In fact, I usually like watching psychological education TV series. When my children were in primary school, I watched the psychological talk show on CCTV 12 on time every day. At first, the children resisted, but later they followed suit without expectation. Maybe it's because of the subtle influence of family atmosphere. My son majored in accounting in college and was not interested in accounting after graduation. He obtained the third-class certificate of national psychological counselor through online self-study, and his psychological knowledge is that.
In fact, parents' methods of educating their children and their own inherent models have many disadvantages. Only when you grow up with your children can you learn to look at yourself constantly. As children grow up, they gradually learn a lot from them.
I will try my best to consider everything from their perspective, so my two children like to chase me and share what they like and hear with me since childhood. Even so far, they are willing to discuss some problems with me when they come back from other places. Of course, there is still a generation gap on some issues. I will reflect on my own views and try to respect their opinions.
There is a parent who has studied psychology and is very relaxed and happy with his children. Children will chase their parents to talk and discuss problems.
My point of view in educating children is that children are not expected to succeed, as long as they grow up psychologically. Please have a look.
After 1 80, no matter what major a teacher studies, three additional courses are required: psychology, pedagogy and biology.
Fortunately, I have carefully studied adolescent psychology.
3. In our daily life, unconsciously, we will make proper use of relevant knowledge in psychology.
4, children grow up in praise, sunshine, self-confidence, high-spirited, high-spirited and positive.
5. Good children are boasted, and cultivating children to love labor is better than all remedial classes.
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It should be said that a parent who has studied psychology will make children feel happier. Because parents can better perceive what their children need and give them better care, unconditional love and proper care. You can make your children feel that they are good enough mothers. Have more knowledge and understanding of children's cognition of society, experience setbacks and solve problems.
But it also depends on how much psychology you have learned. There has always been an irony in the field of psychology, that is, many people, such as Freud, Jung, Adler, Rogers and so on. , all have serious psychological problems, but in the end they all got out of the predicament and became big coffee. However, if you only studied psychology and didn't explain your own problems clearly, it is easy to use half-baked knowledge to train and educate your children according to your own ideas, which may cause more harm to your children.
One. It is easier to get along with each other, and parents pay more attention to their children's mental health and mental health. Two. As a child, I will be more honest and trustworthy. Because children know they can't cheat their parents who have studied psychology. Third, it is more rational, but at the same time it is difficult to be seen through in front of parents. Therefore, it is natural and involuntary to avoid parents, but there are fewer opportunities for communication. Especially the older the child is, the more obvious it is.
How do children feel when their parents have studied psychology?
I think this question is like this:
1. In recent years, psychology has been paid attention to in China. Many parents seek self-growth. For the healthy growth of their children, they will learn some psychological knowledge, such as parenting education, family education, marriage relationship and so on. Even if they have no formal comprehensive study, it is beneficial to children as long as they pay attention to mental health.
2. If parents study psychology and engage in psychological work, children's feelings will be different.
A friend of mine, a senior psychologist, once asked her children: What do you think of mom? The child replied: very good, mom counselor. My friend was sad for a long time after listening to it. Why?
From the child's point of view, parents are parents, which has advantages and disadvantages. The relationship between children and their parents is parent-child relationship, and it will never be the relationship between psychological counselors and visitors. No matter how powerful a counselor is, he is not a child's counselor, but a parent with a harmonious parent-child relationship.
In fact, my friend is very concerned about children's mental health, so he often cares about helping children like a psychological counselor. However, what children need is a pure mother, who can quarrel and be spoiled. We can see that mothers are sometimes weak. Later, my friend worked hard to adjust the relationship with the children, and everything became better.
I'm also a counselor. I pay attention to mental health and pursue self-growth. This process is actually quite hard because it needs to be changed. Once I asked my child what she wanted her mother to do, and she said she wanted to be a psychological counselor. It seems that the child is quite recognized and thinks this job is very good. Like most parents, I get along with my children, with contradictions, entanglements and quarrels, but the difference is that I adjust quickly.
Since our children were young, we have often talked. Therefore, although I, like most people, have had the unpleasant experience of being born in a family, and I have also had the entanglements and contradictions in my family now, because I have been actively adjusting and changing, my child's personality is positive, optimistic and adaptable. The child knows what I do, my weaknesses and her own shortcomings, but she has confidence in the future.
I think this is very good.
I think there may be two extreme feelings. First, children find it particularly annoying to have a parent who studies psychology. Second, the parents of sensory psychology are very proud, and they are at ease with their feelings.
Tell me about myself. A few years before I studied psychology, I always wanted to fall in love with my son. I've always wanted to find some psychological problems for fear of missing education. I always apply psychological theory to my son. When I was an intern, I was a mouse, and my communication was abnormal. My son was very angry and strongly resisted. At the same time, I told my classmates privately that I could hypnotize and do psychology. His classmates felt very secretive and envious. Once I peeked at my notes and learned that I knew it was just right for a classmate, but I was helped "professionally" by him. My son passed adolescence smoothly, and his good affection and physical and mental health have a lot to do with my psychological study.
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Parents who have studied psychology and can use psychological knowledge to raise their children must be lucky. Because such parents can understand their children's emotions and feelings, respect and accept their children, communicate with them sincerely and enthusiastically, and get their parents' active care and encouragement in time. If parents understand psychology, they can better understand the three magic weapons of raising children: love, patience and companionship. Such a child can feel the feeling of heaven.
Having studied psychology does not mean that you can study deeply or use it flexibly. If you can't learn well, you might as well not learn. For example, some people have studied psychology and think that educating children should be unconditional love and satisfaction, which is inappropriate; Some people have studied psychology and think that it is not enough to be friends with children. Parents are parents. Be friends when you should be friends, be teachers when you should be teachers, and be parents when you should be parents. This angle is unique, not one-sided. Therefore, learning psychology, educational psychology and family educational psychology are required. We should learn and use them flexibly, not mechanically, nor should we make the best use of the situation.
As far as my personal experience is concerned, everyone should learn a little psychology, master children's psychological laws and characteristics, and then actively use these knowledge, laws and characteristics, in line with this objective law, in order to educate children well and let them feel the love and good intentions of their parents. From my communication with my daughter, she basically recognized our relationship, our communication and education methods, and formed her own personality characteristics and advantages. This is my observation and understanding. Maybe from my daughter's point of view, I feel it more deeply.
The title itself is not clearly defined. Compared with other disciplines, psychology is indeed more complicated. What we call science is the process of studying the objective world with objective methods. But psychology can't, because psychologists should study both objective behavior and subjective psychological process. There are many branches of psychology.
Many of them have nothing to do with children and have no influence on children.
Now back to the topic, the subject asked this question. According to my psychological analysis, the topic has assumed a major premise of mastering children's psychology. You think that psychology can know each other's (children's) thoughts, and will try to intervene children's behaviors and thoughts in advance.
However, learning children's psychology is only a systematic understanding of children's behavioral characteristics at all ages, while children's psychology in textbooks is based on samples, but each child is a unique individual and cannot be completely copied.
Besides, doctors don't treat themselves. For others, psychological counselors can calmly analyze and draw objective conclusions, while for their own children, there are many subjective factors, which tend to narrow or enlarge the pros and cons and cannot draw objective conclusions.
Finally, I want to say that psychology is not magical, but the biggest inspiration I get from studying psychology is to respect the true colors of life and help children move towards a better place. But as long as he thinks of his mother and someone who will always support him, that's enough.
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Psychological counselors are also ordinary people, and they also give children many expectations and requirements! The most basic thing is to give a positive response No matter whether the child is fooling around or losing his temper, it is not doting, but actively coping! Help children build a sense of security and self-confidence together! See the child's efforts and process, and dilute the results! It is easier to accept an ordinary and mediocre child!