Using heart-to-heart talk skillfully in the work of counselors can not only communicate the feelings between teachers and students, correct students' ideological line in time, but also help to establish a harmonious relationship between teachers and students and a relaxed learning atmosphere, which is an important and effective means to ensure the implementation of ideological and political work.
It varies from person to person, from grade to grade, and from major to major. What should I talk about when talking with students?
For the graduating class, what they are most concerned about is nothing more than "postgraduate entrance examination" and "employment". We should focus on communicating with the postgraduate students one by one, talking about the institutions that apply for the exam, the progress of the review, insisting on encouragement, combining work and rest, talking about correcting the mentality, getting rid of the burden, understanding the psychological changes of the students on the way to the postgraduate review, and facing it calmly with a full attitude. Students who don't take the postgraduate entrance examination talk about employment, whether they are preparing to take an examination of civil servants, institutions, or working in state-owned enterprises or central enterprises, talk about employment status, information collection, job preparation and interview skills, talk about agreement signing and career development, and steadily promote "early preparation, early interview and early signing".
For freshmen, it is mainly about how to plan their four-year study and growth in university, how to achieve their growth goals, how to plant realistic and feasible dream seeds, how to study in university, how to cultivate civilization, how to expand their abilities, how to realize their self-worth, how to discuss and communicate through theme class meetings, how to write their experiences and further extend the conversation.
For sophomores and juniors, the focus is on the cultivation of professional quality, talking about self-discipline in learning and autonomy in growth, talking about attitudes and actions in the face of invention patents, three-innovation competitions, academic competitions and thesis projects, talking about how to further enhance core competitiveness, postgraduate entrance examination or employment, and talking about how to become what you expect, gaps and changes.
Naturally, when talking with students, counselors have to adhere to the combination of sexual problems and personality problems, academic priorities and growth hotspots, and the combination of loving schools and civilized development education, so that heart-to-heart talks become "zero distance" contact with classmates and become a platform for educational practice and two-way interaction, thus talking about the effect.
Counselors talk with students, and students often ask, "What is the teacher's intention to talk to me? Is it criticism or understanding the situation? " It is also very important to do enough work before the conversation. Find the starting point of conversation, suit the remedy to the case, focus on inspiration and encouragement, express trust, focus on solving problems, express concern, encourage when you succeed, help when you are wronged, point out the direction when you are confused, and help you adjust when you are confused. A heart-to-heart talk that seems normal to counselors may affect a student's career development.
Of course, counselors also have many skills in heart-to-heart, such as flexible and diverse places for heart-to-heart, relaxed and pleasant atmosphere for heart-to-heart, being good at listening, encouraging students, and of course paying attention to the principles of confidentiality, fairness and gradual progress. Some should come straight to the point, some should be innuendo, some should be rational, and some should be straightforward. Only in this way can we get to know the students better, truly enter the students, "feel the pulse" for their development problems, "prescribe medicine" for their intractable diseases, and "charge" for their youth growth.
We should care for every student with our heart, combine heart-to-heart talk with psychological counseling, combine solving practical problems with solving ideological problems, listen to students' voices, solve problems for them in time, and truly become life mentors and bosom friends on the road of students' growth.