In the minds of boys and girls, the standards of qualified fathers are different, but I think that in any case, if you want to be a qualified father, you must set a good example for your children.
A father must have a sense of responsibility, love his family, love his wife, love his children and, of course, love both parents. Second, we must be enterprising, not necessarily brilliant in our career, but also have small achievements; Thirdly, be able to make friends with children and communicate well; Finally, the father should be dignified and do things neatly.
These are just a few suggestions. If you really want to be a qualified father, you must ask your family for advice!
I wish you happiness!
First, strict but not repressive.
Especially when children are out of control because of complacency, sometimes it will cause trouble. At this time, my father will not really have a seizure.
Emotion, you know, getting into trouble is also a part of growing up, and it is temporary. Even adults make mistakes, let alone one.
A child. Then at this time, you might as well show authority, don't criticize, beat and scold, be strict and adopt.
Check and pay attention,
This is a bit like the state when the chief gave the order.
But we have to catch one.
"Don't really scare him.
(she)
"
Deal with it as appropriate.
For example, my son's Chinese score in the final exam is
99
Points,
Because of an unintentional sentence,
Obviously, this should not be wrong.
while
We were having dinner when he told me. After listening, my language and expression were no longer rich, and I was silent for a few minutes.
At this time, my son will feel something, so he will eat his meal honestly and say nothing more.
After the atmosphere is formed, don't rush to preach, because the son is feeling fear, and an uneasy person will not listen calmly.
Besides, if he is often frightened while eating, his gastrointestinal tract may have problems. But there must be silence itself.
One effect-he will eat quietly, and eat cleaner than usual, and will take the initiative to wash dishes and gargle.
My son is like this, and then he quietly goes back to his room and reads the text loudly (to please me).
At this moment, my
The purpose has been achieved.
Be sure to pretend
"Take care of him"
So my eyes became gentle,
Nod to praise his text reading.
Good-in this process, teach him to learn lessons, take the initiative to correct mistakes, and don't let go of his carelessness.
But the wrong way is to deprive him of the right to eat, scold him or beat him, or order him to stand aside and reflect (corporal punishment)
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You should know that when a child grows up, no matter what mistakes he makes, don't destroy his physical and mental health, just don't destroy it.
Normal living habits, but also regardless of the child's ability to attack and humiliate him or sensational in various forms, than
If you sigh, throw things or slam the door, you can't lead the war to your lover. What do you mean, "you usually spoil the knot?"
Fruit "
, or "How did you teach your children like this?"
This will make children feel that their mistakes are serious and lead to family.
War and family split, remorse will lead to guilt, which will lead to excitement, stage fright, weariness of learning and so on. , even
It may cause depression.
Second, take action and stop nagging.
This is my father's patent. Strictly speaking, children don't care much about their mothers' nagging, because women's nagging is normal, children.
No matter how annoying you are, you can't be too afraid. When the father nags, it is more daunting for the children than a severe reprimand.
Why? Because the average mother will change from angry to sad when she nags, and will soften when she is sad, and the child only needs to go.
It can be solved by coaxing. But when my father nags, he usually gets more and more angry, and then it will turn into a fight, just like a roaring lion.
Yell loudly, and then jump forward to bite. Which child will not have kidney deficiency in front of this lion? !
Therefore, father had better act as soon as possible to express himself. The first thing is to ask him why he made a mistake and make sure the child is honest.
Expression, and the father should accept all the children's ideas, do not blame, do not reject, but listen quietly, and then divide.
Enjoy the same or similar experience as yourself.
Of course, it is best to take action, not to beat and scold, but to cooperate with the adjustment of the child's state (not to let yourself attack and accept)
Pick up)
. Because dad is angry again, one thing must be known. He is a child, his own flesh and blood, a weak man, who commits crimes because he doesn't understand.
Under the fault, the main responsibility lies with the father himself (not teaching well, the father's fault)
, at ordinary times is not nip in the bud, now father.
Parents are just making up for it, not letting their children take full responsibility.
Then, the action should be "cloudy to cloudy"
It is advisable to "cloudy and sunny" again. This is a natural transformation process, and children will not.
You suddenly feel like,
This will teach children a process of adaptation,
Don't let him succeed.
"raw food"
Or learn from your father that you are eager to give it to yourself or someone.
People come to the conclusion. The most important thing is to teach an important skill to children, especially sons: adjusting relationships.
Imagine that when he grows up, he may offend the leaders or colleagues of a certain unit because of something, just like when he was a child at home.
Feeling. Then once his father taught him this transformation, he will also bring it to the future work environment, if between husband and wife.
With this change, the relationship between husband and wife of children will not be too problematic in the future.
Third, guide without blaming.
When my son doesn't like doing homework,
I usually introduce him into my study by playing games.
For example, when addition and subtraction are confused,
I will play the game of buying and selling things with him, so when I pay and exchange money, I will put addition and subtraction in, and combine practice with theory to inspire.
His interest will give him more experience when shopping in the future.
China Kung Fu is not homework, but everyday. For example, I will share picture books with him, and sometimes I will read them to him and invite him.
He read it to me,
For example, he is interested in animals,
Then I will let him read a paragraph about tigers.
He read,
I pretended to be surprised,
He feels my reaction, he will be more energetic and can't remember the words clearly. This is to satisfy his sense of accomplishment.
No matter how old a person is, he will stimulate creativity.
But once said:
"
Why are you so stupid,
Even such a simple word is written wrong. "
"
How can you be so careless,
Are you out of your mind? "
or
"I can't even recite such a simple thing.
What great things can you do in the future? "
These accusations are like spells,
The child heard it.
Not only feel humiliated (the premise of inferiority)
, but also very "obedient"
, virtually fulfilled these accusations, really when I grow up.
It may be the man you said.
Fourth, never beat and scold.
When "beating is pain, scolding is love" becomes the way of interaction between children and parents, children will accept this procedure, so he
It will also be implemented in life.
Because love is beating and cursing, and beating and cursing means pain and humiliation, which will make a person fear and angry, so
When he has a good impression on a person, he won't be too close to him or her (to avoid pain)
. This is division, there is no truth.
Trust and harmony.
When a person is divided, it will not be complete, and an incomplete person will not only be unable to complete teamwork well.
Purpose, such as football, will not have a substantial harmonious relationship with leaders, and even affect spouses, colleagues and their children-
Because closeness (love) means humiliation and abuse, it is better to stay away, which may be "distance produces beauty"
The truth?
The correct procedure is "love is security, respect, embrace and acceptance"
Let love be love itself, not violence,
This is the logical proportional relationship. For example, American presidents Washington and Roosevelt founded their own blogs because of their father's love.
The heart of love, the father is to teach people to "establish a career", and establishing a career is mainly about popularity. If popularity is not good, no matter how good your skills are.
Show.
Good popularity cannot be expressed as
"Beating and cursing is love"
Therefore,
For children to have better interpersonal relationships in the future.
In short, parents should not beat and scold their children in order to have a higher quality of life in the future.
Yes
Fifth, no matter how busy you are, you should accompany your children.
It is not a mistake to let the old people replace their children, but the consequence is often that your children may adapt to the life of the old people.
Living habits bother you. In addition, children will become weak or too indulgent because they adapt to the elderly. What the hell is this?
Whose fault is this?
You can say,
I am too busy to take care of it.
But children don't grow up watching these,
They can't understand this,
If you understand, then the little adult will appear and wait for him (her) when you are overwhelmed.
It will be more troublesome then.
I have one night.
12
I didn't go home until after midnight, the next morning.
10
I went to the TV station to do a program at one o'clock and woke up the next day.
Wash and have breakfast with my son first, and then let him go out to buy food on my second-class bike. After all this, I
Then I set off. Although tired, I believe all fathers in the world have a conclusion: what are we living for, not just for him?
Children grow up healthily?
To this end, let the child feel that you have him or her in your heart.
Pay attention to him (her)
Interact with them. Come on.
Communication, no matter how busy, father loves to keep up, we will not regret it.
Therefore, high-quality companionship must keep up. Even if the time is short, you must let your son and father play several times.
Measure a few rounds and feel the strength and protection of his father, and his son will learn to be a man. Where's the daughter?
She can't live without her father's hug and attention, which will at least directly affect her future evaluation of her boyfriend.