Although everyone expects everyone to be happy, the result will always be unsatisfactory. For the so-called "paying too much" party, TA can use this as a reason to condemn and abuse the other party's scum. If you think about it carefully, in fact, all this happened only because you are willing.
I became like this, just angry because I didn't get it, just like I didn't get a toy I wanted for a long time when I was a child.
Maybe we will be reluctant to live, we will pretend, and there is nothing we can do. That's what we need to survive. People have to bow their heads under the eaves, so there is no comparability.
but for two people, if you don't like it, you don't like it. There is no right or wrong, and if you don't want it, you don't want it. There is no good or bad.
it's good to think so, at least it shows that you are gentle and kind, and your original intention of not hurting anyone has always been there.
it is very difficult for some people to refuse others, because TA will think a lot and may always be in a tangle. In the long run, this is not good for yourself, because people are always selfish.
This selfishness may be expressed as follows:
First, set a premise that the other party is willing to be "good" to himself.
If his "good" purpose is to get it, he will be hurt by his refusal, which must be true for those simple boys and girls who don't know much about themselves. To put it bluntly, his refusal must have prevented him from achieving his goal. How can he not be angry? From a selfish point of view, getting you is the benefit he gets from paying those "good" things.
If his "good" purpose is just a temptation, then naturally there is no need to worry that the other party will get hurt, because this is a consensual thing.
It is possible that some people will become hard to give up in the face of others' "goodness", but they don't like each other, so they will always be ambiguous and play the fool. Of course, there is no denying that some people will make a reverse test through this lukewarm attitude and keep the relationship in a tug-of-war for a long time. If the result is a split, it will be a long time.
This tug-of-war game is a patent for young people, because they have plenty of time to play this emotional game. Boys and girls are as addicted to this game as online games, but it seems to be a little higher than online games. One more thing to say is that although feelings are touched, it is undeniable that they can touch each other after a long period of tug-of-war. However, if feelings are simply touched, it is also very sad, because liking and being touched are basically two different things in the relationship between two people. If they like each other, they can naturally take the initiative to get to know each other. This balance is always balanced. If they are touched, one person is bound to keep working hard. People don't like to work hard, and many things are like this, and feelings are no exception). This relationship is always unbalanced. Even if you can get married, it's hard to say what you can do. Maybe the parties themselves can't say anything, but they just live!
Perhaps it should be emphasized here that if marriage finally becomes a simple life, I don't know what others will think, at least I feel that I might as well be a free single aristocrat instead of being shackled by marriage and living in mutual restraint and interdependence.
By the way, people are different, but their desires are all very different. They are either persistent at this point or persistent at that point, which is basically the same. Anyway, they just need something to occupy their minds and energy, otherwise life will become unbearable. Those so-called love that is dying may be just a mirage, and life will be dull and ordinary. No matter how vigorous it is, it will only be silent in the end.
Perhaps a short story can be inserted here. My dormitory colleague bragged to me all day about how beautiful his girlfriend was, and whenever he had nothing to do, he got into a circle of friends. In recent years, every time his girlfriend came over, he was so happy that he forgot to go back to the dormitory to rest. Unfortunately, he was recently found chatting with an unknown college student. I knew that sooner or later, no matter how beautiful he was, he would feel bored. Fortunately, when he was chatting with other girls, he would feel indifferent. Just as he chats with his girlfriend, it's good that he can do this. What he fears most is the people who do this kind of thing secretly. I also think they will have a happy result. Bless them.
There is also the aspect of getting along with people. It is increasingly felt that problems that can be solved with money should not be solved with human feelings. To pull human feelings with the wrong person is to drag yourself into the pit. So, it is not because people are asked to look at people's faces, and they are at the mercy of others, and their hearts are uncomfortable and their dignity is damaged. It is just that it is necessary to look at people's faces in some small things.
Of course, this is just the mode of getting along with ordinary people. You don't have to worry about those things when you get along with real "friends", but there are very few such people, and it seems that everyone around you has one or two such "friends".