What do women fear most in a relationship? The answer is, who is more important in men's minds than other women?
Women are sentimental, emotional and easily influenced by emotions. Many times, women can be desperate for their feelings. However, the result of doing so is to make yourself black and blue and ache all over.
Women can be more sensitive to marriage and feelings, but be more rational. Otherwise, when sensibility dominates, you will easily be influenced by emotions and even ruin your happiness.
Sister Wang and brother Li have been married for more than 20 years and have a pair of children. Although their lives are either rich or expensive, they are still calm and stable. However, Sister Wang ended her marriage for more than 20 years because of a WeChat in Li Dage's mobile phone.
Two years after the divorce, Sister Wang wanted to remarry, but she was opposed by her brother Li. At the beginning of the divorce, Sister Wang left home cleanly on impulse. Seeing that Li Dage was unwilling to remarry, Sister Wang regretted it.
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After more than 20 years of marriage, Sister Wang is in charge and Li Ge is away. Both of them have been keeping their homes in good order and living a good life.
Such a calm and stable day was broken by a WeChat in Li Dage's mobile phone. Out of trust, Sister Wang hardly checks Li Dage's mobile phone. However, for a while, Sister Wang found that Brother Li frequently chatted on WeChat with his mobile phone. What makes Sister Wang angry is that every time Li Ge talks about WeChat, she deliberately avoids Sister Wang.
Women's minds are naturally sensitive. Seeing Li Dage's abnormal behavior, Sister Wang's first instinct was that Li Dage was chatting with other members of the opposite sex.
Sister Wang pretended not to know because she didn't want to ruin her family.
Brother Li drives a taxi. One day, I accidentally left my mobile phone at home. Out of curiosity, Sister Wang opened Brother Li's WeChat and saw a new WeChat that she hadn't read yet. The note said "Dear her".
Sister Wang was shaking with her mobile phone, and the whole person was shocked and sat down on the sofa. "What did he do behind my back!" Sister Wang suddenly felt very uncomfortable.
Just then, Li Ge hurried home to get her mobile phone. Seeing Sister Wang holding a mobile phone in her hand, she grabbed it and asked Sister Wang angrily, "Why are you looking at my mobile phone?"
"If I don't see the content of your WeChat today, are you going to lie to me for a lifetime!" Sister Wang was so angry that she could hardly speak.
"I have nothing to hide from you. That dear, she is the object that I have secretly loved for more than twenty years. I told you before that I have nothing to do with her. "
Sister Wang didn't want to hear any explanation from brother Li at all, and began to ask stubbornly.
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After that, Sister Wang began to quarrel with Brother Li for three days and five heads. Sister Wang felt very disappointed. She feels that she has been with a man for more than 20 years, but she is obsessed with an object she secretly loved more than 20 years ago.
Sister Wang asked Brother Li to delete the secret love WeChat, and Brother Li deleted it in front of her. But a few days later, I found that Li Dage added the secret love back. This was repeated about ten times. Finally, Sister Wang couldn't bear it. She filed for divorce. She didn't want her house and property. She divorced Li Dage with a box of clothes of her own.
After the divorce, Sister Wang lived in her son's house, lived with her son and daughter-in-law, and helped bring her grandchildren. However, in the two years after the divorce, Sister Wang's life was not easy.
When she divorced Li Dage, the family was clean and had no savings. Plus, I have been taking care of my children at home since I got married, and I haven't gone out to work. Now divorced, I eat and drink at my son's house and ask my son's daughter-in-law for money. Life is very uncomfortable.
In the past two years of divorce, Sister Wang has also been observing Brother Li. It turns out that Li Dage is not with someone he secretly loves.
Sister Wang proposed to remarry Li Dage, but Li Dage opposed it. Li Dage said, "I have always explained to you that I have nothing to do with her. But you never believed me. In fact, in this 20-year marriage, I have been under your control, and now I am bored. I don't want to go back to the days without freedom. I think my current life is quite good and I don't want to remarry. "
Li Ge's words were like a slap in the face, hitting Sister Wang's face and heart. Divorced and regretted, but remarriage is not so easy.
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Why is it that just a girl who has been secretly in love for more than 20 years, and nothing happened with Brother Li, let Sister Wang end her marriage impulsively?
The real reason is that Sister Wang compares herself with this girl. She thinks that Li Dage has only had feelings for her for more than 20 years, but the woman Li Dage loves most in his heart is that girl.
The relationship between Sister Wang and Li Ge for more than 20 years is flat, without waves or passion. However, just at this time, a contrast object appeared, and Sister Wang began to feel fear and fear.
Therefore, Sister Wang will imagine the object that Li Dage secretly loved more than 20 years ago as infinitely beautiful. At the same time, Sister Wang will have a strong sense of inferiority and unwillingness.
She will be jealous that the girl can have a vigorous love life with brother Li. She will be jealous that that girl can make Brother Li miss her for so many years. She may even think that Brother Li gave her love and liking to that girl.
When Sister Wang is trapped in such thoughts every day, she will imagine the girl she secretly loves perfectly, but she will imagine herself very humble.
When Brother Li didn't really dislike himself, Sister Wang began to dislike herself: "Although you are with me every day, you want to escape from me. You think I want to take care of you, nag you and give you children, but in the end I get nothing. " Sister Wang drowned herself in her own imagination and fantasy, and was in a morbid psychological state.
When a woman has no spiritual support and dependence, she can turn to divorce. As it turns out, this is the most stupid place for women.
A woman who hasn't seen each other for more than 20 years, even if she loves again, how much can she love? Did that woman wash his clothes? Did you cook for him? Did you give birth to his child?
However, whenever a man is flesh and blood, he knows very well who is good to him and who pays for him. What he misses is only that youth, not that person. It is the man in front of him who really lives with him, not you.
So, as a woman, you should be clear. In marriage and affection, the person who can really defeat himself is himself. If the person in the marriage is really sorry for you, it's not your fault. But if it is only a temporary mood, I will voluntarily give up my happiness, and the result brought by this mistake can only be borne by myself.