I think these are more harmful, and I will share them with you:
First: indulge in instant satisfaction!
Have you ever been in such a situation that you finally decided what to do tomorrow, or even you have made a plan for tomorrow and got up the next day? Oh, it's too cold, everything outside the bed is far away, so you tell yourself, I'll wait another 5 minutes, and then I'll open my eyes. It's already noon, and then I finally got up to eat some rice. Oh, I have to digest it.
Efforts are anti-human, instant satisfaction is cool, but it is consuming your life!
Second: indulge in illusory sense of accomplishment!
Why do so many people like to play online games and read online novels? I'm not saying it's not good, but there must be many people who can't escape the frustration of reality. In these illusory worlds, they get a sense of accomplishment that is impossible in reality, and then get deeper and deeper. But leaving these illusory worlds is not good for real life, just a waste of time, and often even makes yourself worse and worse in reality.
It is understandable if it is just for entertainment, but the achievements in reality are meaningful to our life and life!
Third: be satisfied with the acquisition of low-density and low-quality information!
Some people feel that they are working hard after reading two books. After watching the documentary, they said they were studying. This is not enough, or they are paralyzing themselves. Even simple information input is worthless, because there is knowledge transformation and application behind it, which can promote the substantive progress of reality.
In the era of national entertainment, the phenomenon of "nipple music" is pervasive, and entertainment tools and information have long been flooded. If these are easy to identify, there are more and more entertainment information disguised as knowledge in front of you now. You think you are studying, but in fact you are entertaining. Don't do anything to entertain yourself under the banner of learning, and the result will not be to accompany you in acting!
Fourth: fake diligence or fake diligence!
Busy every day. Are you just struggling? Not necessarily. Depends on what you're up to. Many people's busyness just touched themselves. Even if you work late into the night and work 16 hours a day, you are only touching yourself. Because what you are busy with is something you will know a long time ago, even many people will unconsciously avoid important things at work, fill their time with simple details, and then put off those difficult things until they can no longer be put off and "forced" to hand them over to others.
In this way, I am busy every day, but only mechanically. I never consider the meaning of being busy. Is that I have been using tactical diligence to cover up my strategic laziness. As a result, I really won't play with you!
Fifth: self-esteem is too high or self-righteous!
I always feel that I am very powerful. I understand this and that. I always think I can handle it. Things will develop according to my own expectations. The reality is that things will never go according to our expectations. This is the norm. It is increasingly found that the more powerful people are, the more humble they are. They understand that there must be a teacher for a threesome. They know that the butterfly effect, even a slight negligence, can lead to serious consequences. Therefore, powerful people never feel powerful. Be careful!
Sixth: close yourself, close your learning and promotion channels!
This has two meanings. On the one hand, if you don't want to trust others and communicate with others, you shut yourself in your own small circle. If someone wants to show him the world outside the circle, he will think that you are lying to me, because he thinks that his world is as big as the circle, and the world outside the circle is fake, in order to get benefits from him. Excuse me, what are your benefits to others?
On the other hand, I just feel that this is my life and it is impossible to learn new skills and abilities. It's terrible. I just feel stereotyped when I get older. How long have you been in this industry? You forget that it only took you a short time to learn your present skills. Don't tell me how many years you have been immersed in this field. It's all empty. Many people have only one year's experience and have worked for 10 years.
Learning a new field is really not that difficult. Don't define yourself!
Seventh: I like stability and think my life should be unchangeable!
This is also terrible, like stability, so when great changes occur, the whole person will be deceived, such as the outbreak of the black swan incident, how many people were caught off guard and the poor quality was beaten.
The only constant in this world is change. There is nothing wrong with liking stability, but if you think that you can maintain stability without any effort, it is all wet. On the surface, stability requires a lot of time to plan ahead!
I am Qing Hui, thank you for reading!
I think there are two reasons why a person is abolished.
I was ruined by myself.
1 Don't persist in doing things and don't work hard. After a long time, I feel powerless and give up on myself.
I'm too confident in myself. If I encounter a little setback, I will be devastated and can't stand the blow.
3 too satisfied with the status quo, unwilling to accept new things.
Second, it was abolished by parents.
1 Too spoiled by parents, every parent wants their children to live well.
Too much listening to parents is seriously influenced by their traditional ideology and culture.
Parents did not educate their children well since childhood, and did not give them positive instruction, which made them develop bad habits that are difficult to get rid of.
Summary:
People on earth are good at living. Everyone is born with a blank sheet of paper, and parents play a very important role. The rest is up to you.
It is really not easy for a person to learn well. But it's really not difficult to abolish a person. As the saying goes, if you learn well in three years, you will not learn well in three days.
It is difficult to be a man, but it is difficult to be a good man. Work hard!
1. Afraid of change, no courage to stop loss in time. Either indulge in the glory of the past or succumb to the stability of reality. There is only one life, and life is short and eventful. Only by listening to your inner voice can you live a life that will never be wasted.
2. Only receive information sources with low information density: only willing to receive information with low information density (such as videos and pictures that don't need too much brain, as well as entertainment, gossip and sports news with shallow depth), unwilling to receive information with high information density that needs to be absorbed after thinking (such as courses, knowledge frameworks, analysis reports, etc.). ). Because most of the truly valuable information that can make people progress needs to be thought and digested, if this part of the content is completely isolated, it will basically isolate the possibility of progress.
3. Indulge in short-term sense of accomplishment and don't make long-term investment. So many people are addicted to playing online games, reading cool articles, Weibo lottery and so on, and have no perseverance to exercise and study. But in fact, these things that can only be rewarded through long-term efforts will make a qualitative leap in life.
People who are addicted to the internet are different. Spend a lot of time caring about the life of traffic artists, or reading all kinds of gossip and living in other people's lives and trivial things. I often argue with people who have nothing to do with the internet, but forget that what I see on the internet may be false people. I have my own real life.
I'm in the comfort zone, and I haven't stepped out of the circle.
Just immerse yourself in what you are familiar with, without trying new plans, learning new knowledge and seeing new scenery, there is no chance to meet new yourself. It's your possibility that is ruined.
6. Feel free to overdraw your body. I always feel that I am young and can handle everything. Stay up late smoking and drinking, as long as you are happy, as long as you are happy, how can you get hurt? Anyway, you are young and healthy, and you never take your health seriously. Even if there is nothing urgent at night, you should hold your mobile phone, play games and catch up with the drama. I don't study or study anyway.
7. Over-reliance on the existing feasible path: at work, after getting used to the process of one thing, I never thought about how to improve it, just repeating it mechanically, and then deceiving myself that I have a sense of accomplishment. Without improvement, there is no sense of eliminating dross, so there are more and more things to be repeated and it takes longer and longer. In the end, it seems that a lot of things have been done every day, but in fact there is no progress at all, and it also takes up room for progress.
8. Always habitually find various reasons to delay. There are all kinds of arranged things every day, but I always give myself various reasons to delay. The most terrible thing is that I can delay with peace of mind. What is the result of dragging it to the end? If it weren't for this, it would have been put aside from now on. Or just perfunctory (by contrast, so are you)
Always fantasizing about active learning, but never putting it into action, habitually passively accepting learning. Just as many people say that learning English well is not as good as taking an English grade test, they always stay in their imagination until the day of the exam comes. The result can be imagined. The reason for the failure is that the test questions are too difficult, and then repeated.
9. I don't read much, do much, and think much. I can't settle down to do things. I always dream that I can do this and that. I hope the past or the future, but I refuse to work hard now. If you don't study, don't work hard, indulge in fantasy, and suffer from loss. Made 10 thousand decisions, but refused to carry out one.
10. Think too highly of yourself and take yourself too seriously. After making some achievements, I began to get carried away and felt that Lao Tzu was the best in the world. Some newly graduated college students are prone to this mentality. They feel that they have got a bachelor's degree, and they are proud of themselves. They always pretend to be highly educated and want to get a high position in a big company, but they don't improve themselves in a down-to-earth way. They are always ambitious.
1 1. Don't control your emotions and temper and complain endlessly. I never want to solve the problem. I just want to vent my emotions, get angry and complain, and hurt people close to me. Once you don't like your own ideas, you start to get angry and say all the ugly things you shouldn't say, and you don't know how to reflect and change afterwards. I think I took it for granted.
12. Always thinking about how to take advantage of small things and only staring at some small interests in front of you. For these interests, regardless of the mutual affection of the people around you, kick down the ladder, which should not belong to you, but also grab a piece of cake. You only have interests in your eyes, but no feelings.
13. Fall into a negative interpersonal circle and be brainwashed by all kinds of negative energy every day. You can't hear anything good except their complaints about life and others. By osmosis, you will start to complain and feel negative energy. Everyone is blind, and they don't give you a chance because they can't see your bright spot, not because you are incompetent.
15. Be content with the status quo and don't want to see the development of this society. I always feel that I have an iron rice bowl and I can sit back and relax. In addition to fooling around at work every day, when I get home, I start to lie down and watch romantic idol dramas to satisfy my quiet life, ignoring the fierce competition under calm, fearing to change myself, and even if I am worried, I don't want to take the first step. I always thought I could muddle along day by day. Step out of your comfort zone, even if you feel that you have reached the bottom now, you should learn to lift yourself up from the bottom bit by bit, and let this power become the support point of your future life.