A gentle girl will look more lovely than a careless woman. Some girls are rude, bad-tempered, and love to spit, not to mention that they can't find a boyfriend, but their temperament is not as good as others! Girls, you should remember: if you are not gentle, no one will really treat you as a woman.
Tender is not equal to left!
Some people will use "I am such a woman, I can't be delicate and gentle" to refute. That's right, because you have this idea, you can't be gentle. Is there such an emotion in your heart: tenderness = no personality = obedience = left, I am a female man, straightforward, and like to be myself, so I am not gentle, I am rude, and I love to spit, all because I am sincere!
Don't be silly! If you have this idea, please throw it away quickly! Because gentleness does not mean that there is no principle!
Many girls have a very wrong idea in their hearts. They think that if they are gentle, they will be bullied and they will be considered weak. This is absolutely all wet. Gentleness refers to being gentle (with a firm attitude), considerate of others, and making yourself and others comfortable by speaking and doing things. Gentleness won't make you lose yourself. On the contrary, you can communicate with people around you more effectively.
Some women are particularly grumpy, but when their boyfriends cheat, they begin to consider whether to make up. Some girls, however, have a gentle temper, but once they violate her principles, they immediately break up with that person and die of old age.
The former is called a paper tiger, bullying the weak and fearing the hard, with low emotional intelligence, and deserves to be bullied to death all his life; The latter is easy-going and principled, and such a woman is lovable.
Cultivate a comfortable gentleness
If you want to be a gentle person, you must first change from your heart. You should know that consideration, consideration and euphemism are all virtues. Having these virtues can not only make your love smooth, but also help you avoid social troubles in your life. Being gentle is like losing weight. You can't get fat in one bite, but reading can be a gentle sister paper for both internal and external cultivation. Pretend to be gentle by dressing, dressing up and talking (in fact, my heart often growls).
Don't take "female man" as the reason for your gentleness. You can also choose to be a gentle woman, or cultivate yourself into a girl who makes people feel comfortable.
1, cultivate your outward appearance: at least make yourself look gentle.
First of all, you should be "gentle" about your appearance. Dressing can reflect your personal temperament. Let's not talk about "inner beauty" A person who can't even take care of his appearance well has no capital to tell people that you take care of your inner beauty. You don't have to use clothes and cosmetics that you can't afford, at least "repair" yourself.
If you want to look gentle and lovely, try to keep warm+delicate+cute little details+never wear casually. Whether it is European-American style or Japanese style, we should pay attention to color matching and details, and don't go out casually wearing one. If your figure is not good enough, you must try on clothes first, install a big mirror at home and read fashion magazines regularly.
No matter supermodel, office worker or student, everyone likes jeans +T-shirt. Yes, jeans are very comfortable, but … it's really super easy to become a disaster! Especially for MM with thick legs, you know you shouldn't wear jeans if you let your friends pat you on the back. T-shirts are also a test of matching kung fu. Try to choose some T-shirts with a sense of design instead of Taobao's 30 1 piece. If you don't have good shoes and bags, this makeup will soon become a passerby.
You should realize that the handsome feeling of wearing jeans +T-shirt is the patent of thin people and tall people. Therefore, if you feel that your body is not perfect, you can choose to beautify your body lines through training. Otherwise, please try to wear skirts and choose cute or design clothes. Don't think it's comfortable to wear casually. It looks good. You know, in most cases, comfort and beauty are slightly contradictory.
For women, there are some details, such as dyed hair, oily hair and dropped nail polish, which will make people feel very uncomfortable! Say the important things three times! And it will make you look sloppy.
Ok, if you want to dye your hair or color it, no problem. But if the color fades, please make up the color, because black hair and yellow hair are really ugly. If you plan to dye your hair or do your nails, please make sure that your hair color is soft and bright, fluffy and full, and your nails are clean. This is necessary for a healthy woman. If not, put your body back first and then think about these things. At least healthy women will look more comfortable.
2. Gentle your inner self: improve your temperament.
Many times, you can't be gentle, because your temper is a little grumpy. I know that sometimes a bad temper is actually a sign of a bad brain. Just a lot of problems, you don't know how to solve them, and you will be anxious if you haven't studied at all; Secondly, no one taught you to control your temper when you were young, so you are venting!
If you want to be gentle inside, you must read more academic books and less messy YY novels. Things like YY novels will become more and more obscene. If you don't know where to start, you might as well choose an art you like first. For example, if you like religious music, you might as well watch and listen more from Bach's time, and gradually your knowledge will become wider and wider, and finally your knowledge will be reflected in your temperament.
Have extra time, cultivate and develop a few hobbies you are interested in to increase your knowledge and beauty. Coco chanel once said: at the age of 20, you have a naturally growing face; At the age of 30, the experience of life left a personal mark on your face; At the age of 50, your whole life is written on your face. Beauty will decline with age, but temperament will increase sharply. After twenty or thirty years, elegant temperament will give you extra points.
Learn a dance on weekends, go to the yoga studio to practice yoga three times a week, learn to paint oil paintings, learn a simple piano song every month, and go out to see the outside world when you have time … but don't tell me your hobbies are shopping for clothes, singing K, staying at home and watching Korean dramas and eating! Okay, that's good, but you have to promise:
You like shopping, it lets you know different products of different brands, improves your sense of fashion, and you find your own style; You like singing, which makes you better understand the melody of sound and makes you more interested in exploring in the music field; You like watching Korean dramas. You can master a new language and learn more about different national cultures. However, if you just like watching Korean dramas with dog blood, I suggest you watch American dramas, at least you can practice your English. You like eating, you are interested in the kitchen, you cook different dishes and foods, and you have mastered a good cooking skill.
If your favorite hobby doesn't make you change and improve in this way, then you can give up this hobby.
3. Develop a good habit of gentleness: be careful of your heart.
Many "female men" are people with thick hearts. Many things in life will not be noticed, but sometimes they will accidentally offend others. So you must be attentive, careful and considerate of others, and you will become a gentle woman who makes people feel comfortable!
▲ When talking to others, be sure to smile and bend your mouth slightly. Remember, even if you make a phone call, remember to smile. I can't believe the other person can recognize your expression. If you have friends you haven't seen for a long time or friends from afar, remember to send them a small "hand-holding gift"; When walking with others, when the other person needs it, hand in the paper towel at the right time.
▲ Be polite to the service staff when eating out; When someone is late for dinner, they will get up and smile. Don't make the scraping sound of tableware and plates when eating; Don't be picky, the place where chopsticks touch will be pinched away; When putting the cup, buffer it with your little finger and put it down slowly; Used napkins will be folded, leaving no scratches on the outside.
▲ When walking, don't stop suddenly in a crowded passage, pay attention to giving way to others, and check whether your own things are blocking others at any time; When going in and out, leave a door for the people behind, nod and smile; Take the initiative to get off when the elevator is overloaded, even if you are not the last one to get up.
4. Change your way of speaking: Euphemism won't kill you.
"Poisonous tongue" and "spit" are cool things, but they are not very cute. It's cute to throw up once a week. It's too annoying to vomit every day. Moreover, sometimes some spit is based on "distorting the facts" and "casually defining". Don't say that gossiping is bad for your way of thinking. Think about it. Can you really make a positive result with the male god?
Speaking gently is, to some extent, a sign of consideration for the other party. A person's consideration for others is actually a gentle expression of upbringing. Euphemism has several keys:
▲ Use honorifics, such as "sorry", "please", "thank you", "sorry" and "thank you very much". You are polite, gentle and lovely when you say honorific words and smile.
▲ Don't speak so directly, first consider each other's feelings, and then put forward your own needs. For example, if you want someone to help you write a PPT, don't just say, "Can you help me make a PPT?" Instead, ask the other person if the time is convenient, tell them why they need their cooperation and the importance of this matter, and finally confirm with them whether they can help you. It's very annoying to come up here.
▲ Don't check the account! ! ! Never come up and ask where you live. What sign are you in? how much money do you earn? What do your parents do? Thank you, you are not selling insurance, nor are you auditing. It is very important to respect the privacy of others. If you really want to ask, you should also say, "Is it convenient to know your name/age if you don't know?"
▲ Speak slowly and keep your voice down. You don't sell vegetables, so don't shout when you come up. Also, don't swear, don't rub, don't fuck. You don't want to be a Liangshan hero, so be polite, and the other person is comfortable to listen to. But don't talk at the snail's speed. This will … make people … very … painful … bitter … If you don't know how to grasp it, you can record a passage at home and listen to it yourself.
In fact, tenderness is like the warm sunshine in autumn, which will pass through the gaps between layers of leaves and pour a piece of tenderness on the ground to warm others' hearts. I hope each of you can be a woman who can warm yourself and others.