After years of research, Napoleon Hill discovered that some people are born with the ability to use the PMA golden rule, making it the driving force for success. While some people must learn to use this motivation, in general people can cultivate and develop a positive attitude.
So, how do you cultivate and develop your own PMA?
Napoleon Hill made it clear that if you want to fully cultivate and develop your PMA, you must do this:
Your words and actions must be consistent with the person you hope to be. Same
It is not difficult to find that many people always wait until they have a positive feeling before taking action. It is obvious that these people are actually putting the cart before the horse.
Positive actions will definitely lead to positive thinking, and positive thinking will lead to a positive attitude towards life. Mentality is closely related to action. If a person starts with a negative mentality and waits for feelings to lead him to action, he will never have a positive mentality.
You must have a winning and positive attitude
A winning and positive attitude is one of the indispensable conditions for your success. Carnegie has long said: "A person who has complete control over his own heart will also have absolute control over everything else that he is entitled to."
When you start to use positivity When you have a positive mindset and see yourself as a winner, you begin to succeed.
You can never just sow a few seeds of optimism and expect to get something for nothing. You must also keep watering those seeds, building soil and fertilizing the seedlings. If you miss any step, the weeds of negative attitude will overgrow, depriving the soil of your growth of nutrients, and eventually cause your successful crops to wither and die.
As the Bible, Chapter 4, Verse 8 of Philippians says: “Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good report, if If there is any virtue, if there is any praise, you must consider these things."
You must infect others with good feelings and goals
Because your actions and mentality are becoming increasingly positive. , you will have a good feeling about life and life, and your confidence will double. Not only that, but your sense of purpose will grow stronger.
Soon, others will be attracted to you. It is well known that people tend to like to be around positive people.
So, you should use this kind of positive response from others to develop positive relationships and help others gain this positive attitude.
You must make everyone who knows you feel that you are important
In daily life, each of us has a common but often ignored mentality, that is, feeling Understand your own importance and the need and gratitude of others for you. This is the core of what is called self-awareness.
If you can satisfy this mentality of other people, they will have a positive attitude towards themselves and you, and thus form a situation where you are good and I am good and everyone is good.
Emerson once said sincerely:
“One of the most beautiful compensations in life is that when people sincerely help others, they also help themselves.”
Another benefit of making others feel important is that it, in turn, makes you feel important.
Usually, how you treat others is how others will treat you.
The following story is a good illustration of this issue, and I believe you will be inspired by it.
This story is about two different people going to the same city. The first person arrived at a gas station on the outskirts of the city and asked a gas station employee: "How are the people in this city?"
The gas station employee asked back: "Where did you live before? How are the people in that city?"
The first person replied: "They are very unrealistic and difficult to get along with."
After hearing what he said, the employee said. : "The same goes for people in this city."
Soon, the second man came to the same gas station and asked the same question as the first man.
After hearing what he said, the employee asked him the same question: "How are the people in the city where you used to live?"
The second man replied with a smile: "They Fantastic, very warm and welcoming.
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Immediately, the employee said happily: “You will find the same feeling in our city.” ”
Obviously, the second person knows how to treat others and yourself. Your attitude towards others is directly proportional to their attitude towards you.
You must always be mindful Gratitude
In our daily lives, those with an NMA mentality often complain and are often dissatisfied with worldly affairs and relationships. They either blame others or blame others. For example: parents complain that their children do not Children complain that their parents don’t understand them; their boyfriends complain that their girlfriends are not gentle and considerate enough, and their girlfriends complain that their boyfriends are not generous enough. In our work, leaders often complain that their subordinates do not work hard enough, while subordinates complain that their superiors lack kindness.
There is no doubt that these people have only complaints about life, but no gratitude.
Napoleon Hill tells us that if you cry often, you cannot see the stars. .
Because of this, you must be grateful for all the beautiful things in life and nature. In this way, life will appear much better to you than it seems to you.
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I don’t know who has said this: A girl cried because she had no shoes until she saw a person without feet.
There are many things in the world that you often do not cherish. What you have around you, you will regret it when you lose it
You should learn to praise others
In interactions between people, praising each other appropriately will strengthen you. A harmonious, warm and beautiful feeling.
Shakespeare once said: "Praise is the sunshine that shines on the human heart." Without sunlight, we cannot grow. "
Psychologist William Giles also said: "What human nature desires most is to be recognized and praised by other people. ”
When you praise others, the value of your existence is also affirmed, and your praise of others gives you a sense of accomplishment that is not easy to come by.
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In fact, in order to live up to your praise, he or she who is praised by you will do his or her best in the aspects that are praised.
Because of this, praise has a kind of quality. Incredible driving force. Your sincere praise to others will nourish their souls like a spring in the desert. It is difficult for me to find that many outstanding singers or athletes can achieve great success in their respective professional fields. Most of the reasons for their achievements are that they were praised for their outstanding performance in their early struggles, which inspired a sense of self-confidence and motivation and then unleashed their potential.
In your life and work. , should also be like this, replace criticism with encouragement, use praise to stimulate the inner motivation of others, so that they can consciously overcome their shortcomings and make up for their shortcomings. Gradually, you will find that this method is more effective than blaming and complaining. More. This will make people have a positive attitude and create a harmonious atmosphere, which will have a very positive impact on career success and happiness in life.
And, some. Sometimes you will be surprised to find that while bringing the joy of praise to others, you also share a rare joy and joy of life.
You should learn to smile
<. p>Smile is a pleasant expression, it is a patent given to each of us by God.When you face a smiling person, you will feel his confidence. , at the same time, this kind of confidence and friendliness will also infect you, making you unconsciously feel confident and friendly, so that you can get closer to the other person.
Smiling is a profound body language. When you smile, you are saying: “Hello, friend! I am happy to see you and feel happy to be with you. ”
Your smile can encourage others’ confidence, shorten the distance between people, and eliminate misunderstandings and unfamiliarity.
Of course, your smile must be sincere , from the heart. There is a British proverb that goes like this: A good face is equivalent to a letter of introduction.
If you want to develop good relationships and develop a positive attitude, you must learn to smile.
You must collect the best and latest ideas at any time
People with a PMA mentality can often collect better and newer ideas at any time. With the latest and best ideas, people with a positive attitude can increase their potential for success.
The French romantic writer Victor Hugo once said: "Nothing is more powerful than a well-timed idea."
Some people always think that a good idea is just Geniuses can figure out that, in fact, good ideas come from a good attitude, not ability.
For an open-minded and creative person, wherever there is an idea, he will go there. In the process of looking for ideas, he will not easily throw away the spark of an idea until he has a thorough understanding of the possible advantages and disadvantages of the idea.
As we all know, Thomas Edison was a great inventor. However, you may not know that some of his outstanding inventions were born just when he was thinking about unsuccessful inventions one after another and trying to find other uses for these unsuccessful inventions.
You should know how to give up those trivial and disdainful things
Achieved people will never waste time on those trivial and disdainful things, because these small things will make them deviate from themselves The main goals and key things in life and beyond.
Obviously, if a person is too focused or even overreacts to a trivial matter of great importance, then his or her interest or overreaction is not just a matter of making a fuss; The consequences will be unimaginably catastrophic and tragic.
In 1654, the Swedes went to war with the Poles for no other reason than this: In an official document, the King of Sweden discovered that there were only two additional titles after his name, while the King of Poland had three. Additional title.
About 900 years ago, a war swept across Europe just because of a quarrel over a barrel.
The cause of the famous war between Britain and France in history was that someone accidentally splashed water from two glasses on the head of the Marquis of Tolet.
A little boy threw pebbles at the Duke of Gruys, which actually brought about the tragic Vasi Massacre and the 30-year war to many Europeans.
There are many other major events in history such as this that were caused by a trivial event.
Of course, it is not that each of us will cause a war because of a trivial matter, but we can certainly make the people around us unhappy because of a trivial matter.
You must remember that no matter how angry you are, your state of mind will be different.
You have to develop a spirit of dedication
Albert Schweizer, who was both a doctor and a missionary, had worked in Africa for many years. During his long-term work, he realized He realized that the greatest contribution a person with a positive attitude can make is to give to others. He said: "The purpose of life is to serve others and to show the passion and willingness to help others."
Harry Bliss was a former Chairman of the American General Flour Company, he once advised his salesmen: "Forget about your sales tasks and concentrate on what services you can bring to others."
He said: "I tell us Salesmen, if you think like this when you start work every morning: I want to help as many people as possible today, rather than I want to sell as many products as possible today, they will find an easier way to deal with buyers. A more open approach will lead to better performance. Whoever feels pleasure and accomplishment in helping others has achieved the highest level of salesmanship.”
Perhaps, Bliss saw it very well. Understand that when people focus on serving others, they immediately become more energetic, powerful, and irresistible.
Who can say no to a person who does his best to help him solve his problems?
Obviously, in Bliss's eyes, giving to others has become a way of life.
Of course, at this moment or here, when you give, you cannot predict the positive results of giving. However, at that time or place, the positive consequences may be unexpected.
Napoleon Hill once told a story about being helpful:
One day, Sathud Sundar Singh and a traveling companion were crossing a pass in the Himalayas. Then I found a man lying on the snow, frozen.
Singer wanted to stop and help the man, but his companion said: "If we take him as a burden, our lives will be in danger."
However, he left It seemed unbelievable to Sardu Sundar Singh that this man should die in the ice and snow.
So when his traveling companion said goodbye to him, Singer picked up the man and put him on his back. He carried the man forward with all his strength. Slowly, Singer's body temperature warmed the frozen body. The man came to life. It didn't take long for the two to move forward side by side.
However, what they did not expect was that when they caught up with Singh's companion, they found that he had frozen to death.
In this story, Singer willingly gave his life to another person, but instead allowed himself to save his own life. On the contrary, his companion who only cared about himself ended up losing his life.
You always have to believe that anything is possible
For a person with a PMA mentality, there is never anything that is impossible.
First of all, you have to think that you can, that you can do anything. In this world, nothing is impossible for you, and you must establish such confidence.
Have this confidence that you can do anything, then try and try again, and finally you will find that you can indeed do it.
As for making the impossible possible, Napoleon Hill once used a strange method to build this confidence in himself.
When he was young, Napoleon Hill had a strong desire for the profession of writer. However, to achieve this goal, he knew that he must be good at choosing words and sentences, and sentences would be his tools.
His family was very poor at that time, so naturally the education he received was limited. Therefore, a well-meaning friend told him that his idea was unrealistic and "impossible" to be realized.
However, Napoleon Hill did not believe what his friend said. He believed that nothing in this world was impossible for him.
So he went to the largest bookstore and bought a most powerful and beautiful dictionary. In his consciousness, the tools he wants to use as a writer, that is, all the words he needs, are in this dictionary, and his will is to fully understand and master these words. However, when he opened the dictionary, he did something very surprising.
He first found the word "impossible", then cut it out with small scissors and threw it away. Finally, he had a dictionary without "impossible".
From then on, he based his entire career on the premise that anything is possible for a person who wants to develop and surpass others.
The implications of Napoleon Hill's story are obvious. Of course, it doesn’t mean that you have to cut out the word “impossible” from your dictionary. It means that you remove this concept from your mind. After reading this story, I hope you will never mention this "impossibility" in your conversations, or exclude it from your thoughts, remove it from your attitude, abandon it, and never mention it again. Give it every reason to exist.
Here, we tell you once again, stop using "impossible" to make any excuses, abandon this word and this concept forever, and replace it with "possible" full of sunshine and hope. It’s impossible”!
Here we can tell you another story about making the impossible possible.
Tom Temple was a born disabled man with only half a foot and a deformed right hand. However, his parents were not depressed and never made him feel uneasy about his disability.
The result is that with their encouragement and help, little Dumpson can do things that other healthy boys can do. For example, if other children can walk 10 miles, then little Tom can do the same. Can walk 10 miles. Later, he began to learn to play football. After a while, when he was playing with other children, he was surprised to find that he could kick the ball as far as them.
This enhanced his self-confidence. He asked someone to make a special shoe for him and took part in the kicking test. In the end, he was qualified as a player of the Charge.
However, the Chargers coach told him as tactfully as possible that he "didn't have the qualifications to be a professional football player" and encouraged him to try something else.
Unwilling to admit defeat, Dumpson applied to join the New Orleans Saints again and asked the coach to give him a chance. Although the Saints coach was a little skeptical, he took a liking to the kid when he saw how confident he was, so he accepted him.
Two weeks later, the Saints coach took another look at him when he kicked a 55-yard score in a friendly.
This was an unforgettable moment for coaches, teammates, referees and everyone present. The stadium was filled with 66,000 fans. The ball was on the 28-yard line, with only a few seconds left in the game. The team pushed the ball to the 45-yard line, but by this time it could be said that there was no time.
"Dumpson, come in and play." The coach said loudly.
When Tom entered the field, he knew that his team was 55 yards away from the goal line, which was kicked by the Bartley Stallions' Bit Rich.
The ball was passed well. Dumpson kicked the ball with all his strength and the ball went straight forward.
However, can this ball save the team from defeat? The fans in the audience held their breath.
Then the referee on the terminal scoring line raised his hands, scored 3 points, and the ball passed a few inches above the goal crossbar.
In the end, Tom's team won 19-17.
Boiling, they cheered for this last goal, which was also the farthest goal. You know, it was kicked by a player with only half a foot and a deformed hand!
"It's unimaginable." Someone shouted.
However, in the face of the impressive results, Dumpson just smiled. He thought of his parents. They had always told him what he could do, not what he could not do.
Dumpson's performance made him a Saints player.
In the following season, he scored 99 points for his team. The reason why he created such an amazing record is, as he himself said: "They never told me what I couldn't do."
Through Dumpson's experience, you can know that you should never be negative. Thinking that nothing is possible.