Winding is really not just for women. In today's increasingly fierce competition and pressure, men also have a weak side, and they also need to be comforted. If one day, when you are so tired that you want to flirt in front of your wife or girlfriend, don’t suppress this impulse, because it is good for your body; don’t say that he doesn’t look like a man, because you are the best person to satisfy his spiritual needs. people.
Men are more likely to act coquettishly than their wives.
A survey found that among 1,400 families from different countries, races, educational backgrounds, age characteristics, and income levels, there is an interesting phenomenon: men act coquettishly at home more frequently than their wives.
Men also "act like a baby", which sounds new, but it is really a drama in life, but most of it is just performed "backstage". Life is a big stage. In the front stage, men play their respective social roles; in the backstage, it is difficult for the general audience to see the performances of the characters. Most people are accustomed to using the image of the previous stage to position men, and ignore the original background image of men.
In terms of the division of gender roles, women themselves have maternal characteristics, which is one of the reasons why men are more likely to act coquettishly in front of women in private. Another reason is the difference in social roles. Men have always played a strong social image and are under more psychological pressure. Men have been taught since childhood that if you are a man, a man must be strong. In a family, men are often regarded as the center of gravity and must use their strong arms to protect their families from wind and rain. However, men are not made of steel. Like women in nature, they all have a fragile side and have mental pain that needs to be soothed. Furthermore, when men want to play a powerful role in society, they have fewer opportunities than women to vent their anger. So when the man returns home, he exposes his vulnerability to the "psychological mother" in order to gain spiritual comfort.
This is a man’s spoiled capital in his career.
Psychologists believe that under normal circumstances, career is just an excuse for men, but it does not mean that coquettish men do not have careers. On the contrary, career is often their capital for acting coquettishly. Its manifestations are monetary capital and image capital. Money is the universal expression and image is a status symbol. In the initial stage of a career, some external currency symbols are often needed, such as high-end designer suits, gold Rolex watches, thick gold bracelets or necklaces. However, when capital accumulation enters a substantial stage, they will suddenly realize the vulgarity of this form of expression and feel secretly ashamed of it. Then they dress casually like real big bosses, concealing their rise in status with loose, comfortable mid-range casual wear.
When there is no one around, looking back on the past years, there will be a feeling of worrying about gains and losses. The fear of imminent death gradually escalates into an anxiety that often leads to endocrine disorders. At this time, they will be like children, doting on the woman they love with pleading eyes. But there are also wives who think this is because their husbands are unable to face her embarrassment after doing bad things, which leads to a deadlock in the relationship between husband and wife.
Not a coquettish killer.
Only by mastering various ways of coquettishness from your husband can you truly understand his psychological needs. When your husband is silent in front of you, when he suddenly bursts into tears, when he is in great pain, when he wants to watch TV by your side, he must know his inner needs in time.
Experts believe that tears are not the trump card for coquettish men. Although effective for women, it is not easy to use. But that doesn’t stop them from telling their stories in tears, which of course means pain. For a responsible man, when acting like a baby, he can list many responsibilities, including everything to his family, his wife, his daughter, his parents, the country, and his career. Let the woman understand the huge pressure he is under, thus giving birth to the feeling of "cherishing jade as gold".
In short, men in real life need a place to vent their emotions while working hard to run their families and careers. At this time, the wife must open her heart to accept her husband's "acting like a baby", which can help her husband effectively relieve stress while harmonizing the relationship between the couple.