Moms often say these 4 sentences: Boys will become better and better
1. "It’s different if you have a son or not."
A mother, because I am afraid of the neighbor’s big dog and follows my husband every time he comes home. Later, her husband went abroad to work, and she didn’t dare to go upstairs, so her son said, “Mom, it’s okay! Don’t be afraid, I’m here.” When we went upstairs, the dog barked fiercely. Although the son was trembling with fear, he still protected her. Behind her. She sighed sincerely: It’s different if you have a son or not! After hearing this, the son looked proud and gradually became more courageous.
In this way, the mother seized the opportunity to say this to her son. In just one sentence, my son gradually transformed from a timid little boy who was afraid of the dark, crying and quarrelsome, to a little man. The period between 6 and 13 years old is when a boy tries to become a man. "It's different if you have a son or not." It seems simple. But it indirectly inspired the boy's sense of responsibility and value.
2. "Why do you do this? What do you think?"
Four inventions have obtained national patents. Wen Fan has been a "destructive" boy since he was a child. Once, his mother spent two months' salary to buy a radio that he dismantled after only a few days of use. When her mother found out, she didn't lose her temper or blame him. , but asked him: "What do you think? Can you tell your mother?" Wen Fan replied: "I want to see how my aunt sings in it. "All along, no matter what trouble Wen Fan gets into, his mother will first listen to his ideas, affirm his whimsical ideas, and then accompany him to fix things.
His curiosity and innovative thinking, Because of this, they have been well protected, and they have created inventions that have won national patents again and again. After all, if something is broken, it can be repaired. The child's curiosity is suppressed, so the boy is dismantling it again. When "home", parents should not rush to label him as "naughty". They might as well squat down and ask him: "What do you think?"
3. "About XX, what can you do?" Are you there?
"Don't run! Stop fighting! Stop making trouble! Can you please stop for a moment..." The mothers were already shouting, but the boys were still running around. Mom. The more you stop it, the more excited the boy will be. How to stop the boy's bad behavior? The writer Yu Dad once gave a good solution to replace negative forbidden words with positive instructions, and finally added: "Can you do it? ?”.
For example: “You need to keep quiet in public places, can you do it?” When playing games, you can’t roll on the ground or hit people, can you do it? This kind of speaking skills will not only allow boys to experience the fun of challenges, but also help them build confidence in completing tasks.
4. "I found..."
An educator said: When a child grows up, girls need more love, while boys need more encouragement. When a boy's handwriting is crooked, you can pick out the one that writes best. Use your words to affirm him: "I found that every stroke of your word is very correct. When a boy gets only 1 question out of 10, you can say: I found this question a bit difficult, but you got it right. ”
Even if the boy can’t learn, you still have to affirm him: I found that you made special efforts to think when you were studying. “I found...” The essence of this sentence , is to work hard to discover the shining points in boys, to amplify them, to give boys self-confidence, and to give boys a sense of accomplishment, so that our boys will grow up step by step.