Why is this happening?
It is not that there is something wrong with the chat itself, but that two people will have emotional dependence on each other in the process of chatting.
When many people start chatting with other members of the opposite sex, their marriages are already in trouble. If they don't feel love, they will start to communicate with other members of the opposite sex.
They just started chatting, and they may not have feelings. However, long-term frequent communication will express the setbacks encountered in your life, share the details of your life, and get the response from the other side again and again. One person will feel that he is cared for by the other side, and two people will gradually develop feelings.
His emotional expectations used to be pinned on his wife, but after having a chat object, he will expect the opposite sex to meet his emotional needs and stop communicating with his wife.
The reason is that the communication cost of intimate relationship is high.
When there is a problem in his marriage, he should find a suitable way to communicate with his wife. Until then, two people may have been quarreling, fighting and blaming each other. If they want to communicate well and regain their love, they must reflect on their own problems, improve their communication skills and understand each other before they have a chance to reconstruct their love.
However, the communication cost between him and other members of the opposite sex is very low, because there is no contradiction in life between them, and there is no in-depth understanding. So two people just need to chat constantly, communicate and respond emotionally, and they will feel loved.
So he will gradually cheat and betray his marriage after frequent chatting.
Some people even think that the opposite sex is the true love of their life and resolutely divorce their wives.
But they ignore a problem: the construction of deep intimacy is a very difficult thing in itself, and it needs constant running-in and problem-solving to be truly loved.
In other words, once divorced from his wife and with a third party, he will still experience emotional twists and turns, from sweet period to running-in period, and then to dull period. If they don't know how to communicate actively and manage their feelings, then their own problems will still lead to problems in marriage, and they will appear repeatedly, leading to the breakdown of feelings.
At this time, he will walk at the crossroads again, and if someone continues to chat with him frequently, he will betray again.
Therefore, the real deep intimacy itself needs to go through the storm, and each other can know themselves and each other in the storm, solve problems again and again, and let the feelings return to the track of benign development.
Cheating and divorce can't solve the most essential problem of marriage. Because it only gives you a chance to change your partner, get along with others and be loved, the most essential question is: Do you have the ability to love? Do you know how to run a relationship?