Xiaowen just turned 30 this year, but she is still single. She is not in a hurry. She is anxious, and her parents are even more anxious. A woman is not married at the age of 30, and she doesn't even have a serious boyfriend. When she went out, her neighbors were ashamed to ask her. Xiaowen was actually very popular in high school and college. Many boys pursue her, but Xiaowen doesn't like any of them. Parents also think that in school, we should study hard and fall in love in no hurry. Besides, there are many people who look after their daughter, and her refusal makes them feel that she has a high vision and is very happy. However, after graduating from college for a long time, Xiaowen still didn't mean to take her boyfriend home. They thought Xiaowen was embarrassed, enlightened her, and now her parents encourage her to fall in love, so they took her home to have a look.
But Xiaowen's answer surprised them. It turns out that Xiaowen hasn't had a boyfriend since graduation. It's not that she doesn't want to find it, but that she hasn't found the right one yet, so she is also very upset. Then the parents asked Xiaowen, didn't the company see the right one? Xiaowen said: everyone in the department is either married, and I am not married at all. A super playboy, his girlfriend keeps changing; About the same age, but too fat, living habits are definitely not good, not self-disciplined; Another entered the company, silent. All he knows is work. Forget it.
Since knowing her daughter's distress, parents have started to arrange blind dates for their baby daughter, not to mention that there are really good men in the blind date. This man graduated from a first-class university in China, stayed in the capital after graduation, and only came back to start his own business in the last year, and now he has improved a little. Like Xiaowen, she has never been married, but she has a house and a car. People grow well, 170CM, a little taller than Xiaowen, and usually pay great attention to fitness. Men like this are very popular in the market. Xiaowen felt incredible after listening to the introduction of the matchmaker. Such a man may not even find a lantern, but she met him. So Xiaowen made an appointment with the man. The first impression Xiaowen felt was very good. After the man sent her home, he also made an appointment with Xiaowen to meet next time, and the two added contact information to each other. Xiaowen later heard from the matchmaker that the man was satisfied with himself and he was even happier. He thinks this person should be well grasped!
However, the good times did not last long. After the last two dates, Xiaowen decisively refused the man's continued contact. Now Xiaowen's parents can't understand, and ask this person what's wrong? Xiaowen said that this man greeted other women with a smile in front of me, talked for a long time in front of me, and didn't respect me, which made me feel insecure. Maybe he would do something wrong to me one day. After hearing her daughter's answer, parents said that he started his own business and must have contacts with many people. These are all inevitable. Unfortunately, he refused because of this. However, Xiaowen has always insisted that he will not think wrong. Later, Xiaowen's parents asked her, what kind of man do you want? Xiaowen thought for a moment and said: In fact, the requirements are not high. The first thing is to look good. The second thing is to earn a little money, to be self-motivated, and the most important thing is to love me.
Xiaowen's conditions, many people will feel very general at first sight, and feel that the requirements are not high, so why can't you find a satisfactory man? Then we should analyze these three "ordinary" situations mentioned by Xiaowen.
First of all, you should look good. What is the criterion for judging this appearance? It's Xiaowen, not my parents. What if Xiaowen just thinks that Eddie Peng Yuyan Yuyan can get by? There is only one Eddie Peng Yuyan Yuyan in this world. Unfortunately, if you want to fall in love, you have to meet at least, but Xiaowen may even have a small chance to meet himself. After all, he is a star. Second, you can earn a little money and be self-motivated. How much is this little money? Annual salary of 200,000? One million? Or higher? Xiaowen has standards. Finally, it is probably the easiest of the three conditions to love Xiaowen, but the possibility is still very small. Xiaowen is 30 years old, and she is no longer the girl that many people chase on campus. The attraction of women to men is a parabola, which reaches its peak at the age of 25 and then begins to decline, while Xiaowen is 30.
Xiaowen's conditions may not seem high, but they are ridiculously high. This situation is actually very common among older women. The reason why "leftover women" appear is that they set their own mate selection criteria at the peak of their lives. When your attractiveness drops, if your standards don't drop with it, the chances of finding the right man will be less and less.
Another indisputable fact about men is that they have a habit, that is, men like to get married before the age of 30 and start their careers after that. There are many men who are not married after the age of 30, but if they are not married and have a successful career, it is to find a needle in a haystack. Traditionally, there is an age difference between men and women. A 30-year-old man matches a 27-year-old woman, and 30 years old is a big sign. After that, there are fewer opportunities.
So, a little advice to all women, please choose a marriage partner for yourself before the age of 25. If you are over 25 years old, please lower your criteria for choosing a spouse. The world has its own set of rules. If you don't follow them, you must have the intention to accept being attacked by the world. The choice is in your own hands.