Educate the parents of their children, and these three things cannot be less. Many parents will worry that their parenting style is not comprehensive enough, and there will be many troubles in the process of growing up. The baby can't do something at this time, so all parents must seize the opportunity. Below I share three ways to educate parents of children.
Parents who educate their children cannot do without these three 1 Family education plays an irreplaceable role in their children's growth. Parents' educational concepts affect their children's physical and mental health and success. It is not easy to be a qualified parent. In the long-term education consultation, the experts in parenting education at Mama University found that the following three types of parents are most prone to problems in the education process.
First, there is a lack of reflective consciousness-external view replaces internal view.
Parents' eyes are always looking outward-always focusing on their children, never looking inward-introspection and reflection on their own educational methods. When children are obedient, they have nothing to say. Once there is a problem, they will ignore it. They think it's wrong for children. This is all the children's fault. They never look for reasons on themselves, trace back to the source and reflect on whether the education method is wrong. Is the education method too strict or laissez-faire? Did you do what you seemed to do and set an example? Did you create a good and healthy family environment for him? I will only complain blindly that children are too strong and difficult to discipline.
For example, children are not interested in learning, why not? What caused the lack of interest? How can we arouse his interest? Children's problems can often be found in the family, and parents can also find shadows. Teacher Zhang Tensor, an expert in mother's university education, once said, "Behind problem children is a family with problems." As parents, we should have a sense of reflection. It's time to calm down and reflect.
Second, lack of appreciation-it looks poor but not optimistic.
Professor Zhou Zheng, a famous psychologist in China and an expert in parenting education at Mother's University, proved the importance of appreciation to children in his Twelve Laws of Zhou Zheng's Parent-child Relationship by comparing angel education with real education. Appreciation is the sunshine in children's growth and the positive motivation of children. However, many parents lack this appreciation for their children. Only see the child's shortcomings, can't see the child's advantages, and care about the shortcomings and turn a blind eye to the advantages. Blame and blame blindly, thinking that he is a scout, in order to find shortcomings, remind him from time to time as his own responsibility, thinking that picking "thorns" can promote his healthy growth.
In fact, this is an educational misunderstanding, psychologist William? James said: "The deepest desire of human nature is to be appreciated by others." Therefore, what children need is to be affirmed, appreciated and praised. The younger the child, the higher the status and the lower the "restraint". A child's success is praised. When he praises his self-confidence, he is also praising his success.
We should discover the advantages of children with a microscope and their disadvantages with a telescope. Weaken the shortcomings and strengthen the advantages. This is also the advantage wall education concept of mom's university.
Third, the lack of a correct attitude-from a distance.
Parents expect too much of their children, regardless of their personality characteristics and intelligence level, regardless of their physical and mental development laws and individual differences, lacking subtle observation and in-depth understanding of their children, blindly following the trend and following the crowd.
Watching other people's children practice the piano, regardless of whether the children are interested or not, catch the "duck" on the piano. It is said that going to the Olympics can improve the thinking ability, regardless of whether the child has math expertise or not, forcing the child to swim "water". Satisfied the vanity of parents for a while and sacrificed the happiness of children's childhood. I only pay attention to immediate interests, but it never occurred to me that children are not instant products, not overnight fame, nor are they plasticine that you can knead. If you have no interest, you will study hard, which will eventually lead to the consequences of hating learning.
For another example, parents only see the exam results under their noses, haggling over the difference of one or two points, and some even get angry, but they can't see far and long.
In fact, scores do not fully reflect a child's comprehensive or overall quality. For a child, whether he can achieve something in the future and live a happy life depends on whether he has a good job! Starting from extracurricular activities, encourage children to do more homework, think more, explore more, read more, cultivate various interests, stimulate their curiosity, and help them find skills that suit them and settle down.
Parents who educate their children can't lack these three kinds of 2 popular science tips: how to educate their children to learn from one's educational experience should be carried out in many stages, from infancy, infancy, childhood, adolescence to old age, and each age stage has different ability to absorb knowledge, so different educational methods should be adopted. when we ...
A person's educational experience can be divided into many stages, from infancy, infancy, childhood, adolescence, youth to old age, and each age stage has different ability to absorb knowledge, so different educational methods should be adopted. When we were still in kindergarten, the teacher would use nursery rhymes to teach us to learn. In primary school, teachers will help us learn and remember through repeated education.
Everyone has his own unique personality and different tendencies towards educational methods. Therefore, when educating them, we should adopt a different way from ordinary people, and don't educate everyone in that unchanging way. Especially in today's society, every parent attaches great importance to their children's education, so it is particularly important to educate their children.
Preschool education mainly refers to the education of children aged 3 ~ 6. Pre-school education is the second half of pre-school education or early education, which is connected with the previous O ~ 3-year-old infant education and the subsequent primary education. This is an important and special stage of one's education and development. "Importance" means that it is the foundation period of a person's development, and many important abilities and personality qualities form basic characteristics during this period; "Special" means that this stage is the transition period of children's physical and mental development from the initial amorphous to the basic stereotypes, and then they can start learning and developing according to social needs. Babies do not begin meaningful oral communication until about 1 year after birth. Before that, the baby relied on nonverbal communication to express his feelings and thoughts. In addition to crying as a direct communication, body language such as facial expressions, arm and foot movements are all.
Early childhood education can also be divided into broad sense and narrow sense. Broadly speaking, all purposeful activities that can affect children's physical growth and cognitive, emotional and personality development, such as watching TV, doing housework and participating in social activities under the guidance of adults, can be said to be early childhood education. Preschool education in a narrow sense refers to the education of kindergartens and other specialized preschool education institutions. Kindergarten education belongs to the school education system in China. Like school education, kindergarten education also has advantages that family education and social education do not have, such as planning and systematization.
The best period of intellectual development:
According to American psychologist James, intelligence develops fastest before the age of 5. For a child aged 65,438+08, 50% of his intelligence was acquired before the age of 4, 30% before the age of 4-8 and 20% before the age of 8-65,438+08. Studies by American physiologists also show that babies are the fastest period of brain physiological development. The weight of an adult's brain is about1400g, about1000g at the age of 4, and about1300g at the age of 8.
Japanese scholar Mu Shu Kuiyi pointed out that children's potential ability follows a decreasing law, that is, a child with a potential ability of 100 at birth can become a person with a potential ability of 100 if he is educated at birth, and a person with a potential ability of 80 if he is educated at the age of five.
This shows that the child's brain develops rapidly. In the period of rapid development of children's intelligence, the role of early education is also particularly great, because intelligence is closely related to education and social environment. If children are properly educated in the right way during this period, the effect can be imagined.
Early childhood education can only be effective if it starts from real small things. Many parents also like to arrange things for their children. For example, kindergarten invites parents to watch their children tie their shoelaces together, but some parents say "very simple" to their children and tie their shoelaces for them. Parents should let go more, let their children get exercise, and don't let him rely on everything.
Many parents are afraid that their children will suffer a little, so they follow their children and do nothing, but they can't manage it for a while. Only by teaching him the skills of survival can he live better in the future. If he does something wrong, he should correct it in time, otherwise the habit will become natural and the education of children will really become a problem.