The idea of changing my introverted personality began in middle school. At first, I tried to be humorous by imitating my classmates around me. I can say something funny to make everyone feel interesting, but later this attempt failed, because I didn't have the courage to say too much at first. Secondly, I don't know how to talk about reasonable and interesting topics. Later, I tried to force myself to actively communicate with others through sales. Although this method is sometimes a little painful in the process, the effect is still there. I'm really a little bolder, and I talk to people a little more, but I'm only a little better than before, and I haven't really become an extrovert.
As an introverted person, I often have a sense of inferiority, because I don't have the self-confidence like Kan Kan, the glib mouth like others, and the popularity like extroversion, so I always feel bad about myself and think that my introversion is a defect. Although I have never admitted it on the surface or in my mouth, I have always looked at myself like this and positioned myself like this. Later, as I grew older, I also experienced many things and people. Then, after I got married and had my own children, I began to gradually let go of this self-admission defect and accept myself. I find that after I put down my obsession and look at my introverted personality in a different way of thinking, my communication with others is more natural, smooth and comfortable, so I hope that every introverted person can make himself better while accepting and recognizing himself.
When I was a child, I was an extrovert. I am very naughty. When I was in the second grade, I took my classmates to the Internet cafe and chased my brother. Playing with classmates is definitely the core figure. There is no one in the class who doesn't know me. I wrote a love letter to a girl in my class when I was a child. As a result, the whole school knew about it and made a joke. The other key parent is still my makeup teacher. I was really embarrassed to see her [covering her face].
I don't know when I will become more and more introverted when I grow up. I seldom talk to people and family. I worked as a study committee member in high school for one year, studied art and painting, and even called home only three times a year when I was in college (I didn't make the call on my own initiative).
Now I'm introverted and I'm doing sales in a company, so I'm tired of [covering my face] ....
Let me talk about me. Not in life. When I was a child, it was a single-parent family. My mother brought it up. My mother went to work with her grandparents. My mother had an accident in those years. Then grandma and grandpa take turns working to make money. 20 16 grandpa had a heart attack again. I was very outgoing when I was young. Then slowly introverted. Then I'm outgoing now. I don't know what to say. I know I want to cry, but I can't. Answer the question first, and turn from introversion to extroversion. From my life experience, I can only say two things like this. Introversion is innate. This kind of extroverted person may have experienced love, so sweet, beautiful and happy things have become extroverted and cheerful. The other is being beaten and becoming introverted. For example, the departure of relatives and bankruptcy. Something that is not beautiful. So introverted. This extrovert should have experienced extreme pain. I'm almost numb. I figured it out. I'm mature There is also an extroversion, which is actually an introversion. I haven't experienced it, so I can't draw a conclusion. Besides, the above are all personal opinions.
Psychologically, is it possible for an introvert to become an extrovert? What does it take to be an extrovert?
I think it's possible. What do you need to experience?
First of all, introversion: it often means that you look reticent, your feelings are not exposed, and you are easy to feel inferior; Extroversion: It usually means looking lively, sociable and probably confident.
Secondly, before changing, I think before thinking about changing, we should first face up to a problem, that is, "a leopard cannot change his spots." Psychologically speaking, the temperament type of a person's birth first occupies a part, and then there are growth environment, heredity, social environment and so on, which affect a person's growth into an introverted person. Therefore, extroversion will never happen overnight. It is important to think clearly why you want to change, to be firm, to be patient with yourself, and to be psychologically prepared for long-term changes.
Next, I think the way to change health is:
The first step (and the most important step) is to establish a mentality: accept yourself and have confidence in change.
On the basis of accepting your introversion, face up to the advantages and disadvantages of introversion and extroversion. These are just two parallel personalities. There is no difference between good and bad. Just keep your mind at peace. Since my personality is gradually formed, I also believe that I can become extroverted in the practice of my later life. As the saying goes, human feelings are learned.
The second step is to change the social environment and lifestyle.
At work, try to do some sales and consulting services, in short, put yourself in an environment that needs to communicate with others to shape yourself; In life, on the one hand, I take part in some social activities and let myself go out, such as signing up for interest classes, taking part in some group activities in my spare time and actively punching cards for communication. On the other hand, make friends with people who are extroverted, open-minded and cheerful.
The third step is to absorb the obvious characteristics of extroverts and change their lifestyles.
Communicate with others and learn to send positive messages. For example, be modest, equal and respectful, listen to each other with interest, smile more, open your heart, try to express your thoughts and feelings with a positive attitude and give positive feedback. Try to change the past slightly quiet, feelings are not exposed. If you are worried, you can think more. Which one looks more approachable than reticence in the crowd? It must be the former that is more likely.
The fourth step is to get along with others, get to know others actively and sincerely, and reflect on what topics they can talk about more.
Know more about others and make friends with others. In active communication, if you find that you are the main speaker and the other party can't connect, you should realize it immediately and learn to reflect and stop. Take the initiative to find out what topics the other person is interested in and discuss them as much as possible. Some people say that this will not appear hypocritical? In fact, this kind of active understanding and getting along with others urges us to pay more attention to and learn the knowledge that different people are interested in in in our daily life, which not only enriches our knowledge, but also slowly cultivates our habit of active learning. It also makes you collide with different sparks of thought when you get along with others, and become interesting and talkative in a subtle way. Invisibility is growing, so why not!
People who want to change their introverted personality, the best time to change is to go back to when they were born, followed by now. As long as you are willing to make positive changes, you will gradually become extroverted. What does it matter even if you have difficulties at first?
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Environmental factors.
Introverts basically have an unforgettable childhood. /kloc-before the age of 0/0, people's personality is basically stereotyped, which will determine the child's life.
There are many environmental factors:
1, a single-parent family, a child who grew up in a single-parent family or a child who lacks paternal love and maternal love, will easily feel inferior when watching others with their parents, and will not talk for a long time. Many children of this age are divorced from their parents, and they are originally cheerful and give a dull impression;
2. Reorganize the family. When children in this type of family see that their parents and stepfather or stepmother have another child of their own, it is easy to get estranged in their hearts and think that they are redundant. Such an environment will also cause children to feel inferior;
3, left-behind children, such children are either fostered in relatives' homes or brought by grandparents. Foster children live in unfamiliar environments, and they will feel dependent on others psychologically, and they will be afraid that they will do something wrong to make relatives and families unhappy; Grandparents take their children, lack their parents' company, and look at other children who have parents to pick them up and drop them off, which makes them feel inferior psychologically, especially the parents' meeting, and they don't even want their grandparents to attend, so the phenomenon of left-behind children is most likely to cause introverted emotions;
4. Parents' education methods. Some parents expect their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. They blindly ask their children to get good grades. They have no other entertainment activities except learning to make up classes, and even criticize their children's poor grades in public. Compared with other children, the stronger the child's resistance, the more he should be above the child. He never gives the child a chance to explain and always follows his parents' ideas. Such children will always be like this, not only introverted, but also autistic, and even have.
5, school education, which is similar to family. One thing is that teachers divide children into three grades, six grades and nine grades in order to motivate them to learn. Occasionally, bad grades are also scored. I hope I can get on the next exam and deliberately isolate these poor students among my classmates. Children with poor grades tend to be withdrawn and feel inferior; The other is the school bullying incident. Improper school education, paying little attention to children's off-campus life, and lack of ideological education. They think fighting is a common occurrence for children. Some children are threatened and blackmailed and dare not report it. Over time, it not only causes introversion, but also produces a series of psychological diseases such as fear and depression.
Therefore, the reason for introversion is caused by the growth environment when I was a child. People with this personality should have a clear understanding of the reasons for their introversion, find out the root causes of weakness, and strive to change. The more afraid they are, the more they should exercise here. When you can take this first step, your heart will be much easier.
First of all, I want to emphasize here that there is nothing wrong with introversion. Compared with extroverts, introverts also have many advantages. However, in real life, people seem to misunderstand introverts, thinking that introverts are conservative, shy, taciturn, withdrawn and have few friends, and so on. It seems that such a person is not easy to succeed. In fact, this is only some external manifestations of some introverts, not all of them, and many successful people are introverts.
Introverts have a rich inner world. Most of them are not good at talking, but it is because they are not good at talking that they have more time and opportunities for independent thinking. Introverts are practical, careful, thoughtful and profound in analysis, all of which are their advantages. So there is nothing wrong with being an introvert. I hope extroverts don't have prejudice against them.
A person's personality has long been influenced by family education, family background, personal experience, living environment and other factors, and it is difficult to change under normal circumstances. If introverts want to become extroverts, I have some suggestions for your reference.
If you live with the lame, you will learn to limp. Personality among people will also influence each other. If you associate with extroverts for a long time, you will become more cheerful. In fact, every personality has its own advantages and disadvantages. With extroverts, you can learn from each other. At the same time, extroverts will learn from introverts, so introverts will find their own advantages and become more confident and talkative.
Introverts are not sociable, but participating in group activities forces them to communicate with others. Talking with people of various personalities for a long time can make them cheerful and talkative. The more you are in public, the more you should boldly stand up and introduce yourself and show yourself, which will make you more and more confident.
If you only think that sales are suitable for extroverts and introverts are not suitable for sales, then you are all wet. Many excellent salespeople are introverts. Introverts often give people a sense of reliability and sincerity, and it is easier to gain the trust of each other. Frequent sales will make you have to communicate with others. After a long time, you will become cheerful and handle interpersonal relationships with ease.
Introversion and extroversion of personality are determined by genes, so it is difficult to reverse. What we can do is not to turn introverted personality into extroversion, but how to change the unfavorable factors of introversion. In this way, although you are introverted, you can still express yourself and realize yourself.
Introverts are often not good at communication. The reason is that introverts tend to pay more attention to themselves, which is called spotlight effect in psychology. They are afraid of poor performance, and the more afraid they are, the more unnatural they are. Therefore, in some communication places, it is difficult for us to see people who are introverted and enjoy it.
As long as introverts can find problems and improve, most of them will be overcome. Another point is that introverts are very observant, which extroverts can't match, especially their ability to observe subtle things, or what we often say is that they have a natural advantage in insight. In the end, whether introverted or extroverted, the ultimate goal is to be able to fully express yourself, live high.
People's personality can be changed!
In a specific environment, changing different characteristics and adapting to the environment is not only the patent of chameleon, but also the patent of every creature in nature! After staying in a certain environment for a long time, people who are afraid at first will become adaptive and gradually adapt to this environment.
Personality is not static, but changes with the change of environment. An extrovert who enters a group of introverts will become at a loss. After a long time, he is no longer cheerful. By the same token, an introverted person, when entering an extroverted environment, will gradually be deeply influenced by it and become cheerful and lively.
The change of personality doesn't have to go through anything significant.
It is difficult for a person to change, but for an introverted person, it is often easy to make up your mind to change. Because introverts have their own internal mechanism, that is, concentration, focusing on changing personality, it will become easy enough. This is the advantage of introverts.
For an introverted person, if he wants to adapt to the environment, he must make up his mind. Once an introvert makes up his mind, he will certainly achieve his goal. Through reading, sports, travel, etc. You can gradually become knowledgeable and then become different.
Hello, friend. The following is the note of an old friend of the counselor. I'm happy to answer your question.
In my friend's questions, I felt some dissatisfaction with my present situation.
In other words, introversion doesn't have to be changed. "What will make you extroverted" is like saying "I am too bad now", "I don't like who I am now" and "I want to change, I want to change".
I think anyone can accurately define this attitude towards themselves as "self-denial".
How important is a person's attitude towards himself?
For example, I am a slightly introverted person, so I will be a little embarrassed in front of people.
It is normal to be embarrassed because of introversion. However, under the influence of "self-denial", this normal and uncomfortable constraint only gives us the strength of 1, but it increases the negative impact of strength 5.
And "self-denial" is our attitude towards ourselves. We can't be as far away from ourselves as we are from the crowd, so the influence based on "self-denial" will always accompany us.
Therefore, if we want to change something, we should at least do it under the right pressure, that is to say, we should accept ourselves, so that the artificial pressure will be much less and we can start a better change.
From rejection to acceptance, this is the first step of change.
And the next thing is actually very simple, such as:
1, enrich your inner self;
2. enrich your speech;
3. Manage your own image;
4. Improve your self-confidence;
5. Show your truth, and so on.
The reason why most friends are always difficult to change is that the first step is not good.
Thank you, my friend, for reading. I hope my answer will help you see the real world clearly. Best wishes.
I can change, and I know how to change, but I'm still quite introverted. You must force yourself to be forced to socialize frequently. For example, my previous job was dealing with people. If you talk too much, you will naturally be outgoing. Then go out to play with friends more, whether it's a normal relationship or a good relationship. You should go out whenever you have the chance. More is cheerful. Then read more positive and helpful books, which will biochemical your mind. In the end, we should improve our own strength and make ourselves excellent in all aspects of the economy. Introverts' lack of self-confidence is also the cause of introversion. Finally, there are always people who like you and people who don't like you. When you become a star, there will always be black powder to scold you, so never lose yourself and don't care about everyone's opinions. I am me, a fireworks with different colors. Just be yourself. Let's go I am also an introvert who tries to change.