We can find that the closer the relationship, the less respect we have, including myself. In the afternoon, I asked my wife in the car, why did you stay with me at that time? Let me share my answer first:
The first reason, I said that I have just reached the age of finding someone to marry.
The second reason is that you are beautiful.
The third reason is that you have a good personality, cheerful, lively and enthusiastic.
After I shared it, my wife also shared her answer:
First, I am kind to her because of my good personality.
Second, he is handsome.
Third, when I am old, I also want to find someone to marry.
After listening to my wife's answer, I found that our motives for being together were almost the same. However, the result of starting an emotional marriage with such motivation is bound to be painful, because the motivation is not based on love and dedication, and our initial heart is not perfect.
Facts have also proved that once that sweet period has passed, our love life will return to dullness, and we find more and more contradictions and problems, and there will often be some disputes and quarrels. It was a really miserable time. Once, we were still quarreling after 2 o'clock in the middle of the night and even asked for a divorce.
From love at first sight, to indifference, to long-term boredom, we almost parted ways. After more than two years of study, our relationship is very stable now, and there is basically no fuss, but it is not the ideal state I hope.
Today, I suddenly feel that I have less and less respect for my wife from the very beginning to the present. Look at the relationship around us. The longer we spend together, the closer our relationship becomes, and the less respect we find, such as our parents, our lovers, our leaders, our colleagues, our good friends and even our teachers. On the contrary, we tend to show respect to strangers and people we don't know very well, speak softly, pay attention to language and behave appropriately. However, if we are dissatisfied with our acquaintances, especially our partners and parents, we will easily get angry and complain.
Without respect, there is another side effect, that is, it is difficult to be grateful. Not only is there no gratitude, but it is also easy to complain. Look at our parents, they have done so much for us. Once parents are dissatisfied with themselves, we forget all the good things of parents, including our partner. A little defect in our partner covers up all the good things of our partner. However, a stranger treats us a little better, and we all have great respect and gratitude. We are particularly noble and cultured in front of strangers, and we show our true colors in front of our family.
I shared it with my wife in the car this afternoon. With respect, all contradictions between husband and wife can be resolved. My understanding is, take the customer as the respect, take the customer as the respect. This state can only be achieved when I first met them. If we can "take the customer as the respect" and treat our partners as guests, we will be as respectful as guests. What kind of behavior? What kind of language?
At six o'clock, I told my wife that I would finish my study at 9: 30, so you can pick me up at some time. She eats near my study in the evening, and I call her at nine forty. She told me to wait. She sent a friend home first and said that he had drunk some wine. If it was before, I would feel uncomfortable and complain. I didn't promise. I finish studying at 9: 30, and you watch the time start. As a result, I had to send my friend home first, and he was still a male friend, living in the opposite direction to picking me up.
But tonight, I changed my mind and respected my wife. I found that everything has changed. First, I have no complaints in my heart. I sat there waiting for her with peace of mind. Secondly, I am surprised and grateful. I thought, how would I feel if I were her friend? I must be very touched. I will send myself home first and then pick up my husband. So I especially admire my wife. She is good at taking care of people, caring for people and working hard. She is an example for me to learn from.
No respect, no gratitude. Sometimes I don't know if I'm lucky. When my heart changes, so will my world. Respect is the foundation of all relationships, especially the relationship between husband and wife and parents.