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1. Family ties are strong, and strangers are less trusted
A socio-economic study published in 28 shows that people who are closer to their relatives are less likely to trust strangers. Scientists engaged in this research also pointed out that the experimental method they designed can prove that the relationship between the two is not only positive correlation, but also causality.
In other words, the relationship between a person and his parents and family will affect our motivation and attitude towards strangers. The closer we are to our family, the less we trust strangers.
2. The older you get, the more you love your family.
A psychological study published in 27 shows that among adults, young people will show stronger positive feelings about the relationship with new friends, while older people will show stronger positive feelings about the relationship with their families. In other words, the older we are, the stronger our feelings for our family will be.
3. It's all because of his mother
Freud said that all the interpersonal relationships in a person's life are determined by his relationship with his mother when he was young. This is Freud's theory, but he has not verified it. Now, scientists have finally done a long-term follow-up experiment, and guess what?
Freud was right: the relationship between an 18-month-old baby and his mother can predict the relationship between this person and his spouse, colleagues and friends more than 2 years later. The less he was cared for by his mother as an infant, the more anxious and uncomfortable he became about interpersonal relationships as an adult. So don't ignore the baby's needs as a child.
4. You've heard the saying that a mother's IQ affects a child's IQ
, but is it true? It's true. According to scientists' research, there are thousands of factors that affect a person's IQ, but the most important one is mother's IQ.
But parents should not be nervous. Scientific research also finds that IQ has little influence on people. A high IQ has nothing to do with whether a person has good grades, excellent work, great achievements, a happy marriage, many friends, or even being a good parent to teach their children well.
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5. Your taste in music comes from your parents
A social science study published in 211 showed that teenagers' preference for music is directly related to their parents' preference, in other words, our taste in music will be passed down from generation to generation.
Of course, there are also many other factors that affect a person's taste in music, such as education, parents' income and so on. One of the findings in this study is very interesting. If parents like rock music, this preference will only affect their daughters, but not their sons.
6. Fathers influence daughters' views on mate selection
More than one scientific study has confirmed that the relationship between daughters and their fathers in the process of growing up will profoundly affect her choice of spouses in the future. A woman with a close and positive relationship between father and daughter in her childhood will find a man like her father attractive; Women who have a negative relationship between father and daughter in childhood will subconsciously avoid men like their fathers when they grow up. This influence is also obvious in a woman's taste in men's looks.
Research shows that what kind of handsome men women think is not simply determined by the sum of all the male looks they see in life. Women will construct their own "handsome men" through the looks of their close male elders. A woman who had a good relationship with her father when she was a child will think that her father's man is the most beautiful when she grows up.
7. Parents' love for their children is not equal.
There is more than one child in the family, and parents love each one equally? Unfortunately, even though almost all parents will deny it, more than one scientific study shows that 65% of mothers and 7% of fathers have a favorite child, and this child is often the boss.
In addition, mothers prefer older sons and fathers prefer younger daughters. Other studies have found that the more beautiful child is often favored. Moreover, the more a child looks like his father, the more he loves him.
8. "Evil stepmother" is not a myth
Do you think that Cinderella's evil stepmother is just a fairy tale? Do you think that today, everyone's acceptance of complex families has increased, and the stepmother has become a good one?
wrong, wrong, wrong. Social scientists have rich research results that can tell you that in a family with a stepmother or stepfather, the probability of child abuse is seven times higher than that of a family with biological parents, and the mortality rate of children is 1 times higher. This phenomenon has a term in sociology, which is called "TheCinderellaEffect", and there are profound reasons behind it in evolutionary psychology.
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9. Bosses with daughters are different < P > Judges with daughters will be different from judges without daughters in sentencing, especially if the relevant cases are related to gender (such as gender discrimination and sexual harassment); And if the CEO of a company has a daughter, the company will pay higher wages to female employees. Does that sound interesting? This is not a rumor, but a conclusion drawn by sociologists after years of data collection and analysis.
1. "Preference for boys over girls" is also common in western society.
"Preference for boys" is not our patent, and there is also a preference for boys in western society. A study based on big data published by western researchers in 28 shows that the first child is a daughter's family, and they are more willing to continue to have children.
among unmarried pregnant women, if they have a daughter in their bellies, they are often single when they give birth; If you are pregnant with a boy, you are often married to the father at the time of delivery.
Couples who have daughters are more likely to divorce than those who have sons. Divorced fathers are more willing to get custody of their sons than their daughters. When each phenomenon exists alone, there can be other explanations, but when these phenomena exist at the same time, the researchers believe that this can only show that sons are more preferred.
11. The food we give our dogs is the healthiest
Studies have found that dog owners often buy healthier food for their dogs than for themselves. However, if you keep people instead of dogs, the result is just the opposite.
The food parents buy for their children is often not as healthy as the food they eat for themselves, that is, children often eat more unhealthy food than their parents.
parents, think quickly, is it true?