From a girl's point of view, I know more about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't engage in a tug-of-war with her, you will feel uncomfortable. Maybe the person you like will also suffer.
When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt.
Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?
Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.
If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. And when you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.
She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up?
Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary.
Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.
If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.
Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. One is that people think you are unmanly, and the other is that you feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!
By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I would rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets!
Life is beautiful, enjoy it and learn to find it!
First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM)
I think the most important thing is to let MM see your ambition.
The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.
Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.
Confident and responsible.
Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.
It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.
Not too formal, but not too casual.
Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed.
Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.
Look a little mature
A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.
Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)
The most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things too clear, so that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.
Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.
Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.
Start with a low profile.
First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".
Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !
This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.
Don't be too impatient in the communication process.
Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).
Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.
Also, don't take out the ambition of "you must marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.
Create opportunities appropriately.
I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.
You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.
In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.
Bogey: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.
Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.
As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will find ways to repay you. If they can't, they will find a way not to associate with you, so they won't always owe you a favor.
If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.
Third, what is a "girlfriend"?
Girlfriend is a fact, not a promise.
You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.
I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "
So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.
What is "confession"?
As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that they are very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".
Is there a time when you "have to confess"?
Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.
At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.
Don't say the word "love" easily.
I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.
A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.
Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.
Not every MM can catch up.
There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.
Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.
I like a person very much and want to see him very much, but I can't see him for some reason. What should I do? Can't meet. Find out the reason why we can't meet first and see if we can solve it. Second, you like him very much, so in order to maintain your relationship. You can make phone calls and send messages. To communicate.
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If you like someone, why don't you want to meet them when you meet them, and you dare not meet them when you can ... Because you may be afraid that your physical condition is not suitable for him, and he may not love you at once, or you may think that ta doesn't think you are beautiful enough or handsome enough. Talk about what you should pay attention to before you have the same language.
What should I do if I like someone but seldom see him? I can try other methods, such as sending a message to my friend by phone, greeting him, or chatting with QQ. I don't have to confess to him myself.
I like a person very much, but I can't like him. What should I do? It's hard to let go. To pursue another relationship
I like a person, but I will be restrained when talking to him. How to overcome staring at yourself every day? Look at her picture for five minutes! A month or so should be enough! What are all men afraid of?
I feel inferior. I like being alone. It doesn't matter if you dare not see him because you are short. As long as the other person doesn't mind, it doesn't matter how short you are, let alone how cute and protective you are.
If you like a person and are afraid to associate with him, how to increase your confidence first?
Make full use of your appearance and inner self.
Then attack and make him infatuated with you.
Don't be afraid, he is a man.
The important thing is to express yourself and know what you like and want.
Efforts will not be in vain.
Remember that you must be excellent first.
I like a person, but I'm afraid to meet him. What should I do with this mentality? Actually, I'm upset, too. She likes me too.
But she just didn't dare to come out to see me .. ~ ~'
But I believe. I will use time to prove that I am not playing with her.
I hope you can do the same.
What should I do if I like a person and want to talk to her a lot, but I am afraid that he will bother me? Love is always more beautiful than reality, when we meet, and when we say goodbye. We think that love is deep, deep ... the years to come will let you know that it is only very shallow, very shallow ... The deepest and heaviest love must grow with time. Because of love, two strangers can suddenly meet and sleep in the same bed. However, the same two people said when they broke up, I think you are getting more and more strange. Love makes two people from strange to familiar, and from familiar to strange. Love is a game that turns a pair of strangers into lovers and a pair of lovers into strangers. I believe that love can change a person, which is the benefit of youth and the sorrow of youth. A prodigal son is always a prodigal son. What changes a man may be the love of God or the compassion of Buddha, but it will never be a woman. The prodigal son is the least suitable for marriage, and the prodigal son is the most suitable for marriage. It is often not a woman who changes a prodigal son, but a woman who just appears when the prodigal son wants to change. A man's life, but do two things to a woman: better than she imagined, worse than she imagined. A woman forgives his bad with his good. If one day they can't be together, it's not that he is too bad, but that she is too good. In our life, we should remember what we should forget. Memory exists in cells, in the body and will never be separated from the body. Destroying it is equivalent to burning everything. However, some things must be forgotten, forget the pain, forget the harm that the person you love the most has done to you, and that's all. Time will let you know about love, time can prove love, and it can also overthrow love. There is no kind of sadness that time cannot alleviate. If time can't make you forget those people you shouldn't remember, what's the point of our lost years? Wouldn't it be great if all the sadness, pain and failure were false? Unfortunately, there are many false feelings and false meanings in the world, but their pain, failure and sadness are always real. He has thousands of advantages, but he doesn't love you, which is a shortcoming that you can never convince yourself to accept. A person's greatest weakness is not selfish, affectionate, savage and willful, but paranoid love for someone who doesn't love himself. Secret love is a kind of self-destruction and a great sacrifice. Secret love doesn't even need a date. We just stand by and watch the river, look at our reflection and feel sorry for ourselves, but we think we are in love with someone else. Love, like love songs, has the highest reverberation. The saddest thing is not revenge, but regret The best love is bound to have regrets. That regret has become a lingering sound, so we should pay attention to it. The most beautiful love, don't cry for the land, just care for each other silently. Disappointment, sometimes, is a kind of happiness I will be disappointed because I have expectations. Regret is also a kind of happiness Because there are things you regret. Pursuing love, and then finding love, has always been a thousand times. The most romantic love is not available. The most romantic love story is when someone who has broken up with you calls and asks, "How are you?" Your usual answer: "I'm fine." In fact, you still love him, and you are not good at all. Men pretend to be strong, but they are afraid of being found weak by women. A woman pretends to be happy, but in fact she is afraid that a man will find her sad. Love, sometimes, is a sinking thing. The so-called reason and determination are just ridiculous words to comfort themselves. Love has always been a bondage, and the pursuit of love does not mean the pursuit of freedom. Freedom is precious, and we exchange this most precious thing for love. Because I love someone and know that I will lose my freedom, I am willing to make a promise. Commitment is used to counter all changes. Change is eternal, and we can only restrict the change of the world with eternal promises. What can't last forever is not a promise. Commitment is very expensive, if you respect your personality. Love has security and insecurity. Love is a shock, a sense of powerlessness. Love is temptation, and only love can give you the strength to resist temptation. Love is loyalty, but love can also make you betray. A person is ungrateful, perhaps because he has a bad memory. He forgot, so he can be ungrateful; He didn't forget it because of ingratitude. He didn't completely forget the past, but his memory was so poor that the past was no longer profound, and he was soon replaced by new memories, only remembering the laughter of the new couple and forgetting the smiling faces of the old ones. Love and nostalgia are two different things. A man can't forget his old lover. He must have hurt her in the past years, and he can't make up for that mistake. When you know it's irreversible, the only way to compensate is to miss her and punish yourself with the memory of her. Deep self-righteousness is nothing but self-deception. Women who know love usually lose badly. Love is cruel and the winner is king. Feelings can be transferred, marriage can be frozen at any time, * * * can be overdrawn, and love sells for a good price. Yes, this is our life in this small city. Let's go out together today and do my best. The safest and most timely way is to be with yourself. The most beautiful state of a coin is not static, but when it rotates like a top, no one knows whether the side that is about to turn out is happy or painful, love or hate. Happiness and pain, love and hate are always intertwined. The so-called fate, like invention, comes from accident. Love is also an invention, which needs constant improvement. However, this invention is different from other inventions. It has no patent right and will be taken away at any time. The more afraid of losing, the easier it is to lose. The more you want it, the more you have to put it down. It's hard to let go, but there is no choice. There are many things in the world that can be redeemed, such as conscience and weight. But there are more irreversible things, such as old dreams, such as years, such as feelings for a person. It is not painful to give up someone who loves you very much, but painful to give up someone who loves you very much. Food can have a label that says "Please eat before this". Women are not food, youth has a time limit, and so does patience. Please love her and take good care of her before the time limit expires, because she has no time. Everything has its time, so does hugging, and so does love. Love comes and goes. Love always expires unconsciously. One day, when we took it out, we found that its freshest days had passed forever. The saddest moment in love is the later indifference. A person who once loved you is suddenly far away from you, just a stone's throw away, but it is the end of the world. Once vigorous, ever ever-changing, ever complacent, ever heartbroken. Finally, the saddest breakup turned out to be silence. There is separation when we meet, but everyone is afraid of separation. As we all know, the last parting is death. We say "all good things must come to an end", but we are reluctant to drink the wine in our hands. We want to sing another song and sing another song. Can you not go? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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