There are large pictures of beautiful women in the cab of long-distance trucks abroad, telling drivers that life is beautiful and driving safely.
Women are very important to men, and almost half of men are working hard for women.
Dating, falling in love, touching and finally having sex.
Sexual intercourse is the best emotional communication (of course, one party does not want to rape is another matter). Sexual intercourse is also a way that nature gives human feelings and love to blend.
However, there are family rules and national laws, such as monogamy (which is against the laws of nature), and so on. We must control, restrain and grasp it well.
Men should know the responsibilities of the country, society and family on their shoulders and be self-disciplined.
It's not easy to be a good person.
How to overcome lewd psychology?
A: Personally, I think the best way to overcome lust is to increase the affection between husband and wife, and put the main time and energy into entrepreneurship and active life.
First, obscene should be said to be human nature, but human instinct. Whether men or women, it should be said that there are some lecherous people, or there are some lecherous people. Lasciviousness is not a man's patent, and some women are also lascivious. Moreover, some women are more lewd than men, and many of us have encountered similar things in real life. Some female cadres and bosses engage in power and money transactions, almost to the point of madness, almost to the point of madness. Some female leaders basically don't let go of young and handsome little fresh meat as long as they are in their own units, and what's more, they keep an ambiguous relationship with many men. Visible, lewdness is not a man's patent;
Second, in order to overcome the lust psychology, we must first establish a correct outlook on life, marriage and love. Usually, we should spend our main time and energy on hard work and entrepreneurship, and don't pursue personal glitz and personal enjoyment, let alone things with low personal taste. Keep the necessary distance and space between men and women and try to avoid contact with the opposite sex alone. Be loyal to love, marriage and family. When you have lustful thoughts and ideas, when you have erotic temptations and erotic inducements around you, you must warn yourself that this is a trap. If you don't control yourself, you will lose your reputation sooner or later.
Third, we should care more about our families, cultivate good feelings between husband and wife, and consciously resist the influence of bad thoughts and behaviors on ourselves. As the saying goes, flies don't stare at seamless eggs. As long as our own family is happy and harmonious, some lecherous people will not stare at us all the time and will not give some lecherous people an opportunity. All of us should consciously resist emotional temptation, and those who don't make trouble are those who don't make trouble. Everyone is responsible for his actions, and everyone has to pay the price for his actions. There is no free lunch, and there is no windtight wall. As long as we do it, people will find out sooner or later. Whenever we want to do something bad, the first thing we think of must be that there are countless pairs of eyes staring at us, so that we can be lenient with others and strict with ourselves. Don't take chances, only in this way can we effectively restrain lewd thoughts and lewd psychology.
The intrinsic motivation of lewdness is sexual desire and aggression. Let's talk about obscene psychological problems from three levels:
The first level: like the opposite sex, especially the beautiful opposite sex, and expect to have sex with a certain opposite sex. If it's just this mentality, don't worry at all. Confucius said that "lust is also a great desire of human beings", and saints also regard lust as human nature, so there is no need to worry about anything at all, but I think it must be of extraordinary significance for the subject to seriously raise it as a problem.
The second level: the excessive pursuit of sexual behavior has brought some troubles, but it is still under control. Some of the so-called troubles are mainly reflected in two aspects: first, the social function is slightly damaged, and the energy of study, work and socialization is scattered; Second, intimate relationships will be slightly affected, and stable sexual relationships will gradually get tired. Every once in a while, I will change my partner or cheat for no reason. In view of this situation, if individuals are aware of the problem, they should make self-adjustment or psychological intervention as soon as possible, and make it more symbolic and sublime through reasonable guidance of sexual drive and aggression.
The third level: sexual addiction is an orgasm compulsion. From the perspective of psychoanalysis, the sexual impulse of sex addicts is disturbed by some factors in the process of symbolization, and finally shows itself in its original form. From the perspective of object relationship, sex addicts lack a sense of security in getting along with their parents. From the perspective of internal conflict, the self-level of sex addiction has a weak regulatory effect on morality (superego) and desire (id), and sex addicts can not get rid of their original sexual needs.
Sex addicts usually have these characteristics, which can be used to judge the symptoms and degree: 1, willing to spend more money and energy on sex. 2, it is difficult to satisfy, and there is always no satisfaction. 3, compulsive, I feel that I can't do without sexual intercourse. 4. Dependence and increasing demand. 5, the heart will be accompanied by guilt, sadness, loneliness, fear and other emotions. 6, unable to love, always looking for people who are satisfied.
If such symptoms appear, psychological treatment should be carried out in time. For sex addicts, the effect of psychological intervention is better than that of drug treatment.
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How to overcome lewd psychology? Answer: Let nature take its course.
Do we know that people often say that there is a knife on the color prefix in life? Since ancient times, how many people have lost their country for beauty?
So far, how many mistresses have been ruined?
Heroes are sad about beauty, and beautiful women are sad about money. Since ancient times, women can sleep with any man for money, and when men have fame and fortune, they look for beautiful women to have fun.
One is that women have fun with women for money, and the other is to have fun with women. The two sides hit it off, and the color was immoral.
The topic is how to overcome lewdness. A person has a reputation, and only by continuing to work hard can he overcome it. As a hero, he is not lustful. As the saying goes, a leopard cannot change his spots. It is customary for a person to be rich and not to be slutty.
As a woman, it is also true that she is not greedy for money, so she will never meet here again on earth.
Everyone says he is a gentleman. Since he is a gentleman, why do you still meet here on earth? Are you a gentleman? Only your own heart knows best.
First of all, for men and women, everyone has worldly desires, so speak out and overcome them. Let's just say that everyone vents in different ways. According to the body structure, according to the physiological reaction. Men belong to the lower part of male animals, and only when they have sex can they have love, which shows that men are lascivious, but every man is distinguished by external and internal performance unless he completely loses his sexual function. Therefore, an enterprising and ambitious man has no problem with self-control under normal circumstances. Then it is impossible to restrain a man who has nothing to do with negative energy and has bad hobbies, because men should vent frequently, and they are not normal men without venting.
So for women, although I am not a woman, I can understand that women are emotional animals and belong to females. It is difficult to express the psychological and physical requirements for women's external colors, because women will only show her desire for sex in a personal space without people. A woman is not as strong as a man, but that doesn't mean she doesn't like colors. This question must be beyond words.
So to ask such a question, first of all, there is something wrong with the nature of the question, so the best answer lies in self-control and private release. Knowing when you can get angry is the best answer to this question. Thank you.
The so-called "monk is a hungry ghost in color" is because the monk excessively "restrained" his lust in practice. Psychological research has also found that those who are biased against "sex" and even have been suppressing their sexual impulses often have some abnormal sexual psychology. These people, who are usually honest, turn pale at the smell of "sex", but privately satisfy their sexual desire in some twisted ways. For example, fetishes, vaginal fetishes and even erotic killers. The root cause of these sexual abnormalities is often to suppress one's sexual impulses for a long time.
Faced with their own instinctive impulses, human beings have many management methods. Among them, depression is the most primitive, which easily leads to psychological distortion. Sublimation is the most constructive self-management mode. The so-called sublimation is to satisfy your instinctive impulse in some creative and socially acceptable ways. From the perspective of psychoanalysis, all human cultures are actually the sublimation of "sexual impulse".
See no evil, don't listen to me, fine. Social development is inseparable from sex. In primitive society, primitive people had to become strong and hunt more prey in order to obtain mating rights. Now that men are rich, they will start looking for more beautiful women to prove their vanity, so they must pay more and work more than others to earn more money. So it can be proved. Lust can promote social progress. Women love money, men love money, and there are few male and female protagonists. As the saying goes, a gentleman loves money well, and he also hopes that a lecherous person loves beauty well. Don't think that he can do whatever he wants with a few dollars. First of all, don't do anything to destroy the family. Second, don't do obscene things. Third, don't do anything forced, as long as it is two of a kind.
How to overcome lewd psychology? . It's another wonderful question. It's better to say how to get rid of it, don't eat when you are hungry, and put an end to the temptation of delicious food. The ancients also knew that "eating color is also". Is it that human beings have developed to this day, but they are going towards human relations and destroying human nature? Desire is a normal physiological and psychological need of human beings, as long as it is within the normal range, it does not violate social morality, local customs and habits, and abides by national laws and regulations. Whether male or female, lewd psychology shows that you are healthy and thinking normally, just like people want to eat when they are hungry. Why overcome it? .
The biggest contribution to the development of mankind today is "color", which was hundreds of thousands at the beginning and is now hundreds of millions. If there is no desire and no color, there will be no me and you. There is no need to overcome the lecherous and correct psychology as long as it can be controlled normally.
Personal point of view. We welcome the pros and cons of reasoning, and oppose unreasonable abuse and personal attacks.
The solution to the problem lies in "moderation". It is human nature for men and women to have affection, and only paying attention to color will cause problems.
Internet cafes have anti-addiction systems, and we should also establish anti-addiction systems for colors.
What color is reasonable?
Falling in love, getting married, growing old together, the love between men and women is normal. If such basic needs are gone, you may be gay or unmarried, which is out of the discussion. Sexual attraction is the viewpoint of evolutionary psychology. Physiological needs are beyond people's control, and everyone has a love of beauty. I think it's normal to see sexy models on the street and watch too much. That still needs to be memorized.
What color is excessive?
Addiction, doing nothing every day, thinking only about the relationship between men and women, or having a successful career, but thinking only about the relationship between men and women in leisure, breeding criminal psychology and criminal behavior, or violating morality and bringing negative effects. This is too much. People with basic values will feel lewd when evaluating themselves, but they are afraid to admit it.
Give a concrete example: the lust for one person is infatuation, and the lust for many people is lust.
Lust lies in moderation, and color is also a driving force. Love can stimulate potential, so moderate lust is necessary. Excessive lewdness can ruin a person. Change now.
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