Understanding a person is not a nodding acquaintance who has known him for a long time or often, but his values and rich personality characteristics, or identity. These inner things can be observed through identity tags, mood regulators and behavioral traces.
All items that show identity can be called the identity tag of this person, such as posters, honorary certificates, photos, trinkets, T-shirts and so on. For example, extroverts have dynamic pictures of people, while introverts like calm scenery.
Emotional regulators are the kind of things that evoke memories. To put it bluntly, it is something I miss, such as commemorative photos, wedding rings or letters.
Emotion regulator can inhibit loneliness, benefit health and improve production efficiency. By observing these objects, you can know where this person's emotions depend, what his interpersonal relationships are, who can bring him spiritual comfort, and his views on these relationships.
Behavior traces are not deliberately displayed, but left in normal activities, such as the wear and tear of keys on the keyboard. Now there is an archaeological direction, that is, garbage archaeology, which analyzes living habits and health status through the types and quantities of people's domestic garbage.
The living space here may be the real residence, office, QQ space and traces of surfing the Internet.
For physical space, you can observe:
Nowadays, cyberspace can provide more information than physical space. From the screen name, personalized signature, signature under e-mail, Weibo's personal introduction, to various social platforms where thoughts and articles can be published, such as WeChat friends circle and blog, there is a lot of information hidden.
Identity tags are easier to disguise, but traces of behavior are much more difficult. These traces that cannot be prepared temporarily or cost a lot of money can provide you with strong evidence. At the same time, we should also pay attention to coordination in all aspects.
Compared with the real world, cyberspace is actually more honest. Although a lot of content has gone through "beauty", hobbies and habits will not be covered.
In addition, you can also guess according to common sense, for example, according to the region, but you should correct your judgment according to the new information you keep getting.
You don't need to be extremely clever to get to know a person quickly. Look at ordinary places, look a little, there will be unexpected gains.