During the long summer vacation, in addition to arranging children's activities, children are also testing the bottom line from time to time to test the patience of being a mother. How to be a good parent easily in the tedious daily life? Recently, there is a simple positive parenting method on the Internet. There are no tools except five rubber bands.
Recently, Amazon Online Bookstore developed a five-star education and healing book named Happy You, Happy Family. Author Kelly Holmes introduced "Five Rubber Band Magic" in her blog "Ideal Mom", aiming at teaching mothers to change their unconscious bad habits and improve parent-child relationship. This post caused a great response, not only the click rate exceeded 500,000, but also many mothers and netizens were spreading their excellent practical experience.
In an exclusive interview with parents, Holmes pointed out that the "five rubber bands magic" is a self-reminding method that can be visually observed at any time in life, and it has been tried and tested. The method is simple. As long as you wear five ordinary rubber bands on your left wrist every day, once you are angry with your child, you should move one of the rubber bands from your left wrist to your right wrist.
The remedy is "1 to 5 rule". If you can do five more positive things to your child, you can move the rubber band back to your left hand. The goal is to put five rubber bands on your left wrist as much as possible in one day.
Holmes believes that the main reason for family confusion and impatience with children lies in many casual bad habits, such as always treating children in a strict tone, making them unwilling to cooperate and their relationship tense.
Research shows that 40% of people's behavior is dominated by habits. The three elements of habit formation include: finding obvious hints, linking hints with behavior, and setting methods and goals of self-reward. As long as we know how habits are formed, we can use the basic formula of habits to create a new habit to improve parent-child relationship. The five rubber bands on the wrist are an obvious "hint" and a powerful tool to examine the interaction with children at the end of the day.