Sister Su Fen's marriage is one of them. Sister Su Fen is a distant relative of mine. When I was young, because she was beautiful and capable, she was a flower in a small town at that time and was secretly loved by many men. Many men had good family conditions. However, she chose her cousin who had nothing but a dull personality. She thought he was practical and reliable, so she married without hesitation.
After marriage, my cousin is content with the status quo and is satisfied with the life of "his wife and children are hot kangtou", while my cousin is a strong-willed woman. She watched others start a business, and her life was much better than her own, so she also started a business. At the beginning, she started a small business, and slowly made the business prosperous, and she was often too busy. When she was in urgent need of manpower, her cousin was "forced" to join her entrepreneurial camp
However, my cousin is not business material. He can't talk about business, socialize or manage the company, so as long as it is business, he will push his cousin to the front and let her kill everyone. He will hide behind his wife and be a puppet boss, taking care of the baby and taking care of the family affairs every day.
After a long time, my cousin became more and more dissatisfied with her husband. In her daily speech, she always accused him of "incompetence". Gradually, the quarrel between the two became more and more. As soon as they quarreled, my cousin had been smoking silently at home, not talking or responding, which made her even more angry.
Finally, my cousin couldn't stand it and asked for a divorce. My cousin naturally won't agree. Finally, the two went to court, and when the court mediated, the cousin complained about her husband's behavior in tears. She said that it should be a man to support the family, because the husband is weak and has to face difficulties; It should be the husband's job to create better living conditions, but he is always content with the status quo and does not seek progress; When encountering bumps and bumps outside, the husband can't stand up and solve the difficulties. He always follows things closely, minimizes the consequences, hurts himself and can't protect himself.
The cousin argued that although he couldn't help his wife outside, he kept the house in good order and didn't need his wife to worry about it at all. He is also forbearing and considerate to his wife everywhere; He also devoted himself to maintaining his family. Without his own support, his wife's business could not be so smooth. He didn't contribute to his family and worked hard. He doesn't understand why his wife is not satisfied.
Cousin scolded her husband. She is a loser, unlike a man. Cousin accused his wife, like a bitch, very arrogant, not a little feminine. The two men hugged each other and blamed each other. The mediator tried to persuade the two to understand each other from a mutual perspective, but they were noncommittal. Cousin said that she was fed up with his cowardice and left early to get rid of it. When my cousin saw his wife's attitude was so tough, he said he would leave in a fit of pique. He was fed up with her bossiness. Mediation failed, and the two eventually parted ways.
"The sword can kill all sides, and you can play the piano and rise and fall with Lang." Since ancient times, men have dominated outside and women have dominated inside. It seems that such a strong man and weak woman is the best mode of marriage and love. In real life, there are too many marriages like cousins where women are strong and men are weak. They begin with the expectation of love and marriage, but they can't stand the world and end up alone. Therefore, some people think that women are strong and men are weak, which is the death point of marriage.
But there are many exceptions.
Last year, there was a news that the post-70 s father resigned and went home to take care of the baby, which caused a heated discussion on the Internet. At that time, when I read it, I was also in awe of this man named Huang Kai. It is a great thing for a man to give up his job and return to his family completely. But Huang Kai said, "My wife is more capable of making money than me, and I have more patience to take care of my children and family."
Huang Kai used to be the manager of a foreign company. He has a 7-year-old daughter. Because there was no old man to help with the children, he resigned from his work unit on 15 and went home to be a full-time father. Doing housework, taking care of children and tutoring homework are all arranged by him. He said that if he helped his wife do things that made women crazy, she wouldn't age so fast. Seeing this, I think that Huang Kai's wife must have saved the Department of Universe in her previous life, and only married such a good husband in this life.
Face is the most useless thing in the world, but it is hard to let go. For the sake of family, a man can put down his so-called face and be a "weak" man at home, but this actually shows that he is really "strong" inside.
Making money to support the family is not a man's patent, nor is it a woman's patent to do housework and look after the children. Between husband and wife, we should understand tolerance, but also know how to complement each other, so as to maximize family interests and become the final winner.
Since ancient times, men have been housekeepers, earning money to support their families, and women have been housekeepers, managing their families diligently. This marriage combination is recognized by people's consciousness and is taken for granted. Then, this era subverted the traditional concept, and women became more and more independent outside the family. It is nothing new that women are stronger than men. Whether men are strong and women are weak, or women are strong and men are weak, in fact, it refers to the amount of income, marriage, in the final analysis, boys and girls. Live a good life, you can see my goodness and I can see yours.
My friend Xiaohui works as a deputy general manager in a private enterprise, focusing on business. Her husband is a doctor in the hospital studio. Xiaohui is busy with work and has no time. It is common to work overtime at night and spend most of the holidays. Her husband often jokes that Xiaohui has been sold by the company.
Although Xiaohui is in high spirits outside, she is a charming woman who can't even cook at home. Her husband cooked all the meals before she got married. Every time she comes home, there are delicious meals waiting for her. Sometimes when she is tired, she will spoil her husband and help her massage. Xiaohui said that no matter how difficult it is to meet outside, the thought of her husband makes her feel particularly practical and warm. Xiaohui remembers her husband's efforts. She knows that he loves fishing, and he is never stingy in buying fishing gear and never cares about buying gifts for his in-laws. As long as there is time, the whole family will mobilize, travel and enjoy family happiness.
Xiaohui's cleverness lies in her understanding that she is a little woman at home, a woman who needs her husband's protection, and a woman who takes care of her family. No matter how powerful a woman is outside, she needs a lover who can tolerate and support her. Only by understanding each other's devotion and love can marriage go smoothly and calmly.
Conclusion:
In a marriage where women are strong and men are weak, the wife should not force others to do things, let alone hurt her self-esteem, and the husband should not be weak and incompetent. Marriage is like this, mutual fulfillment, seeking common ground while reserving differences and pursuing perfection. It's never that women are strong and men are weak that destroy marriage. Only by slandering each other can love be separated.
In fact, a good marriage has no strong or weak points. Marriage is not a battlefield, there is no struggle and calculation. Husband and wife should tolerate each other, appreciate each other and work together to seek stability in the stormy weather.