Some people have accumulated contacts because of social interaction, and their careers are thriving. Some people think that socializing is a burden. They are trapped in an involuntary situation because they have to make a lot of social contact.
I often hear parents educate their children:
Parents think it is necessary to socialize, for the sake of contacts, for the sake of this family, and for the sake of giving their children a better life, and their children's lives are much simpler. Some people are responsible for eating, others are responsible for drinking, and the rest of the children's business is learning, and learning is for the children.
As for socializing, it is useless consumption for children. A sensible child should be like other people's children:
Don't listen to things outside the window, just read sage books.
But in fact, children not only need to socialize, but also need parents to spare no effort to guide them when they are in the embryonic stage of socialization.
There was once a junior high school classmate who had to admit that he studied very well, but what he couldn't agree with was that his mother was particularly dictatorial and stubborn. In his mind, she felt that everything except study was boring and a waste of time.
For her, mom is a 360-degree nanny with no dead ends. The meal is for the children, and all the clothes to be washed are packed and washed by her mother. Even the socks and underwear were washed by her mother. Her mother did everything for him. The only requirement is that his only focus is on learning, and the rest is useless.
Especially playing and chatting with classmates is a waste of time. Instead of dealing with children with poor academic level, why not do one more math problem or recite one more word?
He is also very competitive. He was a loner who only studied, and finally he was admitted to 985 University with excellent results. However, when I really left my parents and lived alone in a strange city, problems followed.
He not only has poor self-care ability, but also gets along badly with his classmates. Even in many cases, he is avoiding dealing with his classmates. The outstanding achievements before college no longer exist, and some are only their own inferiority complex.
Less than a year later, he was severely depressed. There is no choice but to drop out of school. My classmate's journey is inevitably regrettable.
After all, children are members of society, and it is impossible to hide under the wings of their parents forever. So when the child is about three years old. When the dependence on parents is reduced and the self-cognitive ability is slightly strengthened, what parents should do is to let go, not to pull them into their arms.
When children can start thinking about problems and deal with them flexibly in their interactions with others. He will be more and more confident and sunny.
In daily life, parents can try the following methods:
Exercise self-reliance
Let children hone themselves in labor.
Give children a gradual social space.
In short, children's social rudiments are not born. At this time, the guidance of parents is very important.