Emotional maintenance is cultivated from marriage.

Emotional maintenance: learn to cultivate from marriage. In fact, emotional intelligence training in marriage management has already started before marriage, because people with good emotional intelligence can certainly understand the truth of choosing what they love before marriage and choosing what they love after marriage. This is consistent with the reason why we do other things. For example, in management science, there is a saying that people need not doubt. Pre-marital emotional intelligence training is embodied in knowing yourself, your prospective lover, and knowing yourself is to be able to ask what the TA in your dream is like. People who get emotional intelligence exercise will clearly have a portrait of their loved ones. Isn't it easy to find someone as close as possible or directly find the perfect one with this avatar? Such a person, when starting, is sure to win! On the contrary, an example is to abandon chaos from the beginning, or complain from the beginning-from the beginning, let your temper be approached only by the control of appearance or hormones in your body, and only regard animal instinct as love. When the enthusiasm fades, it leaves the torture of personality matching, but in marriage management, one finds it frustrating, ugly or distorted, or bad, so there will be more and more contradictions, mutual accusations, scolding and fighting. Even if two people who love each other live together, they can't be husband and wife without contradictions at all. That's not true. They are all running in, because in the face of disagreement and unbearable habits, their first thought is not to vent their emotions, because they know that their temper should not be directed at the people they love most. It's that they have to deal with emotions before they deal with things, and they also know that if you don't find gas, you won't find it. Therefore, before TA's body wants to get angry, TA's reason has ruled out the possibility of getting angry. This is the advantage of their emotional intelligence in dealing with contradictions. A person who knows how to cultivate his emotional intelligence must know how to understand the habits of his other half. They will know what kind of treatment she likes to see, what color she can accept most when she speaks, and whether she accepts frankness or euphemism. Then change the way of communication to that. Everyone has differences, but the ways to deal with them can be divided into artistic, brilliant, pertinent, ordinary, stupid, low-energy, bad and so on. After that, I have no ability to deal with interpersonal relationships, belonging to the level of being unable to communicate and unreasonable. Family harmony, in fact, is often caused by these subtle details in marriage management, and the happiness of life is also composed of these, which cannot be ignored! At present, domestic women's marriage counseling and emotional growth service institutions. The huge number of single people and the rising divorce rate reflect many problems such as choosing a spouse, getting along with partners, marriage and family. Emotions focus on making them stable and simple. Through professional ability and rich experience, consultants provide solutions and schemes for thousands of visitors, helping more and more people to know themselves and move towards happiness. Emotional maintenance is cultivated from marriage. 2. How to maintain the emotional maintenance of marriage When people think that their satisfaction with the relationship is low, there is no possibility of improvement in the future, and at the same time they think that they have better choices, they will tend to choose to end. When people feel that there is a possibility of improvement in the future and there is no other better choice at present, they are more inclined to maintain an unhappy relationship or marriage. Many people will think that the above-mentioned "choice" refers to potential lovers, but we refer not only to potential objects, but also to other social factors. Self-concept For some people, it is better to start a new life than to fall into the pain of a relationship, while others feel that "being alone" is much more terrible than staying in a relationship without love. Raise a family &; Life Although many people hope that marriage is the combination of soul mates, after all, marriage will eventually return to the level of "supporting the family". Although some marriages are unhappy, they are not divorced, whether for material reasons or for children. They may think that they have no financial ability after divorce, or they may choose to maintain an unhappy marriage in order to give their children a "complete" home. Religion or other cognitive concepts, religious or cognitive attitudes are also the reasons why people choose to divorce. In some religions, divorce is not allowed. Or when a person feels that divorce will isolate himself, lose social support, become a joke of others, and so on. They will hesitate and choose to end their contradictory relationship. In a word, the decision to stay or stay is not entirely based on the current situation, but depends on the expectation of the future situation. In short, once it is proved that this relationship has no possibility of improvement, people will begin to evaluate the future. If they think they may have a better choice, they will be more inclined to leave and start over. Perhaps this is the reason why many young couples in modern society have a high divorce rate-they know that they are still competitive and are likely to find a better partner.