"My mother-in-law doesn't mind if I pick up my parents to live here?" What does "your house is your call" warn us?

In the traditional concept of China, the woman must be integrated into the man's family after marriage, although many couples now have their own houses after marriage. But in most people's cognition, although the wedding room belongs to husband and wife, if the man's parents come to the door, it is going home, and the woman's parents come to the door, it is a guest. But for women in the new era, as the owners of this house, they also want to take their parents in. It seems normal, but it is very likely to turn into a conflict and become the initiator of destroying the relationship between husband and wife.

Xiaoqing is a strong girl. Although she comes from the countryside, she made up her mind to take root in the city from the day she went to college. The university began to work, and when the graduate students graduated, they were already small rich women in the circle. Persuaded by her friends, she bought a house with a loan. Not big, but at least he has his own nest. Xiaoqing soon met her husband Liu Bin. Liu Bin is a civil servant with a stable income and is a local. The most important thing is to be good to Xiaoqing, and everything goes well in love and marriage. After getting married, Liu Bin's family also prepared a wedding room for them, but the place where they worked was close to Xiaoqing's house, so Liu Bin simply moved the things to Xiaoqing's house and their wedding room was rented out. Xiaoqing is busy at work on weekdays, so she has time to visit her parents only during holidays. When Xiaoqing went to work that day, her mother called and the mother on the other end of the phone was crying. When Xiaoqing got home, her father was lying in a hospital bed after a stroke. My once majestic father was lying in bed, unable to even eat or drink.

Looking at Liu Bin, who was busy in front of her father's bed, she couldn't make up her mind whether he would agree, mainly because she was worried about her mother-in-law. From the beginning of marriage, Xiaoqing knew that her mother-in-law was very powerful. Although she didn't live together, she came to the door the next day and said a few words that were neither salty nor light. Xiaoqing doesn't care much about her mother-in-law because she doesn't live together. But what if my parents come to live? Xiaoqing tentatively said to Liu Bin, "Will my mother-in-law object if I take my parents to live?" Liu Bin obviously didn't expect Xiaoqing to bring her parents, because Xiaoqing has a younger brother and Xiaoqing is very busy at work. In his opinion, he can hire a nanny. But the house is Xiaoqing's after all. He said angrily, "You make money to buy a house, and you have the final say."

Parents are worried about their son-in-law's attitude and refuse to go back to the city with Xiaoqing and others. Xiaoqing went back to deal with the work, because the unit had already gone back in advance. Liu Bin also feel right, feel Xiaoqing unreasonable. One day, when Liu Bin returned to his mother's house for dinner, he couldn't help complaining about Xiaoqing. I didn't expect to criticize Xiaoqing's mother-in-law all the time, but this time I stood on Xiaoqing's side. In modern society, men and women are equal, and children have the responsibility to take care of their families. Moreover, compared with rural areas, the rehabilitation conditions in cities are indeed better. To say the least, the house is indeed Xiaoqing's. There's nothing wrong with keeping her parents alive. As a husband, you should support her.

Marriage does not have to swear to each other, nor does it need sweet words. What is required is that the other party can take himself to heart, take the other party's affairs to heart and be considerate of each other. Mutual understanding between husband and wife is very important, so no matter how big things are, they are also small things. If you don't know each other and can't put yourself in each other's hands, then even the smallest things will become big things.