Shen Yao, who is now a senior high school student, looks like an ordinary big boy, but he has one more special specialty than others: in the third grade, without drawing any design drawings, he personally dismantled the abandoned corrugated boxes and spent two weeks making a "Hulk Destroyer" as his toy. What's more, this set of cartons can still be worn on the body, which has attracted many media reports. Even the Minister of Education met and praised his spirit of making a maker.
In fact, Obsidian-Shen is not a smooth sailing child. The DIFFEIR EQ education graduate recalled his primary school experience: "I was bullied by relationships at first, and then I was bullied and teased, which made me almost afraid and didn't want to go to school! 」
"Before obsidian is not good at expression, there is a problem can't talk. In addition, he is depressed and doesn't know how to express his feelings. We didn't know what happened to him at first. From his expression, we think that the child loves to play, but he is bullied at school, so we hope to help him solve his current predicament. My mother told me about her children's past difficulties.
Shen Yao's mother loves her children very much, but she also firmly believes that she can't directly help them solve their problems. She must let them deal with their own problems and have the ability to resist pressure. Therefore, my mother and Shen Yao started the EQ education course with Duffel.
Obsidian, who has just arrived in Duffel's classroom, has eyes full of rejection. Because of his past experience with his peers, he is full of worry, fear and distrust. In the first class, he had a conflict with his classmates, and the other party even prepared to start work on him. After the teacher intervened to help, Yao Yao was angry and afraid, and kept saying, "It's all my fault, it's all my fault." When the conflict broke out, Obsidian couldn't express any words, and some of them were full of remorse and resentment.
"When the conflict was resolved, the teacher told me what happened and told me about Obsidian. Now I can't stop crying. I feel sorry for my children. In the face of conflict, he can't bravely claim that he is right. He can only retreat and wronged himself and put all the problems on himself. " My mother said.
Through the guidance and conversation of teacher Difeier, the mother began to know more about the real reasons behind the child's abnormal behavior, and also began to learn to help the child cope with sudden emotional situations. Similarly, children learn how to deal with their anger and express their emotions through practice again and again.
Once in a flute flying class, just after class, his mother was going to take Shen Yao home, and he had a conflict with her. Shen Yao is very angry now After the teacher took him away, he accompanied him to deal with his emotions. In retrospect, Obsidian said with a smile, "This is the most unforgettable thing for me in Duffel! I feel strange at the moment. I was so angry that I hit and bit my teacher. I'm giving up on myself now! But the teacher was not angry at all, and he was really willing to accompany me to deal with his emotions until almost twelve o'clock in the evening. That's why I found out that someone really cares about me and is willing to believe me. 」
Shen Yao also shared her own experience: "The biggest change that Feifei has given me is that I know how to stand up for myself and fight for what I want, and also let me know how to handle my feelings better. Although my skills are not very good, at least I can know what to do when my emotions are about to come out, and then face my emotions and deal with my temper. 」
In addition to cultivating children's emotional intelligence, Miao mother further shared. What's more important is to provide parents with a more objective angle to know their children, to help parents have better interaction with their children, and to see their real potential.
Shen Yao's mother said, "I think the most important thing is to communicate with the teacher every time Diffie attends class." The teacher provided me with more educational ideas, so that I could understand my children more comprehensively at the beginning and let them try all kinds of possibilities more openly. 」
At first, Shen Yao's mother was also a schoolwork-oriented parenting concept, but slowly, she began to understand that only when children find their own interests and advantages, and have the opportunity to cultivate and sprout this advantage, will they have real self-confidence, freedom and happiness. Therefore, Shen Yao's mother tried to give her children a lot of time to do painting, newspaper clippings and make things he liked since childhood.
Shen Yao's mother recalled those years: "Shen Yao often cut and pasted, and we all felt nothing special except that he did what he liked." Once, when Feifei was in class, Obsidian was waiting for me to finish talking with my teacher. He borrowed white paper from the teacher at the counter and made a three-dimensional paper doll flute by himself. At this time, the teacher saw it and quickly told me that he was very talented in space design and suggested developing in this area. So we began to fully support the development of obsidian. 」
Today's obsidian is confident and well aware of its own abilities. He can make a hulk destroyer robot that can be put on and taken off, holding a cardboard box as a material, and can move telescopically without a design drawing. Looking at Obsidian now, my mother and teachers are very happy for him and can do what they like.
Li, a lecturer in emotional intelligence education at Duffel, talked about her observation: "In the past ten years, we have met many children in different situations, including children who were in trouble at school and were asked to transfer, children who were frustrated by bullying, children who were impulsive and reckless, and even children whose parents were asked by school teachers to accompany them all the time. No matter what kind of children, we all believe in one thing, that is, "every child must have his own unique talent." "We are convinced that in this world, no child needs to be given up, and every child has his dazzling brilliance! 」?
Feifei believes that every child has his own talent, and further advises his parents: "Before raising children, forget all the rules that the world tells you. Parents should first concentrate on understanding your child and let him (her) learn to manage his (her) ability, no matter its strengths or weaknesses. Only those who can thoroughly understand and master their own abilities will have the opportunity to know how they are embedded with the world! Only in this way can we know our greatest value to the world, and then we can further display our ambitions in the world and spread our wings and fly. 」
From an almost abandoned child to a "genius of carton creation", Shen Yao's story is not a special case in Duffel. Difeier EQ Education has been established for more than 12 years, and has accompanied more than 4,000 children and parents to find the key to the future of Kids children. Through theory-based game courses and parents' growth activities, Diffier hopes to find a key to open children's hearts, a key to open children's hearts. Similarly, the child has a key in his hand, a key to the world, and a key to the world. This is also the belief of Duffel since its establishment, so that children can become the best themselves!
Difeier team first came from the Social Mind and Child Development Laboratory of Soochow University, and began to try the research and development, design and experimental teaching of children's EQ course in 2000. In September 2006, in the name of "development" in Developmental Psychology, an institution named "Duffel EQ Education" was formally established, and children's EQ education and parenting education were actively implemented, hoping to help children become "the best themselves".
More than three years ago, Difeier began to systematically modularize more than 4,000 parenting cases and developed a patented "Deep Parenting Wisdom APP". This exclusive portable parenting expert, TiaoTiao APP, can help more parents understand their children's dazzling fields, solve the mystery of parenting, let deep parenting wisdom sprout in more families, and then cultivate more confident and dazzling adults, let them play their own values and embed themselves in the world.
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