me wrong. If you are still my neighbor in 20 years and come to my house to watch TV every night, remember, I will definitely kill you. ..... No, you are not sorry for yourself, you are sorry for me. Because I will be 50 years old when I wake up tomorrow, and I am still doing it. It doesn't matter, and you have a million lottery tickets, but you are too timid to cash them. I will do anything to exchange what you have, and so will others. If you stay for another twenty years, you will insult us, and staying here is a waste of your time. ..... I pick you up at your house every day, and we go out to drink and laugh together. Great, but the best moment of my day is only ten seconds. Every time I knock on the door, I hope you have left, and never say goodbye. Nothing. You left. I don't know much, but I know it very well. "
In fact, he knows Will very well. A simple paragraph and the revelation of details confirm the greatness of friendship. He wants Will to live a better life, instead of giving up on himself and wasting his talent. Perhaps this is the selflessness of friendship, no possession, no selfish desire, no jealousy, only support and encouragement. Some people say that friends are our soul mates and spiritual pillars, but how many are truly selfless?
In fact, everyone will experience pain, hardships and setbacks. Some people just can't get out of these shadows, and gradually form a layer of ice to cover themselves, unbreakable. This is how Will, the hero, relies on his own intelligence to tease and laugh at others to protect himself. What is commendable is that Sean first opened his heart to Will. Although his heart hurts, he knows that he must trust Will before he can let his guard down. How many people can do it? In repeated quarrels and exchanges, their hearts gradually approached and finally succeeded in getting Will out of the shadows.
In fact, they all have * * * in common. They are pure and kind people, just to hide their pain, and often lose themselves and their direction. Professor Sean asked Will what he wanted to do, but Will just couldn't answer, because he had no direction and was confused for twenty years. He insisted on finding his own way and what he wanted to do so that his life would be meaningful.
Will's Twenty Years of Pain was finally released under the guidance of Professor Sean. At the end of the film, Will's good friend Chuck drove to pick Will up as usual, only to find that the building was empty. Will took his friend's advice and went on his own. Chuck's mood at the moment is both excited and lost, but it can be seen that Will's future is bright ... Chuck is Will's true friend. He helped Will when he got lost and gave him a street lamp, which made him see the other side in the thick fog.
Will accepted the job introduced by Professor Rand, said goodbye to his friend and Professor Sean, and drove on the road. What path will he choose? It doesn't matter what he chooses, because he has the ability to be responsible for his future. He is no longer troubled by the shadow of the past. He is firmly moving towards what he wants to do and the front line of his work.
It takes a lot of courage to change. Talent cannot be wasted. Learn to love others from the details. Everyone has their own logic. If you treat others with your own logic, you may feel lonely in the end, so you need to have what you want to do, the way you want to go and the result you want. How to choose your own life path is in your own hands.
In the movie, the therapeutic relationship between Will and Shane is the basis of Will's change. In creating this new relationship, Shane, a good will to hunt, only shows sincerity. Sincerely face the relationship between yourself and your, sincerely face the stress reaction caused by the challenge of Will's first treatment, don't say too much to hide yourself, and don't give up because of being provoked. Take yourself as a mirror and invite Will to face his true feelings. After Will shows himself, he still feels that he is sincerely accepted. Sincerity is no longer just a technology here, but an attitude and spiritual strength, which melts Will's inner ice. Of course, this sincerity also comes from Will's girlfriend and friends, so several sincere forces come together and Will goes to his own world.
When I watched the movie again, I saw the power of human growth. People are born with a tendency to realize themselves. Although his early experience gave Will reason to be a man who fights everywhere and leads a chaotic life, in Will's mind, he never gave up on himself. I read a lot of books, went to Harvard as a cleaner, felt inferior and conceited, and got along with my girlfriend. There were constant scenes in the movie: Will was sitting alone in a speeding train carriage, letting the night scene and the dawn light fly away from the window; The faint music sets off his silent picture and outlines Will's conceited and helpless complex mood. These shots are a portrayal of the conflict between desire and fear. On the one hand, Will wants to close himself, but his inner world is eager to be recognized and recognized, and his unique talents are eager to be displayed. In the movie, Shane and the math professor have different attitudes towards Will's future, and they have different styles. Shane communicated with him with sincere and rich life experiences, instead of choosing a life path for him, he just helped him to sort out and deepen his feelings, thoughts and interests, and saw the power of his growth. Like Karen. Henny said in Neurosis and Human Growth that "you don't need it-in fact, you can't teach an acorn seed to grow into an oak tree, but if you give it a chance, its inner potential will grow into an oak tree".
In front of visitors, because of some advantages of psychological knowledge and skills, I keep asking visitors: "What should I do?" Is to show him the way. Or tap the growth strength of visitors and cultivate the ability to be responsible for themselves? This is often a question of a consultant who has just done consulting. In fact, there is often no need to teach visitors how to do it. As long as we help them understand and find their own growth strength, anyone will become the tree he should have grown up in.
When I watched this movie for the fourth time, I had some feelings mixed with depression and happiness: everyone is limited, and no one has fully grown up. Shane appears as a kind hunter in the film, but in the spiritual communication with Will, we will have such a feeling: Who is the therapist? Who is the patient? Patients, including therapists, are destined to experience the beauty of life and the pain of life: loss, illness, aging, pain, helplessness, meaningless feelings and death. No one has no trauma. In the process of sincere and interactive treatment, Will also influenced and changed Shane. Therefore, the film not only sees the growth of Will, but also sees the growth of the therapist: he walks out of his isolation after losing his wife and begins a new contact with life.
Respecting the trauma of visitors means respecting yourself and accepting the imperfection of human nature. In consultation, when we look at visitors from the perspective of human nature, we will have less authoritative and critical attitude, get to know visitors more deeply, enter their inner world, and our treatment will be improved. Moreover, this is not only a consulting attitude, but also the driving force for the growth of therapists: not to be isolated from themselves, but to let people be with themselves.
Article 3: Examination of bona fide hunting.
Since God has given talents, let it go and be hired! Everyone is unique and has his own talents, but everyone has defects. We are not perfect, but we can pursue perfection. Everyone who runs in this world stands independently like a tree, connected with many trees to form a forest. No matter how strong and optimistic people are, they will be confused in different degrees when facing these problems, such as love and trust, ideal and reality, persistence and abandonment, and shadows are floating in the city of the soul. Some people go through this journey, the breeze fades, step by step into a better life and stay in the middle of youth. Good Will Hunting is a touching film, which describes young people walking through the haze of youth, getting rid of isolation and liberating their hearts.
Will, the hero of this film, is an ordinary cleaner. Rita has no higher education, but he has a natural talent for mathematics. In addition, his hard work has enabled him to show superhuman ability in the field of mathematics. However, because I was abused by my stepfather when I was a child, I left a deep trauma and inferiority in my heart, so I was sensitive and alert everywhere when I interacted with people. At the same time, he tried to prove his worth and make others accept him and admit him, but because of his deep inferiority, he could not face everything around him calmly. It caused his arrogant but cowardly, sensitive and self-indulgent complex personality. The beginning of the film shows us Will's complicated personality at a certain time. However, Rita's math ability was discovered by Lin Bao, a math professor at MIT, which led to the most wonderful part of the film-Lin Bao invited a psychologist to give psychological counseling to Will. Professor Lin Bao used many methods to hope that he could open his heart and enter his heart. However, many psychologists who were invited by professors to give psychological counseling to Will were humiliated by this boy with amazing IQ and declared Will "hopeless". The professor is at his wit's end, so he has to turn to Rita's college classmate and friend Sean, hoping that he can enlighten this extremely clever and stubborn young man. Sean is also an eccentric professor with a simple life. Like Will, he suffers from the dark shadow in his heart. After some quarrelling, the two finally appreciate each other, slowly melting the frozen heart and becoming friends who forget the year.
After watching this movie, I have mixed feelings. I believe that many people have received different degrees of language or physical education from their parents when they were young, and so have I. After the quarrel, people will think about where they are wrong, how to change and how to do their best. Then I am thinking about what is the meaning of my life and what is the essence of life? And so on, but I still have to decide what to do.
Home is a warm harbor. When I just left home and entered the university hall, I thought I could finally get rid of the shackles and finally give myself a completely free space. But this is not the case. Whenever we encounter difficulties and setbacks, the first thing that comes to mind is my parents. Even when I am sad, their voices can always give me a warm current, buffer my pressure and give me the most selfless help and advice, which is also the source of strength for me to maintain a happy and healthy mentality.
A person's life is neither long nor short, but it is not always smooth. On this long road, we will always stumble, but how to avoid or repair after encountering it is the most important thing, so that we can move forward in the distance. People live to give full play to their personal values and enjoy life happily, not to be enslaved by life. If you can make your life full and happy, it is the best life and the most meaningful life, so that you can think for yourself and be happy for the people you care about. This is the most basic and simple way of life.