How time flies! Before you know it, you have graduated from college. Twenty-four years have passed in a flash, as if just yesterday, you were still a baby, babbling and toddler.
At that time, the idea of son preference was still very serious. Many parents would be very unhappy if they gave birth to their daughters for the first time, but fortunately, there was a policy of having two children in rural areas at that time, so many first-born children would pin their hopes on their second children if they were daughters. But your mother and I resisted the rounds of lobbying from relatives and friends, saying, "Without a son, the Lao Song family would be broken", "There is only one child, and parents can't take care of it when they are old", "It's not like we can't afford two children in business" and "the water spilled by our married daughter" ...
We have only one purpose, that is, to give you all our love, so that you can have a happy childhood, a warm home and a healthy and happy growth environment. We firmly believe that you are our little cotton-padded jacket!
Slowly you began to grow up, and I don't know when you started. You told me everything, trivial things on campus, grudges between classmates, and dribs and drabs between teachers. Slowly, you also begin to have your own opinions, ideas and criteria for judging truth, goodness and beauty, but you also have the courage and temper to refute your parents. That's you in junior high school. Your mother and I told you that your child's rebellious period came a little early.
Then we try to learn how to communicate with a rebellious girl. During this period, I didn't scold you once because of my bad temper, and I didn't scold some parents who combined fists and feet. The three of us, like friends, go for an outing, explore together and go to the grassland together. For a bowl of duck blood hot and sour vermicelli soup, the next day we immediately organized a delegation to Nanjing Confucius Temple, and the taste of duck blood vermicelli soup remained the same.
Growing up with sunshine, integrity and gratitude, boys in "Seeds of Love" will naturally be loved, but they will not be distracted like other girls, nor will they be won by sweet words. But this also requires dad to enlighten you in advance and properly handle external interference, right? Do you remember, at that time, I would often ask you jokingly, "Do you like your male classmates?" Do you like other people? If it is normal, the mutual exclusion between men and women from primary school to adolescence is a sign of growing up. But you can't treat affection as love, love as love and marriage as love! At that time, the scene of educating Dong for more than half an hour was still vivid. Perhaps it was from that time that I never pestered you again.
When the middle school entrance examination is about to take place, you are in a bad state. The head teacher came to us and said it was almost the same as the usual exam in No.1 Middle School. Now if this state continues, it will be difficult to be admitted to a key high school. At that time, I was anxious, and I scolded you for the first time in my life. I also used the most vicious words to stimulate you. "You assume that if we have an accident now, what do you live on? By grandparents? Shit, aunt? I tell you, no one can rely on us, and no one has the obligation and ability to help you for a lifetime. You're on your own. What did you support yourself at that time? " At that time, you were crying very sadly, and dad was crying in his heart, but I knew that if I didn't wake you up, it would ruin your life!
? During that time, you worked extra hard, and eventually everything pays off. You got your wish and got into No.1 Middle School with a score of 1.730. That time was also a moment when we felt particularly honored. To help you out of the rebellious period, we are also growing and working hard. Dad also gained two friends whom he forgot to make friends with, one is your junior high school teacher elder brother and the other is your senior high school teacher elder sister. They all added me through your QQ number, and then my father helped them out of the confusion period. Your junior high school brother still often asks me out in advance and drives back to talk to me from time to time. Dad was happy to see him in full bloom. While helping others, I also gained happiness by the way.
At that time, you would often ask, is it so important for dad to be admitted to No.1 Middle School? Is it so important to get into a good university? It doesn't matter whether you go to college or not. The difference is that you will have a good learning atmosphere in a good school, and your personal connections will become an important part of your future work. After you graduate from a good university, there will be more employment opportunities, and your starting point will be more and bigger than others. You should know this better than I do now, right?
? I remember that there is a rule in No.1 Middle School that every parent-teacher meeting will leave a letter to each other. You write to me with your heart, and I will write to you with my heart. This is a heart-to-heart communication. We were not far apart at that time. Even after graduation, you cherish my letter! Do you remember what you said to me then? Do you want to order another one?
Are you still a little rebellious in your freshman year? Did Mr. Lubang scare you? I don't know how you became a mentor when you didn't like Mr. Lu at first. So don't judge a person or deny a person with that first impression or one thing. Too arbitrary decisions will cost you many opportunities and friends. ? Maybe in the meantime, I wrote a letter to Mr. Lu Ping. In the era of highly developed information, a handwritten letter with thousands of words really surprised Mr. Lu at that time. The letter details your personality, temper, hobbies, living habits and your growth process. That's when you began to pay attention to this clever little girl, right? When I was a sophomore, I met Mr. Du again, and then we were taught by them for two years. We saved a lot of heart. In the past three years, you have been in excellent condition, with good health, mental health, active thinking and active study, and then you naturally passed the third grade of that year.
The two teachers are kind to you for your own reasons. You have been a lovely girl since you were a child. Of course, there is also the factor of parents' social interaction. Who doesn't know some friends in the local area? But far away, we are beyond our reach!
? God will take care of you. Your application is only one point higher than the admission line in ludong university. You were successfully admitted as the first choice by the last of the six voluntary schools.
You were so high-spirited at that time. You cried so badly that you didn't like going to the local university and were not admitted to the university in your favorite city, but this is the reality. Life doesn't care about everyone's little things, and what you gain will be lost. Later, Mr. Du and others personally came out to do your ideological work.
? The first day of college is still fresh in my memory, and my father has personally experienced college life. It feels much bigger than the largest school in Laizhou. I also firmly believe that going out will have a bigger world and greater opportunities, but you should know that opportunities and failures are * * *!
? Four years in college, your aunt and uncle live off campus, and they love you very much. They took care of you for four years. When I got home, I told your mother that Yiqing was a lucky child, and there were people to help her wherever she went!
For four years, I have been encouraging you to join the party, run for president of the student union and run for class cadres. It's not dad's reality, it's not money worship, I just hope you have a good starting point in your future employment!
? Finally, I graduated and got the teacher qualification certificate. According to our opinions and everyone's opinions, I have some advantages in testing teachers, civil servants and career establishment. Two years later, I will be recruited by the society. In addition, the unit has a natural sense of discrimination against female employees' job fairs. When I arrived at the company, I was not proficient in any business and immediately faced marriage and children. After two or three years of delay, especially private enterprises, they will not do business at a loss.
We are more inclined to be teachers, with stable work, many holidays, upper-middle salary, high social recognition and relatively low work pressure, which is also suitable for your personality, specialty and counterpart.
But I don't know why you turned down the job. In the morning, I sent you an impatient tone and asked if you had all the information and documents. You are angry, too. Finally, I arrived in Yantai and found that I didn't bring my ID card. You cried. Anyway, you contacted your uncle and drove your ID card. But how many people are annoyed by a casual trivial matter? This is a manifestation of a person's living conditions. Always remember that your family can accept your shortcomings and mistakes, and no one in the unit and society is used to you!
I don't know when you started to communicate with us less and less, or even have nothing to say. Going out and coming back, the state is different. The temptation outside must be great. You have reason to persuade us to work in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai, and your parents are not unreasonable people! It feels like 24 years. Is the generation gap really coming?
Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai are full of talents and elites, with doctors, masters, 985, 2 1 1 everywhere. Every elite walks around the workplace with all kinds of qualifications, certificates, patents and work experience. Many opportunities and high wages will lead to high housing prices, high consumption and great pressure. The annual salary of 300 thousand has not been lifted out of poverty. What are the advantages of your education, your school and your experience? What ability do you have to stand out?
Maybe if you are lucky, you will find a job you like, and the salary will never be high. Then, just like the chef in the hotel kitchen, you will do the hardest work and get the lowest salary.
The biggest problem you may not like to hear is that the best golden age for a woman to get married is 28, and she can't be over 30 at the latest. You might say that there are many people who are not married at the age of 35 in big cities. Yes, there are many unmarried people at the age of 35, but I'm sure most of them are high and low. Women over the age of 30 basically have no right to choose others, and they can only be picked by some successful second-hand or second-hand men! There won't be too many good men in this age group. If there are, women in this age group are generally chosen. The last thing I want to hear is all reality!
What if you have a stable job in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai, or a stable marriage and family, and then consider what to do when we get old in the future? Accident and tomorrow will never know which will come first. Not dangerous. Listen, this is reality.
? We have reached middle age, as the saying goes, people are not as good as dogs in middle age, and you won't understand until you are old. Children are unmarried, parents are old, and work pressure is great. Now, one of us is running a hotel, so we can't go. The other is that we can't go anywhere without this line of work. We're not taking care of your grandma, grandpa, grandpa. Sooner or later, something may go wrong, and at night, the phone is silent for fear that something will happen to them. You may also know the current situation of the three of them. If you have more children, you are far from thirsty! Our bodies are not as good as before, especially during the critical period of your mother's menopause. We are also very tired and want to stop, but we are not allowed to do so in all aspects, so we must persist, persist! You are our hope and motivation! You're all right! We're all fine!
There are not a few years for you to squander, and you will have more freedom when your work and marriage are stable! Two-year critical period, I hope you can do well! Give us a reason to rest!
? From your former father!