Before coming to the United States, I was very curious about the fact that Americans can educate their children well without beating or scolding them. In the United States, if corporal punishment, verbal humiliation or other means cause physical or psychological harm to a child, the person concerned must be punished by law, and parents are of course no exception. Americans believe that success does not only refer to academic achievements, but should include a wide range of meanings: law-abiding, honesty, courtesy, team spirit, physical and mental health, etc. Chinese mothers are the "talismans" of their children, and it is their "patent" to protect their children and spoil them. However, this is not the case in the United States. Americans believe that in a child's early education, the mother has a great influence on the child's life. In the United States, children must ask their mother for permission in advance and make a "budget" as to whether they can eat chocolate, play video games, or invite children to the house. You should apologize if you do something wrong. While dining, I sat down where the host's child wanted to sit. The little guy started to make a fuss: "That's my place, I want to sit there." The owner of the opposite sex hurried over to persuade, but the little guy still made a fuss, and the male owner became serious: "If you don't obey, go back to your room! "The little guy was really stubborn and rushed upstairs in tears. I quickly said: "It doesn't matter, just change the position!" But the owner of the opposite sex said: "No, this will spoil the child." After more than ten minutes, the little guy came downstairs, and the male owner asked: "Are you ready? "The little guy nodded heavily, lowered his head and apologized to me. At this time, the male host and the host of the opposite sex put down their utensils and walked over to kiss the little guy affectionately. This is how American mothers teach their children to cry.
When we first arrived in Houston, we went to the supermarket to buy daily necessities. There was an American mother holding a little boy about two years old. The little boy was sitting on the ground with a toy submachine gun and crying: "I want this! I want this!" The mother coaxed her for a few minutes, but it didn't seem to work. , so he grabbed the little boy's shoulders with both hands and lifted him up, and said sternly: "Little Peter, look into mother's eyes, mother said no!" The little boy did not raise his head. The American mother was even more severe: "Peter, raise your head!" The little boy slowly raised his head and looked at his mother. After a few minutes, the little boy seemed to understand his mother's eyes and obediently handed the toy gun to his mother.
Children are always the pride of their parents. John, who lectures us, is a divorced man in his forties who has no other hobbies except his major. He often shows us a childish map cartoon for us to read. To be honest, those comic strips were simply graffiti. Some of them could be identified as birds or houses, but Youchi had no idea what they were. But John regarded it as a baby and explained to us one by one when it was a child's work, making people fully feel that the child will always be the pride of his parents. American parents pay great attention to their children and are good friends with their children. Before we returned to China, the American General Office organized a trip for us. A senior executive who led the team seemed to be worried and kept dialing his cell phone. We all thought something big had happened to his family, but later we found out that his son was participating in a football match in the community that day. We exclaimed: "What's going on! Isn't it just the children having fun?" Even so, the children finally reported their battle situation to their father in frustration. After hearing this, the father smiled and comforted: "It's so fierce! My baby! It's a pity that I couldn't see it. The opponent is too powerful! Next time, if we work harder, we will definitely be able to defeat them!"
The third characteristic of American character is that they are practical; they do not like boundless fantasies like the French, nor do they like the British to be stylish and face-conscious; the early history of the United States has made them good at not being discouraged in the face of adversity. A character with accurate goals and diligent pursuit; they believe that pursuing face means achieving nothing, and being obsessed with fantasy means having nothing. They admire people who are smart and strong. They like to do everything by themselves and can solve everything big or small by themselves. Most Americans know how to use machines, repair electrical equipment, paint furniture, and paint walls; they believe that doing these menial tasks in life is a matter of course and is absolutely without loss of dignity. On the contrary, those nerds, fake gentlemen, talkative and short-talking will be laughed at.
Americans are also very pragmatic when it comes to money. They must get paid for their work. It is natural for Americans to ask for help from others and repay them; so they can calculate clearly in terms of labor and remuneration. Clearly. You have to share the cost of gas when taking someone else's car; you have to pay phone bills to use the phones of relatives and friends; when friends go to dinner together, they usually pay their own money; even children need to be paid to help their mothers wash dishes at home; parents go to their children's homes to play You also need to pay for meals.
The fourth characteristic of American character is that they attach great importance to the value of success. It is often said that American character is formed in a fiercely competitive environment; living in such a competitive society, Only the strong can come forward, and only those who defeat all opponents will be successful. In the eyes of Americans, what is important is not a person's family background, but his or her own talents and abilities; even a child must try his best to excel in school in order to please his parents; they also seem to understand that being influenced by Parental love is not a natural right, but a trophy obtained through one's own efforts.
The third characteristic of Americans’ character is that they are practical; they do not like boundless fantasies like the French, nor do they care about style and face like the British; the early history of the United States has made them good at adversity. They are not discouraged, keep their sights on their goals, and pursue diligently; they believe that being obsessed with saving face means accomplishing nothing, and being indulging in fantasy means having nothing. They admire people who are smart and strong. They like to do everything by themselves and can solve everything big or small by themselves. Most Americans know how to use machines, repair electrical equipment, paint furniture, and paint walls; they believe that doing these menial tasks in life is a matter of course and is absolutely without loss of dignity. On the contrary, those nerds, fake gentlemen, talkative and short-talking will be laughed at.
Americans are also very pragmatic when it comes to money. They must get paid for their work. It is natural for Americans to ask for help from others and repay them; so they can calculate clearly in terms of labor and remuneration. Clearly. You have to share the cost of gas when taking someone else's car; you have to pay phone bills to use the phones of relatives and friends; when friends go to dinner together, they usually pay their own money; even children need to be paid to help their mothers wash dishes at home; parents go to their children's homes to play You also need to pay for meals.
The fourth characteristic of American character is that they attach great importance to the value of success. It is often said that American character is formed in a fiercely competitive environment; living in such a competitive society, Only the strong can come forward, and only those who defeat all opponents will be successful. In the eyes of Americans, what is important is not a person's family background, but his or her own talents and abilities; even a child must strive to excel in school in order to please his parents; they also seem to understand that being influenced by Parental love is not a natural right, but a trophy obtained through one's own efforts.