Also on why psychological counseling should be charged (reproduced)

Because psychological counseling is a special "exchange" relationship in which visitors exchange their time for the spiritual service of psychological counselors to soothe their hearts. First, from the perspective of consulting relationship, first, from the beginning of paid and agreed consulting, visitors and consultants have established a formal consulting relationship, each with corresponding rights and obligations to ensure and maintain the smooth progress of the consulting process. In order to respect the consultant's time, visitors will of course take the initiative to cooperate with the doctor to see a doctor on time. After the consultant enters the service role, he will certainly do his best. Both sides can devote themselves wholeheartedly to the consultation, and the consultation effect can be guaranteed. In some public facilities, there are many free psychological consultations in schools. Sometimes the relationship between the rights and obligations of consultants and visitors is relatively vague, or it becomes a right relationship or produces unnecessary guilt, thus affecting the consulting relationship. Second, the psychological counseling industry stipulates that psychological counselors are not allowed to conduct formal counseling for their relatives or friends and need to be "referred"; Require respect for the privacy of visitors and absolute confidentiality; Asking for referral to a consultation that is difficult to maintain the consultation relationship for some reason; Counselors are not allowed to establish any relationship with visitors except for consultation ..... and so on. All of these need to be established on the basis of standardized consulting relationship, and there will be corresponding restrictions and guarantees. The influence of cost on psychological counseling is various, and Freud's requirements for cost are very strict. He believes that psychoanalysis without money is not good for the treatment of patients, which naturally reduces the income of the healers themselves. Therefore, he stressed that psychoanalysis is different from other fields of medicine, and even friends, acquaintances or people in their own families must levy treatment consultation fees. If you pay the fee, you think it is someone else, not an outsider. The relationship between counselors and visitors is sometimes even better than that of friends or relatives. In order to keep a realistic distance, it is necessary to charge. Secondly, as far as visitors are concerned, firstly, the attitude and reaction to money is also the feedback of your information that you bring to the consultant, which is helpful for the consultant to understand you and provide help. This relationship model is helpful for your personality growth. Psychological counseling is to break your old behavior and thinking mode and establish a new one. If it is free, first of all, it means that tourists have "looked down" on themselves! Or tourists themselves feel looked down upon, which is a boon and a harm to their self-esteem. This seems to be a sign of weakness, but I don't know that the psychological mode of "free possession" behind it has laid a potential obstacle for my spiritual recovery. Paying reflects the visitors' recognition of the consultant's professional value and the value orientation of "paying" for others' labor. Only "equivalent" help-seeking consultation will get the expected effect, and visitors will have an equal respect, which is conducive to the development of consultation. Second, the consultation fee itself is a psychological process of overcoming one's own inner contradictions and daring to trust, which has a certain effect of psychotherapy and correcting bad personality: the process of psychological consultation requires the cooperation of both parties, from the outside to the inside, from beginning to end, the process of working side by side with efforts, free psychological consultation, and the motivation of visitors to actively explore and change themselves when receiving treatment is often insufficient. I always hope that the counselor can comfortably solve the problem that has been bothering him for a long time, which is waiting for others. At the same time, charging service is also the code of conduct for customers to seek medical treatment. Consulting within the agreed time according to the content agreed with the consultant itself plays a positive role in enhancing the self-awareness, sense of responsibility and self-control of visitors. Behind the psychology of expecting free "help" is an unhealthy and unequal psychological modality, which will lead to poor prognosis of counseling effect-because you don't have proper "pay" and formal counseling relationship constraints, you may not cherish and care about the process of psychological counseling (such as agreed time, homework and interaction requirements) and the psychological counselor's advice and guidance in your heart, or you may "give up" at will, which will lead to the counseling giving up halfway. Finally, as far as psychological counselors are concerned, psychotherapy and counseling are the labor process of psychotherapists or counselors. If you work hard, you should charge. Just like we ask someone to repair the computer and change the gas, we have to pay someone else. For example, when we go to see a physical illness, we have to pay for laboratory tests and prescription drugs. On the one hand, once a consultant accepts a visitor's request for consultation, it is necessary to make a targeted consultation plan, discuss with the visitor the goals achieved by the consultation, prepare corresponding consultation procedures and methods, arrange the time effectively, and ensure the smooth and effective consultation process of the visitor. Therefore, the consultant's work should be paid accordingly. On the other hand, in the early stage of employment, consultants have paid a lot of spiritual and material investment for personal career growth. As a relatively laborious mental labor input, it is not too much to get appropriate output compensation. The training of psychotherapists comes at a cost. Not to mention the doctor's labor needs to be paid, and the consultant's room facilities have no cost. It is said that the level of psychotherapist is the most important external factor (internal factor refers to the visitor's own factor) that affects the therapeutic effect of psychotherapy. Everyone knows that if you want to go to court, you must hire a good lawyer; If we are going to treat heart disease, we must find a high-level doctor. Why do you want to find someone with high professional level to go to court to treat us? Because only in this way can we safeguard our own interests to the greatest extent. In addition, psychological counselors will be "forced" to accept a lot of "negative information" in the process of soothing their hearts. Long-term accumulation will directly affect their physical and mental health, which may be beyond ordinary people's imagination and understanding, and counselors' psychology also needs regular debugging and reasonable compensation. Consultants must also accept certain supervision. There are at least two disadvantages to not charging. First, visitors do not cherish the treatment opportunities they get, the interaction with consultants and regular visits. As a result, I just chatted with the doctor and didn't seriously talk about my true feelings. I can come whenever I want, but I don't want to. As a result, psychotherapy cannot be carried out systematically and effectively. I have done psychological counseling for paying tourists and non-paying tourists. Visitors who pay for consultation generally don't come late or not for no reason, and visitors who don't pay sometimes don't come or come late for no reason. Psychological counseling in colleges and universities is generally free, and they all have such problems. Second, if you don't pay the fee, the consultant will also lack the sense of responsibility, thinking: I can chat with you and listen to you, but I don't care if I can give you the greatest and best help. Therefore, if there is no charge, it will ultimately harm not only the interests of consultants, but also the interests of visitors. Consultants can't survive without income. If they can't survive, how can they help tourists? Because they can't make money, it is impossible for consultants to study, train and participate in supervision, and their level can't be improved. How can we provide high-quality services for tourists? Therefore, if there is no charge for psychotherapy, or the charge is too low, it will make the psychotherapy industry unable to develop forward, and finally make people with real psychological problems unable to get good psychological help and effective psychotherapy. This is exactly the problem that many friends encounter now: where can I find a better psychotherapist? ! Because it is professional, it is charged. Free psychological counseling is often more casual and unprofessional. This randomness is harmful and has a negative impact on both sides of the negotiation.